crazychef

I went 10 days. Which is really good for me. I turned 40 this week, it was the first sober birthday since I've been 16 so 24 years. I'm on the edge of commitment. It's something I know has been a long time coming but its hard.

My job as a chef/Captain/ fishing guide has me in happy vacation spots always which I love. But in the Caribbean its normal to have a beer at 7 am. I just started a new job on a nice yacht, the crew doesn't seem like party animals so thats good but they invited me out to their weekly ritual at a restaurant and football. I don't wan't to not fit in because a crew is a team and don't want to be the odd man out off the start.

I usually take travelling jobs always leaving. This boat mostly stays at the same spot so maybe I can join a gym or find a local meeting? My job is weird that I live with who I work with so I can't brush off co workers and just go home

least

Ten days sober is great! You'll just have to dig deep in your soul to find the self-discipline to say "no thanks" to alcohol. It can be done. I was an alone drinker and I quit. If you want to stay sober, you must want to be sober more than you want to drink. Not easy, but simple.

WaterOx

hey 10 days is how it starts. Sobriety can be a progression as well.

BTW your icon is scary AF LOL!

Dee74

ten days is a good start

I think it's possible to be the non drinking guy and still be part of the crew and to fit in. I have saikling mates who do not drink.

I do remember my insecurity played merry hell with me about that in my 20s and 30s but I wish I'd been mature enough to stop back then instead of destroying my health, my relationships and my career and stopping at 40 cos I was literally nearly dead.

I've never had more fun or a more active social life than I do now since I quit drinking. True story

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AnvilheadII

as a chef, if one of the "team" had a food allergy, the kind that can kill a person, would you make sure to prepare non-allergen foods for that person, or would the crew person just try to eat "like everyone else" to fit in?

Anna

10 days is great!

Your job sounds really good, and I hope that you can become comfortable with being the non-drinker in the group. It's helpful that it's a weekly ritual rather than a daily one, so you can prepare yourself.

Lucinda2

10 days is fab! Good plan about mixing up your work/live life with something else outside of that. I think for most of us when we quit drinking adding some new routines in helps.