When the AV starts calling.....am I ready? Weekenders 09 - 12 August 2019
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Hi everyone,
Some of you will remember me and others won't, but I think of you all often and I wish you all well.
I am still standing in spite of everything. My auntie was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer last November (despite never having smoked a cigarette in her life.) She has good and bad days - like all of us - but when she gets an infection now we are all waiting with bated breath. My mom is particularly annoying as well as she keeps asking if "I own a good black coat?" - I don't by the way. The closest I have is a dark purple.
My brother took us all by surprise as well as he has separated from his wife. They tried to have a baby but it ended in a miscarriage and although they tried marriage counselling, they could not make it work. My brother told me that "they had stopped working as a team". They talked about things but never the deeper things. They have moved to different places, but she did leave him the cat, although he said the cat is more traumatized than him and won't leave the closet.
As for me? Well I am still standing (kind of). I got my permanent promotion (eventually although it is still subject to a year's probation (great!) I stopped going to the gym but I am going back this week and I want to start swimming as well. A few people (mostly mom) have commented on my weight, although it seems to be mostly around my middle so my dad had a (more tactful) word with me and gave me a few suggestions. He says I'm not really fat (just around the middle) and I just need toning up. Ok that I can deal with.
So I am just sitting here and watching a French film on Netflix called "Nothing to Hide". It's actually quite amusing as its about a group of middle aged couples plus one who have a dinner party and to make things interesting they put all their phones in the middle of the table and each text/message/email gets read out by someone else.
I am just having a cup of tea and I raise my cup to all of you friends - old and new.
Take care,
Tetra
Some of you will remember me and others won't, but I think of you all often and I wish you all well.
I am still standing in spite of everything. My auntie was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer last November (despite never having smoked a cigarette in her life.) She has good and bad days - like all of us - but when she gets an infection now we are all waiting with bated breath. My mom is particularly annoying as well as she keeps asking if "I own a good black coat?" - I don't by the way. The closest I have is a dark purple.
My brother took us all by surprise as well as he has separated from his wife. They tried to have a baby but it ended in a miscarriage and although they tried marriage counselling, they could not make it work. My brother told me that "they had stopped working as a team". They talked about things but never the deeper things. They have moved to different places, but she did leave him the cat, although he said the cat is more traumatized than him and won't leave the closet.
As for me? Well I am still standing (kind of). I got my permanent promotion (eventually although it is still subject to a year's probation (great!) I stopped going to the gym but I am going back this week and I want to start swimming as well. A few people (mostly mom) have commented on my weight, although it seems to be mostly around my middle so my dad had a (more tactful) word with me and gave me a few suggestions. He says I'm not really fat (just around the middle) and I just need toning up. Ok that I can deal with.
So I am just sitting here and watching a French film on Netflix called "Nothing to Hide". It's actually quite amusing as its about a group of middle aged couples plus one who have a dinner party and to make things interesting they put all their phones in the middle of the table and each text/message/email gets read out by someone else.
I am just having a cup of tea and I raise my cup to all of you friends - old and new.
Take care,
Tetra
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Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 591
Sorry about your aunt Tetra? Why are you barely still standing?
This is weekend I started off with an empty tool box. Over the weekend I realized my gym and yoga is a great tool. I have spent over 4 hours in the gym/yoga this weekend. I feel much stronger. Also, having good food, and work in my life are both my tools. I did a home manicure and pedicure, now it seems I’ve got some tools to work with. It’s been a peaceful and productive first weekend back.
This is weekend I started off with an empty tool box. Over the weekend I realized my gym and yoga is a great tool. I have spent over 4 hours in the gym/yoga this weekend. I feel much stronger. Also, having good food, and work in my life are both my tools. I did a home manicure and pedicure, now it seems I’ve got some tools to work with. It’s been a peaceful and productive first weekend back.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,187
Good to see you Tetra. VMan has mentioned you in this week's thread. Congratulations on you promotion.
Congratulations on the gym/yoga mariposa. Physical activity is great for developing a good sleeping pattern which reduces and prevents cravings so all good.
I would be in bed myself normally but I am on leave next week too.
Congratulations on the gym/yoga mariposa. Physical activity is great for developing a good sleeping pattern which reduces and prevents cravings so all good.
I would be in bed myself normally but I am on leave next week too.
glad to hear from you please write again soon!
Sober-T- Dragon
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
Posts: 8,756
Another good day. Busy clearing the garage on one side by moving everything to the other. I did take a load of stuff to the recyclers tho. Clearing space to put up a peg board and an over-hang for lights. When done, I'll move my new work benches into the space. I'm quite chuffed with the work bench table top, it turned out nicely. I'll get a pic up soon as it's all organized.
Tomorrow is a family outing to the movies.
Tomorrow is a family outing to the movies.
Magsie
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,644
Morning Weekenders
Another Monday morning and the weekend unscathed by alcohol.
Good to see you Tetra. So sorry about your aunt love.
Mariposa, I’m pleased your tool box is filling. Sounds like you had a good weekend.
Saou, all the best for the op with week.
Dragon, phew, I bet your garage will be great when you’ve finished.
