Day 5
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Day 5
I slipped again recently and am now on day 5. I have been going to an AA meeting each day although today missed one. I currently have no sponsor. I am thinking about asking my female friend in AA to sponsor me but want to wait until I have at least 30 days so I don’t waste her time by slipping again. What do you think?
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im having massive chest pain and could be a heart attack but think im gonna wait 30 days as i dont want to waste the cardiologists(the person that is there to help me) time.
does that read kinda crazy?
does that read kinda crazy?
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I'd agree that sooner is better than later for all of the program work. I didn't get my sponsor til a good bit after many - however, I knew that AA was my lifeline and I wasn't going anywhere.
I'd caution you against having a friend as a sponsor. Even without other details about her, I have experienced first hand as a sponsee and sponsor that there should be an objectivity that usually a friend cannot have, to maintain the rigorous honesty with which we need to approach and do the steps.
I'd caution you against having a friend as a sponsor. Even without other details about her, I have experienced first hand as a sponsee and sponsor that there should be an objectivity that usually a friend cannot have, to maintain the rigorous honesty with which we need to approach and do the steps.
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Yes, I agree with all of you that getting a sponsor ASAP is best. I think I want to keep my AA friend as a friend since I don’t have many in the program and will just be open to finding a sponsor.
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you can start actively working the program - working the steps - right now without a sponsor. all you need is a notebook and a good pen - or go all Nu school and use a word processor or one of them computer things. LOL
i think you are wise to want to keep your "friend" as your friend - folks can get way too cozied up to their sponsors and vice versa.
my sponsor and i stuck to working the steps, period. no life coaching, or whining allowed. your mileage may vary.
i think you are wise to want to keep your "friend" as your friend - folks can get way too cozied up to their sponsors and vice versa.
my sponsor and i stuck to working the steps, period. no life coaching, or whining allowed. your mileage may vary.
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