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Old 12-01-2019, 05:37 AM
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Hi all
My first post. You all seem so lovely and supportive.
Day 14 for me.
I feel vulnerable - funny word I know, but there's no better one to describe how I currently feel.
I need to keep sober, I need to be accountable, so I'm in!
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Old 12-01-2019, 05:41 AM
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I get vulnerable dear Stevie.....I don't think any world could describe it better.

Welcome....so very glad you joined. us.

Welcome to all of you and hello to all of our amazing supportive SRs.

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Old 12-01-2019, 06:15 AM
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Welcome SoberStevie! Keep coming back! I’m starting day 5. One warning sign I’m watching for on this round of trying for long term sobriety is when I become complacent and stop coming to SR and stop reading and stop posting.

Also, I’ve received several comments of feedback that perhaps I have not wanted sobriety bad enough. I beg to differ, I’ve wanted it really badly....but I will be checking in with myself and my counselor about that aspect, just to cover all the possible areas of weakness.
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Old 12-01-2019, 06:18 AM
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I get upset when I hear that.....that anyone would say that to any of us.....it has been said to me too, years ago in AA....and it wasn't true.....I wanted it desperately, I just did not have a clue how to do life....I needed help. s
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Old 12-01-2019, 06:30 AM
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I get upset when I hear that.....that anyone would say that to any of us.....it has been said to me too, years ago in AA....and it wasn't true.....I wanted it desperately, I just did not have a clue how to do life....I needed help. s
Thanks venuscat....I appreciate that very much. My original feeling was well BLANK them, I don’t need this, screw off....don’t tell me what I do or don’t want....but after some gentler and open minded reflection I realized that was probably my alcoholic brain talking....and wanting me to
stop reading and posting on SR and start drinking again. Whoa...glad I caught myself on that one!! 1 for OtterIsland, 0 for alcoholism in this battle in the larger war to win!!
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Old 12-01-2019, 07:09 AM
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Venus and Otter I don't think it's as black and white as 'not wanting sobriety enough', I think that relapsing sometimes is inevitable for some of us, and we must remember that we are battling a cunning, insidious beast here, and the key is putting one step in front of the other and just keep trying. We must be vigilant and never complacent. But also, we must forgive ourselves too - and just put it behind us and try again, until it clicks.
I don't know if this time I'll succeed, goodness knows I want to with every little bit of me - if only it was as easy as ' wanting it hard enough'. We can do this, day at a time, and if we need to we can huddle on here like penguins do - to protect ourselves and others against the elements.
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Old 12-01-2019, 07:28 AM
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Exactly Stevie. Like penguins. xx

Only part I would change in my head if I was you is "I know I can succeed this time."
How does that sound?
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Old 12-01-2019, 07:37 AM
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Yes, Venus! Indeed you're right I know I can sounds sooooo much better. And I know we can better still!
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Old 12-01-2019, 08:06 AM
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Yes we can.....and we do this together. s
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Old 12-01-2019, 01:46 PM
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I’m in for a sober December. Day 1 for me.
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Old 12-01-2019, 01:58 PM
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So glad you are here dear Simplicity. ❤️
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Old 12-01-2019, 02:11 PM
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Thanks for the warm welcome venuscat
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Old 12-01-2019, 02:17 PM
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When I summoned up the bravery to join this site in Nov 12 I was very scared and ashamed and all of the emotions that we all know so well...I posted and got so overwhelmed that I logged off fast....the next day I looked and saw replies....lovely encouraging, kind replies.

I think it was the first time I believed I could survive this. s
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Old 12-01-2019, 03:43 PM
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Hello everyone. I'm back after a not very successful November. Looking for a good December.
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Old 12-01-2019, 03:47 PM
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welcome LisaLilly, RAL, soberstevie, simplicity

otterisland - I think it pays to remember that there are all kinds of people here. Some of us are good written communicators - others maybe not so much.

Some tend towards the blunt side with little in the way of bedside manner.

I really believe tho that everyone who takes the time to post to us wants to see us get well

Of course if you simply don't find some posts or posters helpful, you can always use the ignore function.

Ignore bothersome members. If there is someone on the forum that bothers you, select the Ignore option on the drop down menu under their name on the post. You won't see any posts from this member again.
I'm glad you're staying

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Old 12-01-2019, 04:41 PM
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Me too....and hi Coder. ❤️
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Old 12-01-2019, 04:56 PM
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Hi Coder
I was wondering how you were.
Welcome back

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Old 12-01-2019, 05:32 PM
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Hi GooseMoose - you're very welcome here

support really helps

why do you think things aren't getting better?
Have you made any other changes besides not drinking?

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oye... currently not as much as I should be. I pray, and read recovery books, material, etc...
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Old 12-01-2019, 05:47 PM
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Well, being here with us every day is a great recovery tool...
New beginnings. ❤️
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Old 12-01-2019, 06:17 PM
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Its hard to make those changes GM but I think it's worth it.
Much less angst anyway?

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