What will today bring?
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Join Date: Feb 2016
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What will today bring?
My new routine, if you can call it that, is to enjoy the quiet morning and touch base here on SR. Then a little writing and/ or reading while the daytime creatures of the world wake up.
i have an AA sponsor and have been to a meeting each day. I'm not sure when I'm going today, but I'm going! I'm not sure what else I will do today. I have found staying busy is critical to my attitude so I'll work on a To Do list shortly.
My outlook is improving but I have some pretty down moments through the day. Doesn't help that it's really too hot to do much past mid morning. Maybe a walk is in order.
I'm rambling.
Good morning SR, I'm happy to be starting another sober day!
i have an AA sponsor and have been to a meeting each day. I'm not sure when I'm going today, but I'm going! I'm not sure what else I will do today. I have found staying busy is critical to my attitude so I'll work on a To Do list shortly.
My outlook is improving but I have some pretty down moments through the day. Doesn't help that it's really too hot to do much past mid morning. Maybe a walk is in order.
I'm rambling.
Good morning SR, I'm happy to be starting another sober day!
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Warwick RI
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I know today will NOT BRING alcohol into my life...so just that in itself means I will get thru whatever today brings and maybe even ENJOY some of it.
Even thou this heat is oppressive...that is the only down side I see for my day so far...I HATE this heat.
Even thou this heat is oppressive...that is the only down side I see for my day so far...I HATE this heat.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
We had no idea when we hopped in our car
yesterday to go shop for groceries and the
battery would end up being dead. That our
plans were stopped in their tracks and we
needed to regroup.
Sure it is enough to ruffles some feathers
and hit a nerve or 2, however, nothing so
horrible, so traumatic to want to drown
them with a toxic substance.
Of course, there would be no way for us
to pick up a drink because there is no alcohol
in our home and hasn't been for a long time
now.
Taking a moment to breath, calm down, step
back from the situation allowed us to recharge
the battery with a charger we use for our motorcycle
and get our car started again. This then allowed us
to get to the store and buy and replace our old one.
Looking back on that situation yesterday, we are
pretty grateful that it did and not later on down the
road while on a trip.
Today is a new day and we were able to get
our grocery shopping completed this morning,
back home safe and sound and getting our
garbage out for tomorrows pickup day.
There is nothing so hard, so terrible that would
tempt us to pick up alcohol to drink and make a
situation any better. With a program of recovery
used as a guideline on a continuous bases, it helps
us deal with everyday lifes ups and downs with
a sober positive outcome. Thank goodness.
yesterday to go shop for groceries and the
battery would end up being dead. That our
plans were stopped in their tracks and we
needed to regroup.
Sure it is enough to ruffles some feathers
and hit a nerve or 2, however, nothing so
horrible, so traumatic to want to drown
them with a toxic substance.
Of course, there would be no way for us
to pick up a drink because there is no alcohol
in our home and hasn't been for a long time
now.
Taking a moment to breath, calm down, step
back from the situation allowed us to recharge
the battery with a charger we use for our motorcycle
and get our car started again. This then allowed us
to get to the store and buy and replace our old one.
Looking back on that situation yesterday, we are
pretty grateful that it did and not later on down the
road while on a trip.
Today is a new day and we were able to get
our grocery shopping completed this morning,
back home safe and sound and getting our
garbage out for tomorrows pickup day.
There is nothing so hard, so terrible that would
tempt us to pick up alcohol to drink and make a
situation any better. With a program of recovery
used as a guideline on a continuous bases, it helps
us deal with everyday lifes ups and downs with
a sober positive outcome. Thank goodness.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,429
The positive momentum will build with each small daily act of recovery and self-love you make happen.
Feelings will be a roller coaster for awhile--expect and plan for that. Remember, we have suppressed our feelings for years with alcohol. They will come to the surface now that you are present and can process them. Be patient with your response, and remember to use the tools you have learned when you feel cravings. I find having a chocolate bar, a cup of tea, or a shower to be good "first responses" in early recovery.
