Close call
Member
Join Date: May 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 3,937
Originally Posted by Epictetus 
You hang out with your wife's friends Hodd! I bet Callas's friend doesn't think that's normal!! It's all perspective really!
I don’t hang out with them that much 😀 I meant to say I have more fun with them than some of my older friends whose only pastime is the pub.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2018
Posts: 5,169
Originally Posted by Callas
To be honest, there are times when not drinking sucks.
I think you need re-think your position. What you probably meant was that not being able to drink like a normal person sucks, which of course you can't do. And then I would re-think that too. Many normal people don't drink, and I doubt they feel like not drinking sucks at all. Is there something wrong with normal people who don't drink?
I'm with Trailmix on this one. I wouldn't trade places with your buddies for all the whiskey in Kentucky.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2018
Location: NY
Posts: 327
It’s ok you could say sometimes it sucks not drinking , especially in situations like that. I’m sure that you didn’t regret it the next day when you woke up feeling fresh. Hopefully it gets easier for you , keep going.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
If you're still equating fun with drinking you really owe it to yourself to find a new better definition of fun.
I had to really look hard at what I thought alcohol was doing for me and what it actually did, Callas,
I thought alcohol took away that social anxiety and made it easier for me to mingle and do chit chat - but the reality was I went from stone cold sober to embarrassingly drunk very fast.
My window for witty urbane chat was about 5 mins - and it wasn't that witty or urbane by all accounts.
There were good reasons why I stopped drinking 'socially' and only drank at home by the end.
It took me a long time to not feel like ripping my skin off in social situations sober but I stuck with it.
I've had to accept I'm really not a social animal...I prefer small gatherings to big parties and well known friends to newcomers....
I feel the freedom to be me and I'm comfortable doing that. That's where real relaxation and fun lies for me. I can be a nut, I can goof off, I can let myself go...and still be sober...because I'm finally (in my 50s ) not pre occupied with what others think of me. \
Like me...all good...loathe me...all good too - we never have to socialise again
I've gotten to the point tho where I can do small talk and mingle and not feel like I want to be sick.
It's a skill that needs practice like anything else. I usually get people talking about themselves
Its been a journey but a good worthwhile one. We only get one life so you may as well make it into one you love?
D
I had to really look hard at what I thought alcohol was doing for me and what it actually did, Callas,
I thought alcohol took away that social anxiety and made it easier for me to mingle and do chit chat - but the reality was I went from stone cold sober to embarrassingly drunk very fast.
My window for witty urbane chat was about 5 mins - and it wasn't that witty or urbane by all accounts.
There were good reasons why I stopped drinking 'socially' and only drank at home by the end.
It took me a long time to not feel like ripping my skin off in social situations sober but I stuck with it.
I've had to accept I'm really not a social animal...I prefer small gatherings to big parties and well known friends to newcomers....
I feel the freedom to be me and I'm comfortable doing that. That's where real relaxation and fun lies for me. I can be a nut, I can goof off, I can let myself go...and still be sober...because I'm finally (in my 50s ) not pre occupied with what others think of me. \
Like me...all good...loathe me...all good too - we never have to socialise again
I've gotten to the point tho where I can do small talk and mingle and not feel like I want to be sick.
It's a skill that needs practice like anything else. I usually get people talking about themselves
Its been a journey but a good worthwhile one. We only get one life so you may as well make it into one you love?
D
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
Originally Posted by Epictetus
You hang out with your wife's friends Hodd! I bet Callas's friend doesn't think that's normal!! It's all perspective really! The guy has his life and I'm sure as an adult he knows what he is doing and what he wants!
He's not the topic of this thread.
I'm not anti alcohol. The problem was and remains me, not alcohol.
but...drinking a bottle of wine at lunch is not normal tho.
Look at any countrys drinking guidelines for healthy living,
Lets not get so relativist that we shift the goalposts to ridiculous positions
D
Member
Join Date: May 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 3,937
Originally Posted by Dee74
but...drinking a bottle of wine at lunch is not normal tho.
D
D
OK, they’re actors and drinking nothing stronger than water on camera, but I fell for the scene in countries like France where drinking wine is the norm.
Now I’ve come to my senses, when I see heavy drinking going on, I just think of the future health problems those people will almost certainly face regrettably.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,416
I think there is something to be said about growing older for sure...what looked cool and sophisticated to me as a young man no longer does now...
a large part of that awareness came from the journey through hell I made in active addiction that nearly killed me.
I've seen 'backstage' as it were and it's not cool or sophisticated.
D
a large part of that awareness came from the journey through hell I made in active addiction that nearly killed me.
I've seen 'backstage' as it were and it's not cool or sophisticated.
D
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
