I’m struggling big time
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Originally Posted by Mummyto2 
I’m still drinking wine
Start stopping now by putting down the wine.
Call AA or local mental health department and ask for help.
Keep posting on here.
Pick up the keyboard every time you feel like picking up the bottle.
Don't pick up the bottle while waiting for a reply.
When alcohol would be screaming my name, I would tell myself that i could wait 15 minutes. If in 15 minutes, I still wanted a drink, it would still be there waiting for me. Then I would go out for a walk to give my mind something else to focus on. There were times it would take a second 15 minutes. Sometimes it would take a third, but sooner or later the screaming would stop.
My sobriety started with 15 minute time intervals but has built into 16 years. It all started by starting. They may have been baby steps, but they were steps.
You don't drown by falling into the river. You drown by staying there.
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So you’re drinking today? That’s ok. Maybe you’ll drink tomorrow and the next day. That’s ok too. But do you really want to? I mean, whether you stop drinking today or in 3 or 10 more days doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
I understand the sentiment and the kindness here BABM but man, if there's one message I hammer home it's the sooner we quit drinking, the sooner we start to get better.
10 days was about the length of my last bender. Damn near killed me.
Do all you can to make a day one M2
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Originally Posted by Dee74
This is gonna be an Old Timer post I'm afraid
I understand the sentiment and the kindness here BABM but man, if there's one message I hammer home it's the sooner we quit drinking, the sooner we start to get better.
10 days was about the length of my last bender. Damn near killed me.
Do all you can to make a day one M2
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I understand the sentiment and the kindness here BABM but man, if there's one message I hammer home it's the sooner we quit drinking, the sooner we start to get better.
10 days was about the length of my last bender. Damn near killed me.
Do all you can to make a day one M2
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yeah ten was about the range at the end, until the money dried up or I got sick. Then 3-4 days off the sauce to start again for the next two weeks.
That's why I say a lot can actually happen in ten days.
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That's why I say a lot can actually happen in ten days.
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Mt2
Really sorry for your struggle, i know that feeling, I'm sure most of us do. Whatever has happened, get rid of any alcohol and the empties. Whatever it feels like, you can take that one step...and then the next,,,and the next: if you look ahead it may seem a long way, and we all know what looking back is like. But every moment in the present you are not drinking, you are winning...even if it doesn't feel like that. Hang in there, we are with you....
Really sorry for your struggle, i know that feeling, I'm sure most of us do. Whatever has happened, get rid of any alcohol and the empties. Whatever it feels like, you can take that one step...and then the next,,,and the next: if you look ahead it may seem a long way, and we all know what looking back is like. But every moment in the present you are not drinking, you are winning...even if it doesn't feel like that. Hang in there, we are with you....
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What may help you to avoid the next time would
be to talk about what led up to you picking up a
drink this time.
Anytime was share what going on with us, what
is troubling us, disturbing us, making us mad, angry,
ruffling our feathers and so on, with others, we get
some positive feed back.
Folks will share what they did to solve this problem
and continue to use those suggestion each time that
similar problem pops up again. They will share with you/
me/us that helpful solution to use in place of picking
up a drink and stop that cycle, that addiction to alcohol.
The only way it will continue to work, a person remaining
sober on a continuous bases and become successful in life
and recovery would be to apply all those helpful suggestions
each and every time.
You never have to pick up a drink of alcohol or
get back on the merry go round of insanity again
if you come here and share with us, ask for help,
ask for helpful suggestion to apply to a problem
you are struggling with.
SR is always here for you if you cant make a meeting.
Folks are always here to help you, guide you by
sharing their own experiences, strengths and hopes
of what their life was and is like before, during and
after addiction.
SR can be a your life line in helping you remain
sober one day at a time. Use us, because that is
what we are here for.
Support, care and understanding for you.
be to talk about what led up to you picking up a
drink this time.
Anytime was share what going on with us, what
is troubling us, disturbing us, making us mad, angry,
ruffling our feathers and so on, with others, we get
some positive feed back.
Folks will share what they did to solve this problem
and continue to use those suggestion each time that
similar problem pops up again. They will share with you/
me/us that helpful solution to use in place of picking
up a drink and stop that cycle, that addiction to alcohol.
The only way it will continue to work, a person remaining
sober on a continuous bases and become successful in life
and recovery would be to apply all those helpful suggestions
each and every time.
You never have to pick up a drink of alcohol or
get back on the merry go round of insanity again
if you come here and share with us, ask for help,
ask for helpful suggestion to apply to a problem
you are struggling with.
SR is always here for you if you cant make a meeting.
Folks are always here to help you, guide you by
sharing their own experiences, strengths and hopes
of what their life was and is like before, during and
after addiction.
SR can be a your life line in helping you remain
sober one day at a time. Use us, because that is
what we are here for.
Support, care and understanding for you.
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Originally Posted by Mummyto2
I couldn’t manage today but tomorrow please god thanks everyone x
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Mummy, sorry you are still drinking, but not all is lost. You are not a failure, you’re likely just an alcoholic. Like I said, it takes what it takes. It’s up to you when you decide you are done. The people on this board want you to quit right now because they don’t want to see you suffer or even worse do something that you can’t come back from (car crash, heart attack, overdose, stroke, etc).
Getting sober is is an uncomfortable process. And we can’t wait until we feel just right or just strong enough to embark on this voyage. Ironically it is often when we are at our very lowest that we are willing to truly surrender. To admit that the way we’ve been doing things is absolutely not working for us. That we need help. Help can come in the form of detox, or therapy, or this board or AA (or my recommendation and what I do - All of them). The support is out there waiting for you. And we’re all rooting for you.
By the way, I think it’s great that you still checked in even though you were drinking. Honesty and accountability will both serve you well when you finally decide to join us in recovery.
Getting sober is is an uncomfortable process. And we can’t wait until we feel just right or just strong enough to embark on this voyage. Ironically it is often when we are at our very lowest that we are willing to truly surrender. To admit that the way we’ve been doing things is absolutely not working for us. That we need help. Help can come in the form of detox, or therapy, or this board or AA (or my recommendation and what I do - All of them). The support is out there waiting for you. And we’re all rooting for you.
By the way, I think it’s great that you still checked in even though you were drinking. Honesty and accountability will both serve you well when you finally decide to join us in recovery.
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