Husband wouldn’t let me go to a detox facility
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Husband wouldn’t let me go to a detox facility
I sadly have been on a bender for 8 days now
yesterday I brought up a suggestion for me me to check into detox and he said No (we have 2 young children so I need him to watch them while I’m gone).
He says it’s a waste of time and money and that I will pick up drinking the moment I get out.
I have a supply of Xanax and Haldol at hand. The withdrawal terrifies me( do you think I can do this on my own with meds?
yesterday I brought up a suggestion for me me to check into detox and he said No (we have 2 young children so I need him to watch them while I’m gone).He says it’s a waste of time and money and that I will pick up drinking the moment I get out.
I have a supply of Xanax and Haldol at hand. The withdrawal terrifies me
( do you think I can do this on my own with meds?
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I'm not sure anyone can answer that. It is against forum rules to post any medical advice, and that rule pretty much makes sense. Can you see your doctor or something like that? What you are asking really requires the advice of a medical professional. Zanax and Haldol are powerful medications and you need to be careful using those, especially when using alcohol.
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I aware of the forum policy rules, and as (at least) most of us here are not doctors, no medical advice.
i went to see my pshyatrist yesterday, he was ok with me using prescription medicine to cope with the withdrawal. The only thing is that i lied about being sober that day, when I was not.
I am just so bummed about my husband’s attitude about the whole thing
i went to see my pshyatrist yesterday, he was ok with me using prescription medicine to cope with the withdrawal. The only thing is that i lied about being sober that day, when I was not.
I am just so bummed about my husband’s attitude about the whole thing
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The number of people I've seen here who were able to go to detox is quite small.
Its the best option safety wise but if it's not a viable option you'll just have to work with what you have I guess?
If I remember correctly you've been to detox and rehab before so you probably know better than most what the procedures are?
If you're looking for more guidance than your psychiatrist gave can you see your family Doctor?
the first step, which ever way you go, is to stop drinking.
I hope you've decided to end the bender.
Is your grandmother still living with you?
Is there a relative like your mom or your mom in law, sister sister in law etc who might be able to check on you to see you and the kids are ok?
D
Its the best option safety wise but if it's not a viable option you'll just have to work with what you have I guess?
If I remember correctly you've been to detox and rehab before so you probably know better than most what the procedures are?
If you're looking for more guidance than your psychiatrist gave can you see your family Doctor?
the first step, which ever way you go, is to stop drinking.
I hope you've decided to end the bender.
Is your grandmother still living with you?
Is there a relative like your mom or your mom in law, sister sister in law etc who might be able to check on you to see you and the kids are ok?
D
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Thank you, Dee! My grandmother passed away in June, and my mother died in 2016 while I was pregnant with my first kid.
I know the drill, how detox and reharb works. I was in a pscyh ward in march, hoping to get of Xanax, didn’t work, continued xanax and drinking. Had a nice sober summer and now back to this
If my husband does not support me, I have noone else to turn to. My Dad is terrified of the thought of me drinking again, so it would just break his heart
I know the drill, how detox and reharb works. I was in a pscyh ward in march, hoping to get of Xanax, didn’t work, continued xanax and drinking. Had a nice sober summer and now back to this
If my husband does not support me, I have noone else to turn to. My Dad is terrified of the thought of me drinking again, so it would just break his heart
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Originally Posted by Ugnius 
I am just so bummed about my husband’s attitude about the whole thing
Hope is reasonable.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
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I'm sorry for your losses Ugnius.
It's not like professional detox is the only choice, its just the safest.
We may not be 'real life' - but there is a lot of support here - you are not alone.
Have you given any thought yet to how you'll stay sober after you detox?
D
It's not like professional detox is the only choice, its just the safest.
We may not be 'real life' - but there is a lot of support here - you are not alone.
Have you given any thought yet to how you'll stay sober after you detox?
D
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up, so to speak, then you will have lots of support
on your side to guide you into helping you learn
how to live life sober.
When you are surrounded by others who have
been there, done many of the same similar things
as yourself, then we share with support to help
each other.
I went thru the rehab route 29 yrs ago when family
stepped in placing me into the hands of those capable
of teaching me about my alcohol addiction and handing
me the gift of a recovery program to live by and
incorporate in my everyday life to remain sober.
After my 28 day stay and a 6 week outpatient after
care program, I was left to be responsible for my own
recovery and sobriety.
As a mom and wife, I had to learn how to balance
my recovery program with family life. Sure it took
asking for help if I needed it or I took my little ones
with me to AA meetings with me.
Many of us have learned how to live life sober
with different ways to achieve it. All we can do
is come here and share what has worked for us.
For you, if you truly want to get sober, remain
sober, learn how to achieve a life without addiction,
then coming here and reading, asking questions
and following many helpful suggestions we all
share with you to guide you along the way.
What we share doesn't cost anything. We share
what has worked for us each individually. If you
like what you read from the person who has learned
how to live life sober, then collect that information
and apply it to your own life.
Each of us are here to here because we want to
be. Because it not only helps us to also remain
sober, but it also allows us to pass on the knowledge
of addiction and recovery to the newcomer who
is struggling and looking for answers.
If you truely like what we have, the joy, the peace, the
serenity, the willingness, openmindedness and
honesty to live a sober life, then take many helpful
suggestions and apply them to your own life.
We here in SR are the fellowship and support
behind you every step of the way to help you
achieve health, happiness and a strong solid
recovery foundation to live upon for yrs to come.
Let your journey in recovery life begin today.
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Most recovering alcoholics I have met didn't go to detox or rehab, but that's probably because most didn't need to. No one here would know if you do or not. If your husband won't allow this, and you decide to do it on your own, there is still a plan B, which is the emergency room if things get really bad.
