Wont drive
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Wont drive
Hi my SR friends. I wont drive ever again. Sold my car a year ago and will never buy another one.
That is how scared I am of my drinking. I dont trust myself.
Only if I had the courage to tell you my story. But I dont. I am just a drunk who is wasting her life.
Day 1
That is how scared I am of my drinking. I dont trust myself.
Only if I had the courage to tell you my story. But I dont. I am just a drunk who is wasting her life.
Day 1
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Glad you are on day one! And, whatever you need to do now is fine. I didn't have a car for 3 yrs...basically my credit had been low enough that my dad was on the lease, so when I kept driving drunk my parents took it away. I didn't get one again til 6 mo sober.
Anything that might seem extreme to do is more than A-OK to protect ourselves in early sobriety. Or, any day, tho stuff like maybe wanting and getting and soberly using a car is in your future one day.
What are you doing today to be sober? Glad you are here.
Anything that might seem extreme to do is more than A-OK to protect ourselves in early sobriety. Or, any day, tho stuff like maybe wanting and getting and soberly using a car is in your future one day.
What are you doing today to be sober? Glad you are here.
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Even the days I am sober my depression is so bad that I dont want to live. I own a beautiful home on the beach, paid for - but still even that feels empty, lonely, and unhappy.
Maybe some day I will quit drinking for good and my life will change.
but for the past 20 years it has slowly gone downhill into nothingness.
Maybe some day I will quit drinking for good and my life will change.
but for the past 20 years it has slowly gone downhill into nothingness.
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Originally Posted by Anna 
Whitejay, are you trying to stop drinking? You don't need to be terrified of driving drunk. I hope you make the choice to stop drinking. 
Nothing works. So terrified.
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Hi again. I’m not familiar with your story so forgive me if I suggestion things you’ve tried already. Things like counseling, rehab, meetings? I think we all know at this point that alcohol is a depressant and definitely doesn’t help if you’re prone to the low feelings you’re describing. I hope you do stop drinking one day, today! Your life will surely change for the better.
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Originally Posted by gypsytears
Hi again. I’m not familiar with your story so forgive me if I suggestion things you’ve tried already. Things like counseling, rehab, meetings? I think we all know at this point that alcohol is a depressant and definitely doesn’t help if you’re prone to the low feelings you’re describing. I hope you do stop drinking one day, today! Your life will surely change for the better.
Or I'll die.
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If you continue to read here in SR then you will
find many who have struggled with addiction and
now live a life sober. It didnt happen over night or
with a snap of a finger, but by either following some
simple suggestions that they have found to be helpful
in achieving one sober day after another.
Many here have been logging on each day to
be responsible for their own recovery and track
their progress.
Many, including me, found success in spending
28 days give or take days, weeks, months, in a
rehab facility placing ourselves into the hands
of those capable of teaching us about addiction
and recovery before setting us on a recovery
path to live and achieve a healthy, happy, honest
way of life.
Once we left that environment, we took what
was taught to us and began building a stronger,
solid recovery foundation to live our life upon
each day we remained sober.
That is one effective way to achieve sobriety and
there are countless other methods available for
the taking. Reading here you will see that there
are many fighters. Many who wont give up until
what they are learning about staying sober sticks.
You, like many are not alone. We learn from
each other by sharing our own experiences,
strengths and hopes of what our lives are and
is like before, during and after alcohol addiction.
We use a recovery program to teach us how to
stay and live a sober life. Then, if necessary, we
turn to our physicians to help us achieve a healthy
body, making sure everything inside us continues
to run properly.
If we are experiencing anxiety, depression or
other physical, mental problems, then we seek
help with our physicians, working closely with
them, making sure they are aware of our addiction
and recovery so that they can treat us correctly
without compromising our recovery and sobriety.
Alcohol and drugs do so much damage to our insides
affecting our organs and everything that helps us
tick correctly inside. Our physicians can be used
to our benefits to achieve a healthy mind and body.
Many have felt hopeless living in addiction. However,
once we enter recovery, a program taught to us, then
we can see that life is worth living because all that we
have and earned are precious gifts to enjoy in life.
SR is just one of many recovery lifelines to grab a
hold of and never let go of it. Seek help from your
physician and begin to heal and become a healthy,
happy sober person living a recovery life one day
at a time moving forward.
find many who have struggled with addiction and
now live a life sober. It didnt happen over night or
with a snap of a finger, but by either following some
simple suggestions that they have found to be helpful
in achieving one sober day after another.
Many here have been logging on each day to
be responsible for their own recovery and track
their progress.
Many, including me, found success in spending
28 days give or take days, weeks, months, in a
rehab facility placing ourselves into the hands
of those capable of teaching us about addiction
and recovery before setting us on a recovery
path to live and achieve a healthy, happy, honest
way of life.
Once we left that environment, we took what
was taught to us and began building a stronger,
solid recovery foundation to live our life upon
each day we remained sober.
That is one effective way to achieve sobriety and
there are countless other methods available for
the taking. Reading here you will see that there
are many fighters. Many who wont give up until
what they are learning about staying sober sticks.
You, like many are not alone. We learn from
each other by sharing our own experiences,
strengths and hopes of what our lives are and
is like before, during and after alcohol addiction.
We use a recovery program to teach us how to
stay and live a sober life. Then, if necessary, we
turn to our physicians to help us achieve a healthy
body, making sure everything inside us continues
to run properly.
If we are experiencing anxiety, depression or
other physical, mental problems, then we seek
help with our physicians, working closely with
them, making sure they are aware of our addiction
and recovery so that they can treat us correctly
without compromising our recovery and sobriety.
