Day 1
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Join Date: Jan 2016
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Day 1
Have been lurking on this site for a long time and have got to know most of you.
I am a wine drinker, a bottle every night for years. Tired now of the lethargy next day, want to stop. I have always known I have a problem with alcohol, if I am in a social situation I always want more wine. But have nevet had a drink during the day. Realise that means nothing!
I want to stop the nightly ritual of alcohol so I can be more focused next day. Retired and babysit grand kids during the day most days.
Thank you to all.
I am a wine drinker, a bottle every night for years. Tired now of the lethargy next day, want to stop. I have always known I have a problem with alcohol, if I am in a social situation I always want more wine. But have nevet had a drink during the day. Realise that means nothing!
I want to stop the nightly ritual of alcohol so I can be more focused next day. Retired and babysit grand kids during the day most days.
Thank you to all.
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 3,293
Hi. You have come to the right place for help and support. Changing your normal routine of drinking takes a lot of work, but many have managed to do it. Stick around and let people know what's going on with you. You'll get tons of advice on what you can do to cut the cycle. John
You'll find lots of support and useful advice for getting sober for good. Administrator
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
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Welcome and I'm glad you've decided to stop drinking.
My suggestion would be to plan ahead to be doing something different in the evenings. Maybe you could go for a walk, go to the gym, have coffee with a friend, whatever it takes to change your routine.
My suggestion would be to plan ahead to be doing something different in the evenings. Maybe you could go for a walk, go to the gym, have coffee with a friend, whatever it takes to change your routine.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,442
Welcome Deidre - this is a place of great encouragement and support.
Whey not check out our Class of October support thread - it's for anyone quitting this month. All you have to do to join is post
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7281565
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Whey not check out our Class of October support thread - it's for anyone quitting this month. All you have to do to join is post
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7281565
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: CT
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Originally Posted by Deirdre21 
Have been lurking on this site for a long time and have got to know most of you.
I am a wine drinker, a bottle every night for years. Tired now of the lethargy next day, want to stop. I have always known I have a problem with alcohol, if I am in a social situation I always want more wine. But have nevet had a drink during the day. Realise that means nothing!
I want to stop the nightly ritual of alcohol so I can be more focused next day. Retired and babysit grand kids during the day most days.
Thank you to all.
I am a wine drinker, a bottle every night for years. Tired now of the lethargy next day, want to stop. I have always known I have a problem with alcohol, if I am in a social situation I always want more wine. But have nevet had a drink during the day. Realise that means nothing!
I want to stop the nightly ritual of alcohol so I can be more focused next day. Retired and babysit grand kids during the day most days.
Thank you to all.
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Warwick RI
Posts: 1,276
The good news is you want to stop...So now is the action of stopping...plan the day...maybe on the weekend if you don't have the kids...say to yourself...I'm done..and get some things in place...lots of fluids...and time to rest.....
Its not just going to happen you have to decide a day....I hope you do it and I hope you feel better so that you can keep doing it.
Its not just going to happen you have to decide a day....I hope you do it and I hope you feel better so that you can keep doing it.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 2,872
Hello and welcome. I love your name
I hope you find the support here I did when I first quit. And you will.
Yes, join a group, start your own threads do whatever it takes. That's what I had to do.
Whatever it takes. One day at a time.
Best to you.
I hope you find the support here I did when I first quit. And you will.
Yes, join a group, start your own threads do whatever it takes. That's what I had to do.
Whatever it takes. One day at a time.
Best to you.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 7
Thank you all for your warm words of encouragement. I am going to do this. Not much sleep last night without the wine, watched 4 episodes of Unbelievable on Netflix. Feeling fairly good this morning but tired. Going to do a plan later today on how to occupy myself each evening after 8pm.
Thanks again to you all.
Thanks again to you all.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
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Originally Posted by Deirdre21
Thank you all for your warm words of encouragement. I am going to do this. Not much sleep last night without the wine, watched 4 episodes of Unbelievable on Netflix. Feeling fairly good this morning but tired. Going to do a plan later today on how to occupy myself each evening after 8pm.
Thanks again to you all.
Thanks again to you all.
You 'occupy yourself' by replacing a bad habit (drinking booze) with a good habit. It takes time to undo the ritual and your body/mind are going to fight it but, stay strong.
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Join Date: Jun 2019
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Deirdre - from another 'retired helping to look after the grandchild' (one in my case), minimum of one bottle of wine a night now ex-drinker, greetings!
You can do this. You really can but I agree, based on my experience, that you need a plan. Mine was very simple: (1) stop lurking - you've done that - and join 'your' monthly class. Mine was June. (2) Read and post every day. It's amazing how quickly you make virtual friends and how, in turn, that somehow makes you feel both supported and accountable. (3) Add one bit of exercise to whatever you do now even if it is just a 5 minute walk round the block and do it every day. (4) make a spreadsheet and record how much you,save each day by not buying wine. (5) maybe get your blood pressure, heart rate etc checked out and then check it againweekly or monthly to see the difference not drinking alcohol makes.
If you had told me on 21 June that I would be celebrating 100 days plus of sobriety and that the inevitability of 'needing' my bottle of wine everyday no longer seemed either necessary or inevitable I would quite simply not have believed you. And yet......
Best of luck.
You can do this. You really can but I agree, based on my experience, that you need a plan. Mine was very simple: (1) stop lurking - you've done that - and join 'your' monthly class. Mine was June. (2) Read and post every day. It's amazing how quickly you make virtual friends and how, in turn, that somehow makes you feel both supported and accountable. (3) Add one bit of exercise to whatever you do now even if it is just a 5 minute walk round the block and do it every day. (4) make a spreadsheet and record how much you,save each day by not buying wine. (5) maybe get your blood pressure, heart rate etc checked out and then check it againweekly or monthly to see the difference not drinking alcohol makes.
If you had told me on 21 June that I would be celebrating 100 days plus of sobriety and that the inevitability of 'needing' my bottle of wine everyday no longer seemed either necessary or inevitable I would quite simply not have believed you. And yet......
Best of luck.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 7
Thanks all again for your input. Tonight is hard, 2nd night without the wine. Getting there, am determined. Ate take-away, reading at the minute and have to do a ‘taxi-run’ to pick up my daughter after midnight.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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I'm so glad you joined us & decided to post, Deirdre. I know you can do this - I drank 30 yrs. & now have over 11 sober. Being able to talk things over here on SR has meant the world to me. No one else in my life really understood.
Congratulations on your 2nd night without wine. We feel a bit disoriented at first, but it gets better & easier as we go along. You're doing a great thing for yourself.
Congratulations on your 2nd night without wine. We feel a bit disoriented at first, but it gets better & easier as we go along. You're doing a great thing for yourself.
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Join Date: Aug 2018
Posts: 409
Hello and welcome! I too was a bottle of wine plus a night person for years.
Echoing what others have said here and that changing the nightly habits has been crucial for me.
The first week may be tough as your mind and body will be screaming but it really does get better and better.
Make a plan and check in often.
Echoing what others have said here and that changing the nightly habits has been crucial for me.
The first week may be tough as your mind and body will be screaming but it really does get better and better.
Make a plan and check in often.
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