3 weeks sober
 

Three weeks is a great start. Welcome :)!

You should be proud of the fact that you are actually doing something about your addiction, your husband should be supportive of you whatever the weather.

3 weeks is great by the way :c011: I'm also 3 weeks sober :)

Welcome, GMA. I hid my drinking from my husband too. Also, my co-workers & everyone else in my life. Those who judge us just don't understand how complicated it is, and the hell that we go through. That's why I love being here at SR - where everyone understands and tries to help.

Be proud that you recognized the problem and got yourself free. Some never own up to it - and go their whole lives trying to manage it. Congratulations on your hard-earned 3 weeks. We're so glad you're here.

welcome GMA - congrats on 3 weeks :)

Give your husband a little more time - from what you write it it must have been a great shock to him.

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GMA, massive congratulations for the 3 weeks alcohol free.

I also hid from my husband. Astonishingly he did not know. I am still trying to digest that fact. How could he not notice? How far away are we from each other? Obviously, I am greatly to blame for the distance. Only distance could help the hiding. Still, I would have noticed if he was getting drunk every night and having blackouts several times in a month. He didn't. So you may feel a bit betrayed too.

However, if my husband had hidden from me something this big I would be really really upset and probably beyond angry. This is worse than a sexual affair in my view. The many lies, the money, the energy... The many travels where he left me in charge of our children trusting he was leaving a responsible adult behind. The two times he has been really worried I had a heart problem/serious health issues due to my crazy anxiety if I exceeded my 'normal' intake... I could go on and on.

I expected him to walk away. He didn't. He has not expressed any anger. I don't think this is very healthy either. While I highly appreciate his support and that he considers my sobriety more important than his feelings, I am expecting this to come up one way or another.

In my view, it is pretty healthy that your husband is showing his own emotions. It is a betrayal, particularly when the person betrayed is not an addict. How can they understand you put your addiction above your most basic instinct of survival (including food or your family)?

Keep focused on not drinking and probably on being honest with your husband, accepting that your relationship might have suffered some damage that needs repairing when you are both ready.

3 weeks is epic. Keep going like that and my guess is that your husband will regain his trust.

Welcome aboard. I look forward to making the journey with you. :)

You say "only" 3 weeks? That is a huge accomplishment...I have about 4 weeks...1 month today....and it is a huge accomplishment....

Never minimize the work that you are doing....Congratulations on 3 weeks!

Welcome to the family. :grouphug: Three weeks is a great start. :) Stay sober and work to be your best self. :hug: When I started out, my kids hated me and didn't trust me. Now our relationships are better than ever. Time and sobriety can work things out. :)

Congratulations on your sobriety!

Do you have a support plan and/or recovery system to make use of, beyond SR? The greater the support network the stronger my recovery has been. Not alcoholic, simply I relate very much. :)

Good luck on your recovery journey!

Life changes. Birthday celebrations can, too. What's for dinner on your birthday is a great place to put focus: yummy food, an environment without alcohol and your choice in doing new, healthy things for your life. You deserve this!!

Alcoholism is non-discriminatory. You've started on a journey in awareness, healthy actions and knowing yourself in ways that can benefit you each day. This is great and deserves recognition.

It's your choice to view this as sad or happy.

Kudos to you for choosing recovery!

Btw - I've seen and experienced great changes in birthday celebrations. It's much easier with accepting things have to change if I'm going to change my own thoughts, habits and inner beliefs.

To value "this day" greatly each and every day allows new ways of experiencing life.

"With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. - Eleanor Roosevelt

It's okay to be sad or whatever you feel. I've spent many birthdays with no one to notice. It's okay.

The only way all of this gets better, from your moods to your husband's acceptance is by staying sober. A pill or a drink won't fix any of this.

Hang on. It's hard but it's worth it.