Anna

LiveLikeGold, I was just like you for many years. I kept believing, if I just tried hard enough, I could get my mother to acknowledge me and love me. I didn't work, not at all, ever. I just kept going back for more pain. I knew I needed to detach from my mother in order to get sober, and I did. We didn't live close to each other so that helped, but I didn't respond to many of her phone calls. And, when I did talk to her, I never mentioned anything personal.

Misssy2

So proud of you...its hard...but you are doing it and hopefully feeling better and more in control.....

WaterOx

It's possible you'd both benefit from taking a break from one another.

Maybe it's time to branch out? I know it's tough but it sounds like this simply isn't doing you any good. Growth come with change and sometimes a little bit of pain.

I of course don't know the whole story, so please take this with a grain of salt. This has definitely been my personal experience. I know how you're feeling and wish you well.