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Old 06-07-2019, 05:56 AM
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One of my sisters is dead from this disease

And that happened last September AND she was not recognized to be dead until almost 24 hours later because her partner thought she was just sleeping it off.

Today I get to spend time with my OTHER sister and Father....and that is ONLY because 10 days ago...I put the drink down "again"....

I am looking forward to this day. I am lucky I have not yet ended up like my sister....It shows it does happen....and it happens in a blink of an eye...she was at my house 3 days before that all messed up as I was in a 10 month sobriety period.

It looked "so good" to me to see her not giving a crap about anything that I wanted that feeling too....when she left that day...I went to the liquor store after 10 months...and started a binge....only to find out 3 days later she was DEAD.

Then I was in such rough shape I BARELY made it to her funeral. Because of alcohol I almost did not make it to my sisters funeral.

Because I am WITHOUT alcohol today I get to spend some quality time with the family members I have left and that is a blessing.

Thanks for listening.
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Old 06-07-2019, 05:59 AM
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I'm so sorry for your heartache, losing your sister to this horrible disease - but so happy that you have turned it around for yourself.
Thanks for reminding us how real this struggle is. Stay strong
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Ugh... I hate alcohol. If I were king of the universe, it would be the first thing I'd eliminate from the world.

I'm glad you're sober today Missy.
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Im so sorry for your loss. I hate alcohol
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Old 06-07-2019, 07:50 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Addiction robs lives, no doubt about it.

I hope you spend some good quality time with your family.
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Old 06-07-2019, 08:15 AM
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I am sorry you lost your sister. Thank you for sharing your story.
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Geez guys, this is about Missy and her sister not about blaming alcohol.

Missy, I am so sorry. So sorry. It happens in the blink of an eye, we think, to people. I am really glad you are back with us, sober.

Take care of yourself. Hugs.
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Old 06-07-2019, 08:35 AM
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Geez guys, this is about Missy and her sister not about blaming alcohol.

Missy, I am so sorry. So sorry. It happens in the blink of an eye, we think, to people. I am really glad you are back with us, sober.

Take care of yourself. Hugs.
I would have to agree with this 100%. The whole "I'm sober now so alcohol needs to be banned" thing is ridiculous.
Sissy..I'm so very sorry for your loss, I lost my dad to booze so I know how you feel. Hugs and stay strong
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Thank you for that, Jscatt. One of my peeves is blaming alcohol. Or government. Or advertising. At the least, bc it's BS - and at the most, because it simply doesn't help ME.

Missy- I hope you have some self-care things to do this wkd. Nothing exactly "helps" with this, especially right now, but taking care of yourself and staying sober is the very best thing you can do.
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Old 06-07-2019, 08:54 AM
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Very, very sorry for your loss. This disease is ruthless. I am really very glad you are sober today. I think it is a huge asset that you were sober once before. You KNOW you can do it and you KNOW how good it feels.
My very best friend died of alcoholism. I was present in the hospital room when the doctors called her moment of death, yet I drank again. Cunning, baffling powerful. We are human, we falter and fail, we make bad choices and yet we also do recover and make better choices when we are ready.
Keep up the great work. Your sobriety is the best way to honour your sister.
Enjoy your family today. Excited for you!!
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I'm sorry for your loss Misssy.
I'm so glad you've embraced recovery again.

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Old 06-07-2019, 06:16 PM
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Originally Posted by August252015 View Post
Geez guys, this is about Missy and her sister not about blaming alcohol.

Missy, I am so sorry. So sorry. It happens in the blink of an eye, we think, to people. I am really glad you are back with us, sober.

Take care of yourself. Hugs.
LOL...NO one said anything wrong but thanks for chiming in anyway....it is really about alcohol thou and drugs....my sister did both...that night was Methadone and Alcohol...and her normal antidepressents.

Even before this happened whenever I drink alcohol I NEVER take any pills...none....
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Very, very sorry for your loss. This disease is ruthless. I am really very glad you are sober today. I think it is a huge asset that you were sober once before. You KNOW you can do it and you KNOW how good it feels.
My very best friend died of alcoholism. I was present in the hospital room when the doctors called her moment of death, yet I drank again. Cunning, baffling powerful. We are human, we falter and fail, we make bad choices and yet we also do recover and make better choices when we are ready.
Keep up the great work. Your sobriety is the best way to honour your sister.
Enjoy your family today. Excited for you!!
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I sure get the cunning part...not only was I so hungover at her funeral...I have at least gone back to alcohol at least 6 times since last Sept....

So....yes it is cunning and I'm STILL really shocked she died...she had a very high tolerance...and there was not THAT much of everything in her system...but it was the combination of the Methadone, Alcohol, Antidepressent and Klonipin...which none did she take ALOT of....she just combined them....
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Stay strong, Missy.
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Stay strong, Missy.
You as well benito.....
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Sorry for your loss. Glad you are sober today
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Old 06-08-2019, 07:05 PM
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Geez guys, this is about Missy and her sister not about blaming alcohol.
Why why why.. is this helping? a statement like this?

Perhaps to try to/ make those who have commented feel worse, and make yourself feel better. ����


Misssy, that thoroughly sucks. Your poor sister. Poor you!

Great that you’re doing what’s needed to not fall into that benzo or alcohol trap to escape from life.. I wish you the best ��
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I’m so sorry about your sister and I’m glad you made it back.
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