Reminding myself I don't drink
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Reminding myself I don't drink
34 days behind me and the desire to drink is with me today.
I notice myself trying to justify it.
I feel like I can judge these thoughts as if they are someone else.
I do think that it could be possible to moderate in the future however I think that right now it is easier to abstain than to moderate.
Oh hang on... Moderate alcohol consumption is like 2 beers??? So half an hour of keeping my hand busy. That wouldn't be enough.
I notice myself trying to justify it.
I feel like I can judge these thoughts as if they are someone else.
I do think that it could be possible to moderate in the future however I think that right now it is easier to abstain than to moderate.
Oh hang on... Moderate alcohol consumption is like 2 beers??? So half an hour of keeping my hand busy. That wouldn't be enough.
Moderating for me will be boring and an extreme waste of time. The point of alcohol is to get drunk. That I thankfully no longer want to do. I miss the nice drunk feeling but I sure as hell dont miss the inevitable horrible consequences. Like most things in life this is weighing up the pros and cons. And the answer is always the same.
Congratulations on thirty four days.
It sounds like you're bargaining with yourself. For me, that's a game of Russian roulette. Do it long enough and something bad is going to happen.
I am a real alcoholic, there's no such thing as moderation for me. I drank to get drunk, and after ten and a half years sober, I can barely recall what feeling drunk was like. But oh do I remember the consequences. That's kind of odd , now that I think about it.
I hope you don't let you bargain yourself into drinking. What would be the point In moderating? There is no middle ground for me. I simply cannot control my drinking, nor will I ever be. I know this to be true.
With more sober time you may, if you're a real alcoholic, realize this too.
Best to you in sobriety.
It sounds like you're bargaining with yourself. For me, that's a game of Russian roulette. Do it long enough and something bad is going to happen.
I am a real alcoholic, there's no such thing as moderation for me. I drank to get drunk, and after ten and a half years sober, I can barely recall what feeling drunk was like. But oh do I remember the consequences. That's kind of odd , now that I think about it.
I hope you don't let you bargain yourself into drinking. What would be the point In moderating? There is no middle ground for me. I simply cannot control my drinking, nor will I ever be. I know this to be true.
With more sober time you may, if you're a real alcoholic, realize this too.
Best to you in sobriety.
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I looked and looked online for research studies or stories about heavy drinkers who successfully become moderate drinkers. I found no such cases. It’s not clear why any former heavy drinker/alcohol dependent considers themselves any different. If you try and moderate, you’ll end up as a heavy drinker again.
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For me, I had to truly, truly believe that moderation was impossible, that I could not control my drinking but also truly believe I could live a better life without drinking. Good luck to you.
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Over the past few weeks I have definitely had and seen the possibilitys of a better life. I have found joy without drinking
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Great job on 34 days. I hope you put any inkling of the moderation idea aside- it could turn into action today, tomorrow, in a week if you keep on toying with it.
Sober time can convince us completely that our only option for a healthy, happy and truly less problem-filled life is sobriety.
Keep going.
Sober time can convince us completely that our only option for a healthy, happy and truly less problem-filled life is sobriety.
Keep going.
Alcoholics view normies from the outside. We want what they have, but we lack the clarity to understand that we are different than normies. We can only achieve what they seem to have through abstinence, while they can achieve it through moderation. This seems like a universal flaw in the alcoholic mind, and we need to see that for what it is, not for what we want.
I can't moderate, either. I know, I tried for thirty years. I was reading Alcohol Explained last night and it was talking about how as time passes, our bad memories of our drinking can fade and the good memories can get stronger. We can end up looking back on drinking with rose colored glasses. I did what he said and wrote out how drinking made me feel. I did it while I was still drinking, which is a plus, but you can do it with some time sober, too. Really think back to how it made you feel while you were drinking and the next day or so. For me, there was a short initial pleasure and relaxation, followed by a headache, feeling tired, wanting to stay away from everyone because I knew it would show, regret that I had drank again, loss of muscle control. And that doesn't even take in to account the horrid next morning. I'm trying hard to remember it how it was and not create a happy drunk in my imagination.
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Moderation never worked for me. One sip and the beast awoke and nothing could stop me.
The only way out for me was to quit for good.
Youve got got a good amount of time under your belt. Hang in there. It gets better.
The only way out for me was to quit for good.
Youve got got a good amount of time under your belt. Hang in there. It gets better.
Hiya FinalCall,
I love the nickname....reminds me of what I heard all too frequently from the end of the bar: "Last call!"
Thirty-four days? I know men and women with 34 years who can't moderate, and wouldn't try for their lives (which it is, actually).
Busy hands, indeed. Well, my Nana from Sicilia taught me to crochet when I was a little boy, and when I first started in AA I picked up crochet again. Got a nice blanket out of it.
Better than the alternative, if you know what I mean.
I love the nickname....reminds me of what I heard all too frequently from the end of the bar: "Last call!"
Thirty-four days? I know men and women with 34 years who can't moderate, and wouldn't try for their lives (which it is, actually).
Busy hands, indeed. Well, my Nana from Sicilia taught me to crochet when I was a little boy, and when I first started in AA I picked up crochet again. Got a nice blanket out of it.
Better than the alternative, if you know what I mean.
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