It’s turned cold and the heating has switched on, it does when it gets below 18, I think it is. Feels quite wintry outside.
We’re here all through the week too, if you want to stick around.
Catch you later.
Another Monday morning and the weekend unscathed by alcohol.
Good to see you Tetra. So sorry about your aunt love.
Mariposa, I’m pleased your tool box is filling. Sounds like you had a good weekend.
Saou, all the best for the op with week.
Dragon, phew, I bet your garage will be great when you’ve finished.
It’s turned cold and the heating has switched on, it does when it gets below 18, I think it is. Feels quite wintry outside.
We’re here all through the week too, if you want to stick around.
Catch you later.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,187
Thanks Mags, the op itself is on Wednesday.
It does feel like it somedays!
I hope everyone made it through the weekend unscathed. For anyone that did drink or use and for anyone who is reading SR and knows they need to stop please know that you can do it. The power to stop is within you. You just need to really analyse your drinking and the times you really crave a drink - for me and probably most people, the evenings - and then work out a way of avoiding the cravings. For me it was getting up at a ridiculously early hour and jogging or walking and subsequently going to bed at 9pm but there are all sorts of methods.
Originally Posted by Kaily 
Wow you are 126 years old. No wonder you need a hernia op. 
I hope everyone made it through the weekend unscathed. For anyone that did drink or use and for anyone who is reading SR and knows they need to stop please know that you can do it. The power to stop is within you. You just need to really analyse your drinking and the times you really crave a drink - for me and probably most people, the evenings - and then work out a way of avoiding the cravings. For me it was getting up at a ridiculously early hour and jogging or walking and subsequently going to bed at 9pm but there are all sorts of methods.
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Join Date: Aug 2017
Posts: 850
Happy Monday everyone!
Kaily, love your dogs! Thanks for sharing the photos.
Today is back to the office and starting a new true crime podcast called "Bear Brook." So far so good. Woke up, did my workout, and now I'm about to go make some coffee and start working. Waking up hangover free never gets old. It feels like the new normal, but I don't forget what it was like to come here and feel so sick I thought I was gonna die. There was one time I was so hungover I had to go throw up in the bathroom. I was very lucky no one else came in. Crazy when you think about it - I just threw up and went about my day, like it was no big deal. Yikes.
I hope everyone has a wonderful day. I'll check in later.
Kaily, love your dogs! Thanks for sharing the photos.
Today is back to the office and starting a new true crime podcast called "Bear Brook." So far so good. Woke up, did my workout, and now I'm about to go make some coffee and start working. Waking up hangover free never gets old. It feels like the new normal, but I don't forget what it was like to come here and feel so sick I thought I was gonna die. There was one time I was so hungover I had to go throw up in the bathroom. I was very lucky no one else came in. Crazy when you think about it - I just threw up and went about my day, like it was no big deal. Yikes.
I hope everyone has a wonderful day. I'll check in later.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
Tetra, great to see you.
I'm with Sao, anyone reading this thread - you can quit. It is within your power.
Yesterday I happened to look at the lurk number on the site and it was in the 1200s. That's lot of people looking for answers. Here it is:
Throw it out. Don't buy any more. Use the power of community and the internet and books/podcasts/meetings whatever it takes. You can quit. The first few days or couple weeks is uncomfortable. Doesn't matter, keep going.
Go to bed sober tonight. You won't ever regret that one thing.
I'm with Sao, anyone reading this thread - you can quit. It is within your power.
Yesterday I happened to look at the lurk number on the site and it was in the 1200s. That's lot of people looking for answers. Here it is:
Throw it out. Don't buy any more. Use the power of community and the internet and books/podcasts/meetings whatever it takes. You can quit. The first few days or couple weeks is uncomfortable. Doesn't matter, keep going.
Go to bed sober tonight. You won't ever regret that one thing.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,808
Good Morning!
My toolbox. It was tested a bit on my trip to San Francisco with my son last week. You know the drill - vacation, all meals in restaurants, all kinds of tourists enjoying drinks everywhere around me. I had thoughts that a glass of wine or a beer would be nice a few times. It was weird - I so rarely have those thoughts. So I had to ask myself - why is this happening now? Especially at a time when I was responsible for the whole trip, and my kid at the same time? The worst POSSIBLE time to drink. It came down to this. Almost every time I had a thought, I was either Hungry, Thirsty, or Tired. I was tired almost the whole trip. I don't sleep super well away from home, and we walked an average of about 7 miles a day. I didn't stay hydrated like I should have. Our eating schedule got out of whack. It didn't help any that we were in California, and that's wine country. And I have a lot of memories there, a lot of them great, some not so great. A perfect storm for an alcoholic. I got through it fine, but it was disconcerting at times. I was never in any serious danger of actually drinking. I just didn't care for the frequency of the thoughts. Oh - it also didn't help that I have quit smoking recently, and had some cigarette cravings here and there, also. I have now been smoke-free for almost 13 days.
