Wife's cancer diagnosis
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I'm very sorry to learn of your wife's cancer diagnosis.
I'm hopeful that it has a favorable resolution to it.
It sounds like her oncologists have a plan to attack it.
I admire your decision to stay sober for yourself, for her and for your son.
Please keep us posted as to her progress.
As others have posted, we're praying for all of you, amigo.
I'm hopeful that it has a favorable resolution to it.
It sounds like her oncologists have a plan to attack it.
I admire your decision to stay sober for yourself, for her and for your son.
Please keep us posted as to her progress.
As others have posted, we're praying for all of you, amigo.
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Join Date: Oct 2017
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I thought I would provide an update.
My wife's chemotherapy has completed. She was incredibly brave but it was very tough, especially towards the end as chemo is cumulative. She's been pretty much bedridden so I've been running around a lot looking after everything. Our 18-year-old son has been incredible, I was very worried about him but he has coped really well. He's at Uni so has lots of distractions.
The consultants are pleased with her progress. Next thing is surgery, radiotherapy and then the treatment is complete - apart from visits every 3 weeks for 45 weeks for more drugs.
I don't know what the future holds for us but I have not 'drank at it' and being sober through this has helped incredibly. Being present and aware, able to deal with things at any time. I've been stable and reliable. Being in a condition to check on her through the night, drive to the hospital, etc. I couldn't have done this whilst drinking. We are coping and I'll face into whatever comes next, sober.
My wife's chemotherapy has completed. She was incredibly brave but it was very tough, especially towards the end as chemo is cumulative. She's been pretty much bedridden so I've been running around a lot looking after everything. Our 18-year-old son has been incredible, I was very worried about him but he has coped really well. He's at Uni so has lots of distractions.
The consultants are pleased with her progress. Next thing is surgery, radiotherapy and then the treatment is complete - apart from visits every 3 weeks for 45 weeks for more drugs.
I don't know what the future holds for us but I have not 'drank at it' and being sober through this has helped incredibly. Being present and aware, able to deal with things at any time. I've been stable and reliable. Being in a condition to check on her through the night, drive to the hospital, etc. I couldn't have done this whilst drinking. We are coping and I'll face into whatever comes next, sober.
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Hi everyone,
It's been a while so I thought I would update this post.
My wife has completed surgery and radiotherapy and has another couple of rounds of chemo and then the treatment is down to 6 monthly. We had a recent scare where she felt some pain in the breast but they checked it out and there was nothing to be alarmed about. Some post surgery pain is pretty common. We have come a long way and the prognosis is good.
All this has happened during Covid19 which has added more stress to everything. She is now starting to go back to work which is a relief but I wonder how long she will last, her job is very stressful and at this stage of her life, she hates it. I would rather have less money than her be exposed to that again. She is a solicitor and deals in tragedy daily.
I have not drunk at all through this. Looking back on the last year, I don't think I would have coped with the situation we were in if I have been drunk. I have almost 3 years (in October).
Being sober has made me a better partner, father and person, of that, I have no doubt in my mind. I have realised that the difference between the drunk me and the sober me is pretty huge.
I wish everyone struggling the best and don't give up. You are not alone.
It's been a while so I thought I would update this post.
My wife has completed surgery and radiotherapy and has another couple of rounds of chemo and then the treatment is down to 6 monthly. We had a recent scare where she felt some pain in the breast but they checked it out and there was nothing to be alarmed about. Some post surgery pain is pretty common. We have come a long way and the prognosis is good.
All this has happened during Covid19 which has added more stress to everything. She is now starting to go back to work which is a relief but I wonder how long she will last, her job is very stressful and at this stage of her life, she hates it. I would rather have less money than her be exposed to that again. She is a solicitor and deals in tragedy daily.
I have not drunk at all through this. Looking back on the last year, I don't think I would have coped with the situation we were in if I have been drunk. I have almost 3 years (in October).
Being sober has made me a better partner, father and person, of that, I have no doubt in my mind. I have realised that the difference between the drunk me and the sober me is pretty huge.
I wish everyone struggling the best and don't give up. You are not alone.
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Seeing how you are putting your wife's needs front and center is really touching. Your story is a true testament for what recovery can do for us and for the ones we love. Sending peaceful loving vibes to you and yours
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I’m so glad she is doing well, and I think that’s wonderful that you are thinking about her and figuring out if the stressful job is worth it. Also, congratulations on staying sober throughout, I am sure that meant a lot to your wife!
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