Hello all
So here I am again, another reset needed, another sober October - who knows. Still read this forum regularly, still conflicted.
My coping strategy for my mental and physical health has always been alcohol- never really understood why especially as many times after going out I moan to my partner I hate it. I have recently had an answer to that- after 50 long years I’ve been diagnosis with ASD- I long for the same daily structure but hate it.
I nearly blew it on my first day- been waiting for a decision on a back payment of benefit that should have been 9k - was denied it. I had planned to offer this to my IVA in full and final settlement- instead now have another 5 years to go.
I have been working for 4 months but that’s all going wrong due to my poor health.
any way from the past I know I need to stay close to this forum for next few days.
Wish me luck

Are you able to appeal the decision? I know it’s probably a rigmarole you don’t need right now .. but ...

Good luck & good to have you here.

Thanks for the reply’s, I am going to appeal for lots of reasons- makes it slightly more difficult in that I am a civil servant myself. The decision was for the past and not my current circumstances- strangely they have decided it would be a danger to my mental health if I had a job in the next 18 months even though I work full time.
As to tonight, day one in the bag- Going back to work tomorrow after two sick days as my mental and physical health is very poor at the moment.
Plan going forward is to hopefully change routines, start yoga again and try and be kind to myself. From what I remember lemonade and ice cream were very appreciated in the first few weeks

Get to some AA meetings.