What defines "Abuse"
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Both maybe?
I mean my mother didnt smoke or drink, but she was abusive.
I clearly remember her smacking me in the face as a child.
Yesterday I went to the local market because I was afraid to drive. EVERYONE who was coming in or out had some form of alciholic beverage.
SATURDAY, YEE HAW.
Im just really confused right now.
I mean my mother didnt smoke or drink, but she was abusive.
I clearly remember her smacking me in the face as a child.
Yesterday I went to the local market because I was afraid to drive. EVERYONE who was coming in or out had some form of alciholic beverage.
SATURDAY, YEE HAW.
Im just really confused right now.
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Using something in an unhealthy way. The improper use of something. The dictionary defines it. Hence the prefix ab(away or absent) before the word use. thats what defines abuse. duckduckgo it for further detail.
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Being abusive toward people is different from abusing alcohol. In my mind, abusing people is just being mean, trying to build oneself up through tearing others down.
Abusing alcohol is tearing oneself (and others) down just to get a buzz. I guess they're both forms of selfishness.
Abusing alcohol is tearing oneself (and others) down just to get a buzz. I guess they're both forms of selfishness.
This the defiition of abuse from the National Abuse Hotline.
https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/
https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/
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My first reaction was physical abuse and substance abuse are totally different.
But maybe not. My alcohol abuse is definitely self abuse. Self harm. And it is emotionally damaging to my loved ones...so that's abuse.
BUT...if you're still drinking I'd caution too much intellectualizing. My addiction loved it when I'd circle the drain trying to 'figure' everything out with the very brain that was totally messed up. Kind of a lose lose no?
In basic terms, if you're an addict you simply can't get high through substance abuse anymore. That's just the deal. Doesn't matter what it is.
If it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, its a duck.
Avoid analysis paralysis. That leads no where.
But maybe not. My alcohol abuse is definitely self abuse. Self harm. And it is emotionally damaging to my loved ones...so that's abuse.
BUT...if you're still drinking I'd caution too much intellectualizing. My addiction loved it when I'd circle the drain trying to 'figure' everything out with the very brain that was totally messed up. Kind of a lose lose no?
In basic terms, if you're an addict you simply can't get high through substance abuse anymore. That's just the deal. Doesn't matter what it is.
If it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck, its a duck.
Avoid analysis paralysis. That leads no where.
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To be true to ourselves, we must think, feel, and behave in alignment with our moral and spiritual values. We must work to be curious, observant and mindful. We need to pause and examine the auto pilot of our lives and visualize the forest through the trees. We need to master ourselves and choose a better life. We need to become a New Creation. 2 Corinthians 5:17 "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."
I'm sorry you're suffering Dandelion.
I really do believe we're all not meant to live with abuse, be it abuse from others, or abuse by our own hand.
For some of us thats an intricate web to separate and it take a while.
Never give up hope tho.
If your doctors aren't helping, keep looking to find new ones who will. Surround yourself as much as you can with positivity not negativity.
Even tho the effort may seem gargantuan try and be the change you want to see in the world.
You're a good person and you should always remember that
D
I really do believe we're all not meant to live with abuse, be it abuse from others, or abuse by our own hand.
For some of us thats an intricate web to separate and it take a while.
Never give up hope tho.
If your doctors aren't helping, keep looking to find new ones who will. Surround yourself as much as you can with positivity not negativity.
Even tho the effort may seem gargantuan try and be the change you want to see in the world.
You're a good person and you should always remember that
D
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