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If you begin....right now.....by putting the drink down.....there's hope.
I have been on plenty of those 8 day benders, and it's gonna feel pretty crummy for a few days coming off. The sooner you start, the sooner you (and your husband) will begin to have restored faith in your ability to do this at home.
It all starts with one simple step....put down the drink....now.
I have been on plenty of those 8 day benders, and it's gonna feel pretty crummy for a few days coming off. The sooner you start, the sooner you (and your husband) will begin to have restored faith in your ability to do this at home.
It all starts with one simple step....put down the drink....now.
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I think that your husband's attitude is not so important in your recovery. Don't give him the power to talk yourself out of recovering. Inpatient detox is not the only way to do this. If your doctor has given you the okay, then go for it. 
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Originally Posted by Ugnius
I aware of the forum policy rules, and as (at least) most of us here are not doctors, no medical advice.
i went to see my pshyatrist yesterday, he was ok with me using prescription medicine to cope with the withdrawal. The only thing is that i lied about being sober that day, when I was not.
I am just so bummed about my husband’s attitude about the whole thing
i went to see my pshyatrist yesterday, he was ok with me using prescription medicine to cope with the withdrawal. The only thing is that i lied about being sober that day, when I was not.
I am just so bummed about my husband’s attitude about the whole thing
I went completely cold turkey - and it was very serious and awful, to put it mildly. I didn't quite realize how dangerous but true to form, I wanted to be DONE when I actually wanted to be done, so to speak.
I'd be questioning the med situation with your psych, as mine would have advised diff.
To me, the sentence I put in bold says it all - when we are still lying, and in our own version of your situation as many of us have been, we need true external help.
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It was life and death for me - and no one could have kept me from doing what I needed to so I'd get sober.
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Thank you all so much for the support and engouragment!!
despite all of this, I went out to get some more alcohol (a store is convenietly downstairs of my building ).
So I guess tomorrow is a new day 1; i’ve had so many of these it’s getting old and sad...
despite all of this, I went out to get some more alcohol (a store is convenietly downstairs of my building
).So I guess tomorrow is a new day 1; i’ve had so many of these it’s getting old and sad...
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Originally Posted by Ugnius
Thank you all so much for the support and engouragment!!
despite all of this, I went out to get some more alcohol (a store is convenietly downstairs of my building ).
So I guess tomorrow is a new day 1; i’ve had so many of these it’s getting old and sad...
despite all of this, I went out to get some more alcohol (a store is convenietly downstairs of my building
).So I guess tomorrow is a new day 1; i’ve had so many of these it’s getting old and sad...
Do not underestimate the DANGER of drinking and taking meds like Xanax. How about taking a firm stand and dump the booze? You're only kicking the can down the road by drinking another day. Maybe spend this Thanksgiving being grateful for getting through Day 1....TODAY!!
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Please throw it out, especially with 2 young children. As WF says drinking and taking/having taken meds like the ones above can prove fatal Your kids need you. Your husband sounds pretty decent and has been looking after the kids while you have been on an 8 day bender. His patience may eventually run out and you lose him and your kids. So many many scary stories on here of people that ahs happened to
Your kids need you. Your husband sounds pretty decent and has been looking after the kids while you have been on an 8 day bender. His patience may eventually run out and you lose him and your kids. So many many scary stories on here of people that ahs happened to Member
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I am no doctor. but I have been thro inpatient detox and inpatient rehab. sounds like you have as well.
every time, they have taken my meds away.
when I was taking Xanex and went to rehab... they took it away... no taper. I had a seizure within four hours. they took me to the hospital, where they gave me xanex.
again, I am no medical professional, but if you have the drive to quit alcohol, and have benzos onhand... I'd try an at home taper.
reduce alchohol and med consumption gradually. like over a couple weeks.
call your doctor.
every time, they have taken my meds away.
when I was taking Xanex and went to rehab... they took it away... no taper. I had a seizure within four hours. they took me to the hospital, where they gave me xanex.
again, I am no medical professional, but if you have the drive to quit alcohol, and have benzos onhand... I'd try an at home taper.
reduce alchohol and med consumption gradually. like over a couple weeks.
call your doctor.
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I'm a bit concerned about who's gonna be watching the small children as you detox? I know when I've detoxed I slept ALOT,is there anyone who can stay with you for a few days? Or at least the first day?
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Originally Posted by elisava
I am no doctor. but I have been thro inpatient detox and inpatient rehab. sounds like you have as well.
every time, they have taken my meds away.
when I was taking Xanex and went to rehab... they took it away... no taper. I had a seizure within four hours. they took me to the hospital, where they gave me xanex.
again, I am no medical professional, but if you have the drive to quit alcohol, and have benzos onhand... I'd try an at home taper.
reduce alchohol and med consumption gradually. like over a couple weeks.
call your doctor.
every time, they have taken my meds away.
when I was taking Xanex and went to rehab... they took it away... no taper. I had a seizure within four hours. they took me to the hospital, where they gave me xanex.
again, I am no medical professional, but if you have the drive to quit alcohol, and have benzos onhand... I'd try an at home taper.
reduce alchohol and med consumption gradually. like over a couple weeks.
call your doctor.
This is what I did.
Went to my GP, got anti D's , and came off alcohol and benzos (klonopin) at home.
Im not taking anything addictive now and a heck of a lot better than I was.
I posted here while in bed on bad days, but I got better.
I have no cravings, which Im guessing is maybe the anti Ds?
I even want to stop drinking my half decaf coffee.
It can be done
Xanax is a nasty pill. All benzos are but xanax is the worst.
If you drink and take those pills youre playing with fire.
And yes, abrupt withdrawel from Xanax will cause seizures.,Im really suprised at that facility for not tapering you, unless you were not truthful about your usage.
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