Advice and help
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Advice and help
Hi , been a week now and it’s been great not waking up throwing up anything I’ve eaten for the first hour , been exercising and trying to look after myself
I’m starting to feel blah about it now though , I don’t really know ..just fed up with the not drinking game ..
its evenings, wine o clock started at 6pm until I passed out generally ..what can I do to sort this out ? No more exercise as I ache already !
Also had week off , next week I’m working away again ..that’s going to be a nitemare ..3 days away ..boredom will set in the evenings for sure
difficult when for give or take 20 years evenings have always been about drinking 🤷🏻*♂️
I’m starting to feel blah about it now though , I don’t really know ..just fed up with the not drinking game ..
its evenings, wine o clock started at 6pm until I passed out generally ..what can I do to sort this out ? No more exercise as I ache already !
Also had week off , next week I’m working away again ..that’s going to be a nitemare ..3 days away ..boredom will set in the evenings for sure
difficult when for give or take 20 years evenings have always been about drinking 🤷🏻*♂️
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII 
so drinking til you pass out every night is............not boring?
drinking is what you know. time to learn new things.
drinking is what you know. time to learn new things.
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You have to sit with the discomfort for a while. It is hard but doable. When my cravings were really bad I would pace up and down like a demented woman.
11 months on I can relax and watch tv like a normal person.
When the going gets tough the tough keep going.
Least it's not raining.
11 months on I can relax and watch tv like a normal person.
When the going gets tough the tough keep going.
Least it's not raining.
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Originally Posted by rainyengland
trying ..just not got any ideas ..what do normal people do !?!
...During the hours in question outlined in your first post I cook & clean up dinner, text or chat with my adult daughters that are on their own now, visit my home/bed bound MIL with my husband, pet my dogs, read a book or something online while my hubs watches sports (it is always sports season for him), educate myself on a new interest, go for a walk, yoga... etc. There’s always something to do. Not doing anything is nice too.
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Originally Posted by rainyengland
...just fed up with the not drinking game ..
You asked for advice? Change that mindset immediately.
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Originally Posted by rainyengland
Thanks ..I need a slap
just feeling fed up ..got a cuppa and going to watch some old trash on tv 👍🏻
And in hindsight of original post got a load to do , just can’t be bothered 🙈
just feeling fed up ..got a cuppa and going to watch some old trash on tv 👍🏻
And in hindsight of original post got a load to do , just can’t be bothered 🙈
I think that's the problem... alcohol makes you not be able to bother about anything else. It sucks the interest for life and former joys out of you. It's incredibly greedy. All it wants you to do is sit and drink. That's what's so eye-opening after you get to the other side of it. Is that really what you want to be your legacy? Your contribution, what you are known for? I decided I no longer wanted drinking wine (in my case) to be my main occupation and hobby.
Since it's a physical and mental addiction, you have to go through the uncomfortable time when you are getting unaddicted.. but it's so worth it in every way.
Life is such a gift, and experiencing it truly and fully is worth so much more than sitting and pouring a poisonous liquid down your throat.
I am speaking from my personal experience here. Life can be SO much better.
What did you like to do when you were a kid? Before you drank? There's so much to explore, see, discover and do.. You have the great opportunity now to do it!!
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Originally Posted by tealily
Rainy,
I think that's the problem... alcohol makes you not be able to bother about anything else. It sucks the interest for life and former joys out of you. It's incredibly greedy. All it wants you to do is sit and drink. That's what's so eye-opening after you get to the other side of it. Is that really what you want to be your legacy? Your contribution, what you are known for? I decided I no longer wanted drinking wine (in my case) to be my main occupation and hobby.
Since it's a physical and mental addiction, you have to go through the uncomfortable time when you are getting unaddicted.. but it's so worth it in every way.
Life is such a gift, and experiencing it truly and fully is worth so much more than sitting and pouring a poisonous liquid down your throat.
I am speaking from my personal experience here. Life can be SO much better.
What did you like to do when you were a kid? Before you drank? There's so much to explore, see, discover and do.. You have the great opportunity now to do it!!
I think that's the problem... alcohol makes you not be able to bother about anything else. It sucks the interest for life and former joys out of you. It's incredibly greedy. All it wants you to do is sit and drink. That's what's so eye-opening after you get to the other side of it. Is that really what you want to be your legacy? Your contribution, what you are known for? I decided I no longer wanted drinking wine (in my case) to be my main occupation and hobby.
Since it's a physical and mental addiction, you have to go through the uncomfortable time when you are getting unaddicted.. but it's so worth it in every way.
Life is such a gift, and experiencing it truly and fully is worth so much more than sitting and pouring a poisonous liquid down your throat.
I am speaking from my personal experience here. Life can be SO much better.
What did you like to do when you were a kid? Before you drank? There's so much to explore, see, discover and do.. You have the great opportunity now to do it!!
Thanks , that makes sense ..it’s consumed my life hasn’t it ! I’ll get off my bum now !
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I agree with Tealily. There are things to do and maybe things you'd like to do, but the alcohol destroy your initiative. I remember not caring about much of anything. But, you can change this. Start slowly and do some soul-searching to think of things you'd like to do. And, I think, for me, recovery has allowed me to embrace the simple things. I read a lot and love it. I keep up with my grown children, their spouses and my grandchildren. listen to music. I have recently discovered podcasts and am having so much fun with those. I walk a lot. I keep my home uncluttered because I feel so much more calm that way. Embrace the simple things in life. 
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Sounds like you’re talking yourself into drinking again. If drinking was that great then people wouldn’t be on SR. You have to want sobriety and recovery more than anything in your life; that means action and getting to AA meetings for example instead of being bored at home. Get working a recovery program and that’ll keep you busy. Recovery is a new education and is a daily practice which will film your mind and get you to socialise at meetings.
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Not sure I am in a position to give advice at 111 days but I too was a nightly wine addict with a very similar sounding daily pattern.
The first week or two was tough but then I developed some new routines for that time frame.
These include watching instructional videos on things I enjoy, reading a lot and a few select TV shows.
It had to be pretty regimented at first just fyi but then I began to look forward to these things which are starting to add value to other areas of my life.
Hang in there and like the others said, find things that occupy your mind.
The first week or two was tough but then I developed some new routines for that time frame.
These include watching instructional videos on things I enjoy, reading a lot and a few select TV shows.
It had to be pretty regimented at first just fyi but then I began to look forward to these things which are starting to add value to other areas of my life.
Hang in there and like the others said, find things that occupy your mind.
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As a suggestion to share with you, I enjoy gardening.
When i'm outside tending to my gardens, then i'm
also in tuned with nature. Birds, butterflies, all those
many other little creatures that come to visit me on
a daily bases.
Here's is a link that several of our SR folks including
myself post on daily about our gardens if you'd like
to come read or share.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7280453
There is always something new to learn in recovery
and in new interests. Maybe gardening?
When i'm outside tending to my gardens, then i'm
also in tuned with nature. Birds, butterflies, all those
many other little creatures that come to visit me on
a daily bases.
Here's is a link that several of our SR folks including
myself post on daily about our gardens if you'd like
to come read or share.
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ml#post7280453
There is always something new to learn in recovery
and in new interests. Maybe gardening?
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