How could I possibly be happy without booze? Weekenders 28 June - 01 July 2019
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
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Welcome toWeekenders Rose! We all started on day one, week one (dozens of times in my case) If you get past those first few tough weeks it gets easier and the time soon mounts up. Good luck!
I did yes - I was 37 in 1934.
Originally Posted by andyh 
did Sao take his too then? 
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,759
When I was drinking, I didn't know what I'd do with myself if I didn't drink. Now that I'm sober, I wonder how I managed to drink so much all the time. No wonder I never got anything done...
Am very happy sober.
Am very happy sober.
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Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 598
Perhaps happiness should not even be a consideration in early recovery. Whether it is obvious or not, we are fighting for our lives. Once that is stable and calm one can possibly afford the luxury of looking for some happiness or at least a feeling of being mostly content,
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Join Date: Apr 2017
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Originally Posted by least
When I was drinking, I didn't know what I'd do with myself if I didn't drink. Now that I'm sober, I wonder how I managed to drink so much all the time. No wonder I never got anything done...
Am very happy sober.
Am very happy sober.
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Join Date: Dec 2018
Posts: 405
Hi Rose and welcome to SR!
I've found that my definition of fun has changed as I accrue more time in sobriety.
One of my goals is a complete wardrobe overhaul. While I was drinking I didn't care if I looked like a bum. On top of that I'm 40 years old now, can't be rocking T-shirts with pop culture references anymore. Since I don't want to drop a lot of money all at once I've been buying items piecemeal every other weekend.
On Saturday I'll go to the mall in the early evening to buy some items. It's more of an excuse to walk around as well. After I find a good deal I'll go have a nice dinner and dessert at one of the restaurants. If there is a movie I'm interested in seeing I'll go check it out.
Nothing extravagant. Just a bit of shopping, dining, and maybe a movie. But what brings me the most joy is seeing other people happy. Seeing other people enjoying their time shopping and going about their business.
The old me would have thought that was lame. These days I couldn't think of a better way to spend a Saturday evening.
Originally Posted by MLD51
AND - life is not a boring wasteland of loneliness - AT ALL. I have way more fun now than I did when I was drinking heavily. That "fun" I thought I was having was an illusion.
One of my goals is a complete wardrobe overhaul. While I was drinking I didn't care if I looked like a bum. On top of that I'm 40 years old now, can't be rocking T-shirts with pop culture references anymore. Since I don't want to drop a lot of money all at once I've been buying items piecemeal every other weekend.
On Saturday I'll go to the mall in the early evening to buy some items. It's more of an excuse to walk around as well. After I find a good deal I'll go have a nice dinner and dessert at one of the restaurants. If there is a movie I'm interested in seeing I'll go check it out.
Nothing extravagant. Just a bit of shopping, dining, and maybe a movie. But what brings me the most joy is seeing other people happy. Seeing other people enjoying their time shopping and going about their business.
The old me would have thought that was lame. These days I couldn't think of a better way to spend a Saturday evening.
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Join Date: May 2015
Posts: 32,374
what brings me the most joy is seeing other people happy. Seeing other people enjoying their time shopping and going about their business.
I like to arrive early at the theatre and concerts to have the enjoyment of watching other people arriving, arrayed in their 'best' and looking happy and excited.
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Join Date: Nov 2018
Posts: 771
I’m in for another weekend!
Speaking of fun, next week Mr Bonnie and I are taking Bonnie Jr #3 to see Aladdin. The live broadway show, not the movie. I love going to the theatre while sober. It’s nice to actually pay attention and remember the performance, and it’s nice not having to pee during the intermissions.
Less fun development: we just got a big, nasty tax bill from the IRS. I mean, wow. We have to pay a LOT of money. So vacation and travel plans are off the table. I’m cool with it though; upon hearing the news I immediately started making plans for our awesome “staycation.” Also, maybe it’s for the best that we can’t go anywhere; vacations are booze traps.
Anyway, I’m heading out for a walk. I’m listening to The Shrink Next Door podcast which was recommended by dpac. The first episode was really interesting so I have to go for a second walk to listen to the next one.
Later, people!
Speaking of fun, next week Mr Bonnie and I are taking Bonnie Jr #3 to see Aladdin. The live broadway show, not the movie. I love going to the theatre while sober. It’s nice to actually pay attention and remember the performance, and it’s nice not having to pee during the intermissions.
Less fun development: we just got a big, nasty tax bill from the IRS. I mean, wow. We have to pay a LOT of money. So vacation and travel plans are off the table. I’m cool with it though; upon hearing the news I immediately started making plans for our awesome “staycation.” Also, maybe it’s for the best that we can’t go anywhere; vacations are booze traps.
Anyway, I’m heading out for a walk. I’m listening to The Shrink Next Door podcast which was recommended by dpac. The first episode was really interesting so I have to go for a second walk to listen to the next one.
Later, people!
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Join Date: Aug 2017
Posts: 850
Great posts from everyone. These topics are always good ones.
Bonnie, hope you like it! That one is just really wild. The company who produced it is called Wondery and they’ve done a ton of investigative reporting podcasts like Dirty John. The Dropout and Dr. Death are also by them.
Tomorrow is friday. The days of the week don’t really mean anything right now since it’s nonstop zoo weekends but it’s at least nice to do something different for the two weekend days. I also have Thursday and Friday off next week and I am so excited! I think this is my first day off since Memorial Day. I’m starting to prepare for the Fourth of July cravings already.
Kaily, how are you doing?
Good night everone.
Bonnie, hope you like it! That one is just really wild. The company who produced it is called Wondery and they’ve done a ton of investigative reporting podcasts like Dirty John. The Dropout and Dr. Death are also by them.
Tomorrow is friday. The days of the week don’t really mean anything right now since it’s nonstop zoo weekends but it’s at least nice to do something different for the two weekend days. I also have Thursday and Friday off next week and I am so excited! I think this is my first day off since Memorial Day. I’m starting to prepare for the Fourth of July cravings already.
Kaily, how are you doing?
Good night everone.
Sober-T- Dragon
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
Posts: 8,756
One of the things that struck me about my drinking career was that in my self-talk script, I often used the word 'survive'. So surviving with out it was near impossible, in my mind. Bah such rubbish.
Sober-T- Dragon
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
Posts: 8,756
Originally Posted by Rose335
This is my first weekend sober in a very long time, and the first weekend I've been a member of SR so it's really timely for me. I'll definitely be reading and posting.
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