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Old 08-19-2019, 02:48 PM   #21 (permalink)
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A two months fitness challenge sounds like the ideal way to compliment not drinking, it should help to reduce the desire to drink and improve your sleep which in turn lifts our mood and makes quitting easier so it's all good.

Once you get some sober time behind you it will help see you through any tough days - which everybody has from time to time - as you won't want to throw that time away

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Old 08-19-2019, 03:03 PM   #22 (permalink)
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I know I need to only drink light beers
If you're a drinker like me, you need to drink no beers at all.

Light beer just made me bloated and I'd end up drinking 'heavy' beer anyway, if not that night soon after.

I had to stop hanging around drinkers for a while. It was a tough call, but I really wanted change.

The only way I changed my life, was to change my life, y'know?

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Old 08-19-2019, 06:05 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Yep, I agree the Saturday plan should go out the window. Glad you're taking action to make that happen.

Can you commit to posting here at least once/day? That's really helpful for me; I actually post at least twice daily for the time being - once at the beginning of my day and again at the end. It's a discipline and accountability thing - for myself.

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Old 08-20-2019, 06:10 PM   #24 (permalink)
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How are you getting on, FiF?
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Old 08-20-2019, 09:08 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Oh yeah...to this day (that's a pun maybe) my favorite time to quit or change anything is tomorrow!
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Old 08-21-2019, 03:31 AM   #26 (permalink)
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I want to start cutting down by only drinking on Saturday nights if I go out with friends. I keep pushing it back because every day something seems to come up where I feel I should have a few drinks and relax and start tomorrow. I know how this sounds. I just can't imagine doing total abstinence. I am thinking of committing to thirty days and going from there.
Wow! I can't tell you how much this resonates with me. I know all about "starting tomorrow." I know about the feeling of innocence involved in "having a few drinks just to relax." That was me. Every night my drinking started off with good intentions. I just needed to relax after a hard day, celebrate after a good day, or just an innocently 'take the edge off'.

I also know how much that actually contributed to my eventual downward spiral, where even at my bottom, my drinking always started with an innocent reason. It was one of the biggest things I had to overcome on my path to recovery.

You seem to be a bit more aware than I was, because you're posting here, which suggests you are recognizing you may have to understand where you are at a little better. When I recognized my problem, it never occurred to me to talk to anyone about it. It was always, "I'll start tomorrow." I kept that up for years.

You may not be an alcoholic, and you might be able to drink once a month with friends, but you are wondering about it. Incidentally, most written tests for alcoholism usually include a yes/no question along the lines of, "I sometimes wonder if I drink more than I should." Of course, it's only one of many indicators of a more serious problem, as alcoholics are just as likely to completely deny they give their drinking any thought at all.

So, you can take some time to process your situation some more, but if you are an alcoholic, keep in mind that your only way out of downward spiral is to quit altogether. A bitter pill to swallow? Seems like it right now, but eventually abstinence will seem like a miracle, not only because you found it, but because you never thought it could be so wonderful.
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Old 08-21-2019, 03:41 AM   #27 (permalink)
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Also, keep in mind that blacking out is serious. I've heard it can happen the first time someone drinks, but I think that is rare. I usually think of blackouts as a sign of advanced alcoholism.
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So, last night my daughter started back with her ballet classes. She used to go once a week but now it's two nights a week. One long standing habit I have is that while she is in class there is a bar really close by. For the last five years, I've always went over and had a couple drinks at that time. My ex husband and I always did it. Since the divorce I've done it alone or meet a friend. I've decided if the weather is good I'm going to go walking or running during that time. I hate to just sit there and wait. Anyways, def going to be a struggle for awhile.
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yeah it's hard to change and to make choices based on wanting to change - but support helps. You can do this femaleinflorida

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