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Originally Posted by 2muchpain 
Thanks everyone for all your posts. Dee, I didn't mean to say that people bring back past posts to be mean. Maybe I should be reminded of my past posts to remind me where I was so I better know where I am. It's kinda like when someone in my family would bring up old stuff to sort of negate who I am today if that makes sense.
I've seen some people that have been here a while post that they are still struggling with drinking and get responses about how they have been struggling for a long time, so what's new? People that say these things aren't trying to be mean, but I think for some people, it just keeps them stuck and feel their efforts have meant nothing. I've probable said too much so I'll stop. John
I've seen some people that have been here a while post that they are still struggling with drinking and get responses about how they have been struggling for a long time, so what's new? People that say these things aren't trying to be mean, but I think for some people, it just keeps them stuck and feel their efforts have meant nothing. I've probable said too much so I'll stop. John
I take the good with the bad here..and any forum I am on...but if I want to be posting...good or bad...people have a choice to answer or not...to be positive or not...to be helpful or not...but I'm still going to post....and read...
If your trying to quit..these are the types of boards to read...I like to read back on my old posts..sometimes they do depress me...sometimes they give me reason to move forward.
I don't have a point...except...just do what makes you feel comfortable...if some one here doesn't make you feel comfortable...tell them! Don't ever hold back your thoughts for fear of rejection there are many other members to chat with.
Best wishes.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
It can become increasingly difficult to know what to say to someone who's been struggling for a long time - but I really think in a case like that there'd be more keeping them 'stuck' than the responses they get here John.
I'm constantly delighted at the open hearted and generous way people are treated here on SR.
We can't please everyone.....but I think we hit most of the right notes, nearly all the time
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I'm constantly delighted at the open hearted and generous way people are treated here on SR.
We can't please everyone.....but I think we hit most of the right notes, nearly all the time
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Glad you are back, John. And I only remembered some of the posts you might be thinking of or details of your journey once you brought it up - I remember YOU, as the person seeking sobriety and wanting to connect with others, not the specifics of any failure or [ ] feelings of this whole getting sober thing.
My suggestion is to take that pause others mentioned if you react by getting offended...remember that we are all self-absorbed to some degree so everyone can't respond to posts right away like the poster prob wants, and the better you can tell us what's up - even better, what you ARE trying this time- the better we can help you.
My suggestion is to take that pause others mentioned if you react by getting offended...remember that we are all self-absorbed to some degree so everyone can't respond to posts right away like the poster prob wants, and the better you can tell us what's up - even better, what you ARE trying this time- the better we can help you.
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It's also worth pointing out that you are forgetting a very important part of your past here on SR - when you were sober. You were successfully sober and a frequent/helpful contributor to this site during that time too. We can't change the past, only today. AKA - if you want a fresh start, you have to make it happen. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks or knows - especially here on SR.
Have you ever heard the saying "Wherever you go, there you are?" I think that might be applicable here. Make it happen today - put down the bottle and let us help you.
Have you ever heard the saying "Wherever you go, there you are?" I think that might be applicable here. Make it happen today - put down the bottle and let us help you.
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Hey 2MuchPain,
I want to let you know, that despite probably you haven't even heard my screen name, you are someone that I recognize and has inspired me several times that I have gone down.
For me, I do not care how many day ones someone has in here, I think that the fact you are writing today means you are willing to a fresh start.
Keep strong man.
I want to let you know, that despite probably you haven't even heard my screen name, you are someone that I recognize and has inspired me several times that I have gone down.
For me, I do not care how many day ones someone has in here, I think that the fact you are writing today means you are willing to a fresh start.
Keep strong man.
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Originally Posted by Hope1989
Hey 2MuchPain,
I want to let you know, that despite probably you haven't even heard my screen name, you are someone that I recognize and has inspired me several times that I have gone down.
For me, I do not care how many day ones someone has in here, I think that the fact you are writing today means you are willing to a fresh start.
Keep strong man.
I want to let you know, that despite probably you haven't even heard my screen name, you are someone that I recognize and has inspired me several times that I have gone down.
For me, I do not care how many day ones someone has in here, I think that the fact you are writing today means you are willing to a fresh start.
Keep strong man.
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Originally Posted by 2muchpain
I know this isn't a popular thing to say, but I'm trying to taper right now......................
........................Just gotta put the cork in the bottle and end it. John
........................Just gotta put the cork in the bottle and end it. John
As long as you continue to entertain thoughts of tapering or moderation you'll never get that fresh start - even if you were posting here for the first time.
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
As long as you continue to entertain thoughts of tapering or moderation you'll never get that fresh start - even if you were posting here for the first time.
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Hi John;
Just wanted to send you good wishes and tell you that I also have found inspiration in your posts.
I hope you keep posting and sharing
Just wanted to send you good wishes and tell you that I also have found inspiration in your posts.
I hope you keep posting and sharing
I remember kids I worked with telling me how I made a difference in their lives, and I just couldn't understand how that could be. I see me as such a mess so how could this happen? I don't get it and will probably never will. I must of done something right. I just don't know what that was. I see myself as a small unimportant person with little to offer others. Anyway, tomorrow is day 1. I have no booze left and plan on spending the next several days recovering. Except for some anxiety and sleep problems, I am not expecting any major problems. John
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We are always our own harshest critics John, especially us teachers as we think we have to be perfect role models which turns out to be mostly impossible.
I had some relapses in the past year so although I have a lot of sober time in the past five years, it hasn't been continuous.
Like you, I needed a fresh start and I took it and am building some solid continuous sober time now. You will do the same now that you are ready to start again. What is that saying; "fall down seven times, get up eight". . .
I think we are similar in that we maybe have more self-esteem issues instead of self-centeredness issues. I hope you can get support to work through that--realizing that I am a person of worth and not unimportant, just as you are, was key to me getting that first long stretch of sobriety. Doubting it again was one of the strongest influences that led to me picking up again.
Tomorrow is a new day, and I wish you a very speedy recovery on your fresh start. Remember that you have the wisdom that only comes with age and life experience, and that is a wonderful thing to share here and IRL as you grow in recovery.
You won't believe how wonderful extended sobriety can be as mature adults. I can't believe I ever let it go, but I won't be doing it again--
I had some relapses in the past year so although I have a lot of sober time in the past five years, it hasn't been continuous.
Like you, I needed a fresh start and I took it and am building some solid continuous sober time now. You will do the same now that you are ready to start again. What is that saying; "fall down seven times, get up eight". . .
I think we are similar in that we maybe have more self-esteem issues instead of self-centeredness issues. I hope you can get support to work through that--realizing that I am a person of worth and not unimportant, just as you are, was key to me getting that first long stretch of sobriety. Doubting it again was one of the strongest influences that led to me picking up again.
Tomorrow is a new day, and I wish you a very speedy recovery on your fresh start. Remember that you have the wisdom that only comes with age and life experience, and that is a wonderful thing to share here and IRL as you grow in recovery.
You won't believe how wonderful extended sobriety can be as mature adults. I can't believe I ever let it go, but I won't be doing it again--
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Hope Day 1 is off to a good start John?
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