Finalcall

From all my attempts at quitting this is the one. I have decided to never drink again.
i had 3 beers still in my car from my last drink 4 days ago. I went for a walk to a lookout with my wife and poured them over the edge. Kind of a way to farewell the old me. Shed a tear for many different reasons and walked back ready to live life.

Dee74

Thats a great declaration Final Call - how are you gonna follow that up with action?

D

Finalcall

I have a draft plan from my last attempt. Needs work.
i have learnt from my last mistakes.
I am looking for another person to besides my wife if things go down hill in my mind.
most of all I know from my own experiences that if I drink again it won't be long untill I get back to where I don't want to be. So it's not worth it it won't help anything.

Any advice would be appreciated dee

Dee74

well besides your wife you've got several thousand people here to help

I think a good plan not only covers support, but how to use it. A support we're reluctant to use isn't worth very much.

I think changes are important too - everyone had things in their life that they can change to better reflect their desire to be sober.

It may be changes in problem solving, or changes in dealing with bad times and awkward emotions. It may be changes in how you socialise and have fun, or how you reward yourself.

The best plan is the one you come up with to fit your own circumstances

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...very-plan.html (What exactly is a recovery plan?)

D

Finalcall

Got to agree with you. The need for change is why I'm here. The same old isn't working for me anymore. Change is always hard. More so for somethings than others. It's mad how addiction can shape us and trap us literally in front of our eyes.
i have been keeping a journal in my tough times and previous abstaining times. I hope to read it in a years time to see how far I have come. Like a before and after picture.
But till then hard work through the rubbish, learn about myself, work on myself and change for the better.
Unlike some unlucky folk I truly believe I can be free from this addiction and on that journey find a life well and truly above where I am now.

Lucinda2

Good stuff, Finalcall!

Pressmetilihurt

Awesome sauce! What's your plan? So far posting here, going to AA, getting a sponsor have helped me. And not drinking.

Hevyn

That's exactly how I felt after my last drink of beer. I never picked up again - I was determined to reclaim my life. That was over 11 yrs. ago. It can definitely be the end of the madness, Finalcall. We are all with you.

CRRHCC

The pursuit of self-interest is a fundamental economic motive. The fundamental human motive is the desire to seek pleasure and avoid pain. People organize their actions around those twin pursuits. They evaluate each alternative by balancing imagined pleasure against imagined pain and select the alternative with greater average pleasure. In other words, we choose the Bigger Better Offer or reward.

If you truly didn’t want to do something, then you wouldn’t do it. You are driven to always pursue happiness; everyone is.

"Don't be conformed to the patterns of this world, instead be transformed with new thinking." Romans 12:2

SoberCAH

I really agree with Dee that you may want to consider doing some due diligence on finding a plan of recovery and then working it as hard as you can (and then some).

Sobriety is a life and death matter for me.

I chose AA and I haven't had a drink since I stepped (no pun intended) into my first AA meeting.

In other words, I suggest that you choose a plan of recovery and then implement it.

I certainly had to.

August252015

An active plan that I chose to engage in - and begin to do the things people were suggesting would help- was essential for me. I know them by heart, have them on hand for daily refreshers - and MOST importantly, I have many people for connection and support. Online, in AA, counseling, in other recovery programs....all the support we can get is worth it.

Like others said, we have to change. Not drinking is the absolute first step, and especially in early days if that's "the only thing" we do it is more than enough victory. Putting things into the view that I had to literally, permanently, be sober in order to do anything else, at all - shifted my worldview entirely.

Anna

FinalCall, I agree that change is hard, but necessary. Changing my daily routine, helped me a lot in the early days. The most important thing was to change my routine during the time of the day when I would normally want to be drinking. Make a firm plan and stick to it. You can do this.