Red flag for my bro?
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Red flag for my bro?
My brother is about 6 years drink free.
Now he tells me on Saturday that he’s been buying mackesons stout.
I said who for?
He then goes on to tell me it’s only 2.5% abv and he puts a little in a glass and tops it up with lemonade so then it becomes 0.2% abv.
I said that’s a slippery slope, but nothing more was said as we began to watch a film.
I couldn’t see myself at any point buying booze for myself to dilute, after all the misery it’s caused me. It’s took a lot more away from my brother too.
All the actions are there. buying booze, pouring booze, and drinking it (diluted)
WHY!?
Or am I being too sensitive?
Now he tells me on Saturday that he’s been buying mackesons stout.
I said who for?
He then goes on to tell me it’s only 2.5% abv and he puts a little in a glass and tops it up with lemonade so then it becomes 0.2% abv.
I said that’s a slippery slope, but nothing more was said as we began to watch a film.
I couldn’t see myself at any point buying booze for myself to dilute, after all the misery it’s caused me. It’s took a lot more away from my brother too.
All the actions are there. buying booze, pouring booze, and drinking it (diluted)
WHY!?
Or am I being too sensitive?
I'd be very concerned for him. Possibly he can keep it under control. What's his story? How serious was his drinking problem before? Why did he get sober in the first place?
I used to sometimes get NA beers when I was out with people who were drinking. I think in some desire to still sort of fit in. After a few times doing that, I realized I didn't really enjoy them, and they were just as expensive (or more!) as regular beers, so I stopped doing it. I know plenty of people who can continue to drink NA beers and wines without relapsing, but I also know a few who did relapse. That may or may not have had anything to do with what they were drinking. I don't believe it's a slippery slope for everyone.
Snowy, I'd just keep an eye on him, but you also have to realize you are not in any way responsible for any choices your bother might make. He's got his justifications for doing it all lined up, so he's gonna do what he's gonna do.
I used to sometimes get NA beers when I was out with people who were drinking. I think in some desire to still sort of fit in. After a few times doing that, I realized I didn't really enjoy them, and they were just as expensive (or more!) as regular beers, so I stopped doing it. I know plenty of people who can continue to drink NA beers and wines without relapsing, but I also know a few who did relapse. That may or may not have had anything to do with what they were drinking. I don't believe it's a slippery slope for everyone.
Snowy, I'd just keep an eye on him, but you also have to realize you are not in any way responsible for any choices your bother might make. He's got his justifications for doing it all lined up, so he's gonna do what he's gonna do.
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I'd be very concerned for him. Possibly he can keep it under control. What's his story? How serious was his drinking problem before? Why did he get sober in the first place?
I used to sometimes get NA beers when I was out with people who were drinking. I think in some desire to still sort of fit in. After a few times doing that, I realized I didn't really enjoy them, and they were just as expensive (or more!) as regular beers, so I stopped doing it. I know plenty of people who can continue to drink NA beers and wines without relapsing, but I also know a few who did relapse. That may or may not have had anything to do with what they were drinking. I don't believe it's a slippery slope for everyone.
Snowy, I'd just keep an eye on him, but you also have to realize you are not in any way responsible for any choices your bother might make. He's got his justifications for doing it all lined up, so he's gonna do what he's gonna do.
I used to sometimes get NA beers when I was out with people who were drinking. I think in some desire to still sort of fit in. After a few times doing that, I realized I didn't really enjoy them, and they were just as expensive (or more!) as regular beers, so I stopped doing it. I know plenty of people who can continue to drink NA beers and wines without relapsing, but I also know a few who did relapse. That may or may not have had anything to do with what they were drinking. I don't believe it's a slippery slope for everyone.
Snowy, I'd just keep an eye on him, but you also have to realize you are not in any way responsible for any choices your bother might make. He's got his justifications for doing it all lined up, so he's gonna do what he's gonna do.
He has 4 kids and only 1 of them will still talk to him. That’s what the booze took from him. He said if he ever started again he would be dead in 4 months because that’s how long it would take him to reach the lowest low and he would commit suicide.
He does love a drama.
He is waiting for adhd diagnosis and treatment which is taking years.
He is like a kid in an adults body.
I’ll have a chat with him tomorrow as today has been hectic.
Thanks
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I'd like to add to Dee's post.
Dee works harder than any of us here and it really bugs me when I see people criticizing him (and the rest of the Mods).
I cannot understand people who say, there is only ONE opinion allowed here. What opinion is that? I have no idea. Dee and I work very hard to make sure all voices are heard in the Newcomers Forum. We have no horse in the race.
But, we have rules. And, I know from my experience here, it's the rules that keep SR working smoothly. One of the rules is to not use the boards to complain about the Mods. You can make complaints against the Mods/Admins via PM and the complaint will always be investigated.
Dee works harder than any of us here and it really bugs me when I see people criticizing him (and the rest of the Mods).
I cannot understand people who say, there is only ONE opinion allowed here. What opinion is that? I have no idea. Dee and I work very hard to make sure all voices are heard in the Newcomers Forum. We have no horse in the race.
But, we have rules. And, I know from my experience here, it's the rules that keep SR working smoothly. One of the rules is to not use the boards to complain about the Mods. You can make complaints against the Mods/Admins via PM and the complaint will always be investigated.
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