Alcohol and drugs do so much damage to our insides
affecting our organs and everything that helps us
tick correctly inside. Our physicians can be used
to our benefits to achieve a healthy mind and body.
Many have felt hopeless living in addiction. However,
once we enter recovery, a program taught to us, then
we can see that life is worth living because all that we
have and earned are precious gifts to enjoy in life.
SR is just one of many recovery lifelines to grab a
hold of and never let go of it. Seek help from your
physician and begin to heal and become a healthy,
happy sober person living a recovery life one day
at a time moving forward.
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One of my last ditch compromises to avoid quitting alcohol, was a resolution not to drive my car when I had been drinking. It didn't work because I was always drinking after 5PM. I hit the bottle right after work to settle in for pre- dinner sophisticated highball, which always ended up as inevitable and foggy brained all-niter. Then I would remember I had to go to the store, or this, or that, and off I'd go driving. It was a great idea, but it just didn't work. I was not in a position to sell my car. If I didn't need it to get to work, it may have worked.
I suppose I could have just quit my job, and then I wouldn't need the car. But then I would have to sell my house and move into town, because I still needed to go to the store, but without a job, I wouldn't be able to buy anything. I begrudgingly decided not to drink, and that worked. Keep it simple, as they say.
OK, so I didn't begrudgingly quit. By that time, it was a welcomed and much needed change.
I suppose I could have just quit my job, and then I wouldn't need the car. But then I would have to sell my house and move into town, because I still needed to go to the store, but without a job, I wouldn't be able to buy anything. I begrudgingly decided not to drink, and that worked. Keep it simple, as they say.
OK, so I didn't begrudgingly quit. By that time, it was a welcomed and much needed change.
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I'm so sorry about the ice head thing, whitejay- because it symbolized to me how desperately wrong things were when I was still drinking, whether I literally needed to ice or not.
I'll just gently throw in that the idea of "to any lengths, at any cost" comes to mind for you - like it did for me. I simply (NOT easily!) had to do everything available to me to stop drinking and stay sober every day. My mind and heart could only begin to change and heal that way.
Of course I do not know your debt or income situation, but you mentioned the house is paid for. Is there a financial option to go to treatment? Even just because you could have a literal barrier to drinking by being in a place, that would give you a start.
I feel for you. I hope you choose each hour to be sober, one by one. You can. You are still here with us, which means there is hope.
I'll just gently throw in that the idea of "to any lengths, at any cost" comes to mind for you - like it did for me. I simply (NOT easily!) had to do everything available to me to stop drinking and stay sober every day. My mind and heart could only begin to change and heal that way.
Of course I do not know your debt or income situation, but you mentioned the house is paid for. Is there a financial option to go to treatment? Even just because you could have a literal barrier to drinking by being in a place, that would give you a start.
I feel for you. I hope you choose each hour to be sober, one by one. You can. You are still here with us, which means there is hope.
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Originally Posted by DriGuy
One of my last ditch compromises to avoid quitting alcohol, was a resolution not to drive my car when I had been drinking. It didn't work because I was always drinking after 5PM. I hit the bottle right after work to settle in for pre- dinner sophisticated highball, which always ended up as inevitable and foggy brained all-niter. Then I would remember I had to go to the store, or this, or that, and off I'd go driving. It was a great idea, but it just didn't work. I was not in a position to sell my car. If I didn't need it to get to work, it may have worked.
I suppose I could have just quit my job, and then I wouldn't need the car. But then I would have to sell my house and move into town, because I still needed to go to the store, but without a job, I wouldn't be able to buy anything. I begrudgingly decided not to drink, and that worked. Keep it simple, as they say.
OK, so I didn't begrudgingly quit. By that time, it was a welcomed and much needed change.
I suppose I could have just quit my job, and then I wouldn't need the car. But then I would have to sell my house and move into town, because I still needed to go to the store, but without a job, I wouldn't be able to buy anything. I begrudgingly decided not to drink, and that worked. Keep it simple, as they say.
OK, so I didn't begrudgingly quit. By that time, it was a welcomed and much needed change.
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Originally Posted by August252015
I'm so sorry about the ice head thing, whitejay- because it symbolized to me how desperately wrong things were when I was still drinking, whether I literally needed to ice or not.
I'll just gently throw in that the idea of "to any lengths, at any cost" comes to mind for you - like it did for me. I simply (NOT easily!) had to do everything available to me to stop drinking and stay sober every day. My mind and heart could only begin to change and heal that way.
Of course I do not know your debt or income situation, but you mentioned the house is paid for. Is there a financial option to go to treatment? Even just because you could have a literal barrier to drinking by being in a place, that would give you a start.
I feel for you. I hope you choose each hour to be sober, one by one. You can. You are still here with us, which means there is hope.
I'll just gently throw in that the idea of "to any lengths, at any cost" comes to mind for you - like it did for me. I simply (NOT easily!) had to do everything available to me to stop drinking and stay sober every day. My mind and heart could only begin to change and heal that way.
Of course I do not know your debt or income situation, but you mentioned the house is paid for. Is there a financial option to go to treatment? Even just because you could have a literal barrier to drinking by being in a place, that would give you a start.
I feel for you. I hope you choose each hour to be sober, one by one. You can. You are still here with us, which means there is hope.
I think that has to do alot for why I drink. Serious, technical, retired loner.....uggggggg
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Originally Posted by gypsytears
Hi again. I’m not familiar with your story so forgive me if I suggestion things you’ve tried already. Things like counseling, rehab, meetings? I think we all know at this point that alcohol is a depressant and definitely doesn’t help if you’re prone to the low feelings you’re describing. I hope you do stop drinking one day, today! Your life will surely change for the better.
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