You can do this MF
Feelings will be a roller coaster for awhile--expect and plan for that. Remember, we have suppressed our feelings for years with alcohol. They will come to the surface now that you are present and can process them. Be patient with your response, and remember to use the tools you have learned when you feel cravings. I find having a chocolate bar, a cup of tea, or a shower to be good "first responses" in early recovery.
You can do this MF
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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It gets easier--by this I mean the ups and downs get less dramatic, but if you can, feel the feeling fully and it passes through. I cried a lot in early sobriety, and also felt a great deal of anger and sadness.
The good news is that my feeling of peace also increased, and the fear and self-loathing which was worst when I was drinking also began to go away.
Keeping a journal was helpful for getting it out of my mind and heart and onto a page--kind of like an emotional purge.
Remember to eat and sleep. You may need more rest than you think at first. Sometimes when the emotions got too much I'd just take a shower and get in bed to sleep, read, or just rest quietly.
The good news is that my feeling of peace also increased, and the fear and self-loathing which was worst when I was drinking also began to go away.
Keeping a journal was helpful for getting it out of my mind and heart and onto a page--kind of like an emotional purge.
Remember to eat and sleep. You may need more rest than you think at first. Sometimes when the emotions got too much I'd just take a shower and get in bed to sleep, read, or just rest quietly.
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Join Date: Aug 2015
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Plans are good- especially when I got sober. And those to do lists were very short!
Now, I have a lot more on my plate most days- but I've also learned that curveballs happen, people cancel plans (or I have to for some legit reason, not a BS one like back in the day!), and sometimes I need to cut back on all the activity.
I also know that some emotional ups and downs I cannot control are likely to crop up today and this week - my step son is going into a treatment/living house for at least the next 6 mo.
So my real job is to support my husband, then focus on the recovery work at a meeting then a dinner I have with sober friends, and appreciate the time with them.
Now, I have a lot more on my plate most days- but I've also learned that curveballs happen, people cancel plans (or I have to for some legit reason, not a BS one like back in the day!), and sometimes I need to cut back on all the activity.
I also know that some emotional ups and downs I cannot control are likely to crop up today and this week - my step son is going into a treatment/living house for at least the next 6 mo.
So my real job is to support my husband, then focus on the recovery work at a meeting then a dinner I have with sober friends, and appreciate the time with them.
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 8,674
Yep, some days! And my husband and I call it "flipping it" - somehow flipping our thoughts to something positive, hopeful, productive, so on.
I woke up sad and emotional because my step son was accepted to the living/treatment situation even tho he tested positive for THC. Will spare you the story.
Much going on with me and how my life working in recovery on top of my own, and how his situation among others take me way too close back to what I put my family thru.
SO, today has brought my early am meeting and more importantly, asking people close to me who have the expertise for referrals to therapist. I've called the two at the top of the list and have three more options.
Self care means proactive layer onto my emotional needs. And time at home with the dogs today.
I woke up sad and emotional because my step son was accepted to the living/treatment situation even tho he tested positive for THC. Will spare you the story.
Much going on with me and how my life working in recovery on top of my own, and how his situation among others take me way too close back to what I put my family thru.
SO, today has brought my early am meeting and more importantly, asking people close to me who have the expertise for referrals to therapist. I've called the two at the top of the list and have three more options.
Self care means proactive layer onto my emotional needs. And time at home with the dogs today.
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Join Date: Feb 2016
Posts: 380
Lo and behold, the day got better. Not amazing, didn't win the lottery, no knights in shining armor BUT I didn't drink and I did what I was supposed to do and I'm ok. Funny how things work sometimes. Love the support here!
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Things are still up and down but when I look at it objectively there's definitely more ups than downs. The advice I get here is dead on, just keep it up and things are going to work out.
Today was a good sober day and I'm laying my head down, awaiting what tomorrow brings.
Today was a good sober day and I'm laying my head down, awaiting what tomorrow brings.
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