Thanksgiving relapse
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Good idea Delilah! I am still trying to get over the "incomprehensible demoralization". My BFF who we were going to visit in Mexico texted me, after she found out what happened at the airport, that she did not want me to visit until I was SOBER. Very true, but hurtful, nevertheless. I can say that she is not the first one to say this to me.....the truth hurts in so many ways.....
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Hello, something similar happened to me. When I was drinking heavily, I went to Mexico on a trip with another family and I basically barely made it out of my room the whole time. My family and the other family we traveled with were very mad at me.
Fast forward through many times of incomprehensible demoralization, last year right around this time, I got another DUI during a relapse and I have been sober since. If you just focus on taking it one day at a time and reaching out to others who are so sober, you can have a year in 2020 and this will all be a distant memory.
Fast forward through many times of incomprehensible demoralization, last year right around this time, I got another DUI during a relapse and I have been sober since. If you just focus on taking it one day at a time and reaching out to others who are so sober, you can have a year in 2020 and this will all be a distant memory.
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How are you doing on getting to an AA meeting? I went to one yesterday morning, and am going to another tonight.
I have seven years sober. My wife and I quit drinking the same day, and did ninety AA meetings in our first ninety days. She doesn't go to meetings very often now, but feels those early meetings gave her sobriety a strong foundation.
I have seven years sober. My wife and I quit drinking the same day, and did ninety AA meetings in our first ninety days. She doesn't go to meetings very often now, but feels those early meetings gave her sobriety a strong foundation.
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Originally Posted by trudgingagain 
Ididn't go....and I am feeling well...which is not to say I don't need support.....
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Ididn't go....and I am feeling well...which is not to say I don't need support.....
curious why the resistance?? a couple days ago you were desperate enough to try anything......now you are "feeling well" ??
curious why the resistance?? a couple days ago you were desperate enough to try anything......now you are "feeling well" ??
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I don't want to upset you but if you read back to the events that bought you back to SR again - that was pretty heavy stuff - much more than just having a few drinks too many.
I did things like that many times, sobered up, felt good again, forgot my mortification and the fear and frustration I caused my loved ones and decided I didn't need to worry about my drinking, or later on not working anything specific for my recovery, cos I'd remember the last time.....
I was so very very wrong.
If not AA, what? how are you going to stay sober?
D
I did things like that many times, sobered up, felt good again, forgot my mortification and the fear and frustration I caused my loved ones and decided I didn't need to worry about my drinking, or later on not working anything specific for my recovery, cos I'd remember the last time.....
I was so very very wrong.
If not AA, what? how are you going to stay sober?
D
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How about going into rehab?
I'm sorry you had such an embarrassing and horrific experience but since you've had considerable times of sobriety in the past, you know, better than most people, that the next relapse will be just as awful, if not worse than this one.
I hope you get better!
I'm sorry you had such an embarrassing and horrific experience but since you've had considerable times of sobriety in the past, you know, better than most people, that the next relapse will be just as awful, if not worse than this one.
I hope you get better!
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Originally Posted by trudgingagain
AA is theplan....at least for a while....I am not a big fan, but it DID work. Riker...yes, we can do this!
Originally Posted by trudgingagain
Haven't gone yet....there is a meeting that I like tonight, I may go to that one.
Originally Posted by trudgingagain
Ididn't go....and I am feeling well...which is not to say I don't need support.....
Originally Posted by trudgingagain
I'm Not sure about AA (AGAIN)...but then, I only have 4 days sober, so far
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This is not a rude question....
All these people aside, you daughter, husband, friend...
What do you want? And truly want?
Do you want to be sober?
Do you want to be able to have just a couple and stop?
I think examining this is a good idea.
I always wanted to stop the day after I did something BAD
I always wanted to be sober once someone told me I needed to or they would leave, blaa blaa...
It wasn't until I wanted to be sober for ME that the true change happened and seeing that you have been here since 2013 reminds me of myself. Always trying for someone else, but not me.
Blessings,
DC
All these people aside, you daughter, husband, friend...
What do you want? And truly want?
Do you want to be sober?
Do you want to be able to have just a couple and stop?
I think examining this is a good idea.
I always wanted to stop the day after I did something BAD
I always wanted to be sober once someone told me I needed to or they would leave, blaa blaa...
It wasn't until I wanted to be sober for ME that the true change happened and seeing that you have been here since 2013 reminds me of myself. Always trying for someone else, but not me.
Blessings,
DC
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Originally Posted by trudgingagain
AA is theplan....at least for a while....I am not a big fan, but it DID work. Riker...yes, we can do ths!
Everyone in AA has been utterly humiliated and defeated by alcohol.
So you're not alone from that perspective.
Your experience with drunken traveling is similar to my own.
I always had problems with transportation issues.
I have had problems with Greyhound buses, planes, airports, cars, etc.
And I've been to ER as a result of my chronic alcoholism.
Glad you're back with us.
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