But the trip was fantastic. Nothing went wrong, except that one of the state park beaches I wanted to visit in the Big Sur area was full when we got there and they wouldn't let us in. It was still a really pretty day and drive. We did a lot of the touristy things you are "supposed" to do in San Francisco, and we also drove down the coast to Monterey (where I was stationed for a year while I was in the Army, 30 years ago), Carmel, Big Sur. The weather was cooperative most of the time. Hotels were decent, food great, my son and I got along 95% of the time.
And now I'm back at work, wishing I were retired and living on the Pacific coast somewhere in a little cottage with a garden and some cats and dogs. I really love California. I have family roots there, and I feel the pull every time I'm there. Maybe someday I can make that dream come true. Or at least spend more time there than a week. Rent an RV. Spend a month or two at a time just bumming around.
Glad to see everyone here, I stayed off the internet as much as I could while I was gone.
My toolbox. It was tested a bit on my trip to San Francisco with my son last week. You know the drill - vacation, all meals in restaurants, all kinds of tourists enjoying drinks everywhere around me. I had thoughts that a glass of wine or a beer would be nice a few times. It was weird - I so rarely have those thoughts. So I had to ask myself - why is this happening now? Especially at a time when I was responsible for the whole trip, and my kid at the same time? The worst POSSIBLE time to drink. It came down to this. Almost every time I had a thought, I was either Hungry, Thirsty, or Tired. I was tired almost the whole trip. I don't sleep super well away from home, and we walked an average of about 7 miles a day. I didn't stay hydrated like I should have. Our eating schedule got out of whack. It didn't help any that we were in California, and that's wine country. And I have a lot of memories there, a lot of them great, some not so great. A perfect storm for an alcoholic. I got through it fine, but it was disconcerting at times. I was never in any serious danger of actually drinking. I just didn't care for the frequency of the thoughts. Oh - it also didn't help that I have quit smoking recently, and had some cigarette cravings here and there, also. I have now been smoke-free for almost 13 days.
But the trip was fantastic. Nothing went wrong, except that one of the state park beaches I wanted to visit in the Big Sur area was full when we got there and they wouldn't let us in. It was still a really pretty day and drive. We did a lot of the touristy things you are "supposed" to do in San Francisco, and we also drove down the coast to Monterey (where I was stationed for a year while I was in the Army, 30 years ago), Carmel, Big Sur. The weather was cooperative most of the time. Hotels were decent, food great, my son and I got along 95% of the time.
And now I'm back at work, wishing I were retired and living on the Pacific coast somewhere in a little cottage with a garden and some cats and dogs. I really love California. I have family roots there, and I feel the pull every time I'm there. Maybe someday I can make that dream come true. Or at least spend more time there than a week. Rent an RV. Spend a month or two at a time just bumming around.
Glad to see everyone here, I stayed off the internet as much as I could while I was gone.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
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Oh, yes, I looked at real estate values. I already knew the deal, though. You have to be a bajillionaire to even think about actually buying anything that isn't a dump in all of the places we spent any time. It's crazy. My son was shocked every time we got a bill at a restaurant, and when he saw what we paid for our (modest) hotel rooms. Everything is expensive. I tried not to think about it too much. I budgeted for the trip. Maybe underestimated a little, but I knew every meal, even breakfast and lunch, would be at least $30-$40 for the two of us. And we are not big eaters. Imagine if mom had also been drinking...
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I want to do a little on that, "Throw it out. Don't buy any more," thing I said.
I'm female and when I was in my 20s I had that power that only a young, sort of attractive woman has. I also worked in industries where alcohol and drugs were freely offered to women in particular, but even men got a lot of freebies in the restaurant/bar/hotel/casino industries.
I know it isn't just about the alcohol I buy. It's all the alcohol offered up at any social occasion - even now 40 years later. However, when I was young I was also thoughtless and I hadn't had the hard lessons that hard drinking teaches.
I hope someone is smarter than I was. I quit the first time in my early thirties, and I was still in the bar business. I still got invited to a lot of parties, Bar B Qs, drunk camping trips, and after every shift people hung around and drank/did drugs for pretty much free.
It is possible to work in those industries and not use drugs or drink. I did it for 10 years. No means no, no matter where I am.
Blessings.
I'm female and when I was in my 20s I had that power that only a young, sort of attractive woman has. I also worked in industries where alcohol and drugs were freely offered to women in particular, but even men got a lot of freebies in the restaurant/bar/hotel/casino industries.
I know it isn't just about the alcohol I buy. It's all the alcohol offered up at any social occasion - even now 40 years later. However, when I was young I was also thoughtless and I hadn't had the hard lessons that hard drinking teaches.
I hope someone is smarter than I was. I quit the first time in my early thirties, and I was still in the bar business. I still got invited to a lot of parties, Bar B Qs, drunk camping trips, and after every shift people hung around and drank/did drugs for pretty much free.
It is possible to work in those industries and not use drugs or drink. I did it for 10 years. No means no, no matter where I am.
Blessings.
Mr
Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: FRANCE
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Good evening folks.
A quiet day here just a visit to an old folks home to see an old neighbor I used to have.
Good to hear from you Tetra.
Hope you are all doing well.
Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain
A quiet day here just a visit to an old folks home to see an old neighbor I used to have.
Good to hear from you Tetra.
Hope you are all doing well.
Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain
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