Alcohol Addicted Brother
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Alcohol Addicted Brother
Hello, I am joining to seek help and advice for my older brothers addiction to alcohol. My brother is 38 years old. He has been living with my family (mom, dad, aunt, brother, and two sisters) for the majority of his life. He has two kids which he loves deeply. He has an on and off relationship with his child’s mom. He has lived on his own with his family but never seemed to work out, due to him being abusive to his spouse. So he is back at home with us. It has been a journey dealing with his addiction and hardships. He started drinking a very young age. I want to say in his early teens. Nowadays he drinks liquor, which is doing a lot of damage to his organs. He’s been hospitalized several times. Also has been in jail for a dui and assault on his spouse. He did rehab for 3 months but did not helped as he relapsed weeks later. Just recently he got off his bracelet which was detecting any sort of alcohol in his blood. But now that he’s off of it, he has relapsed and started drinking again. I want your guys input and any sort of advice in which could help my brother.
Thanks.
Thanks.
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Welcome and I'm sorry for your situation. I hope you brother chooses to stop drinking, but it will need to be his decision to live a sober life. There is little you can do to make him stop.
For yourself, you can check out AlAnon in your city as a support for you and your family. Also we have a forum for Friends & Families on this board which you might want to look at:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
For yourself, you can check out AlAnon in your city as a support for you and your family. Also we have a forum for Friends & Families on this board which you might want to look at:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
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Welcome to the family. 
I'm sorry to say that there's not much you can do to get your brother to stop drinking. He has to want that for himself. I would suggest you find support for yourself. 
I'm sorry to say that there's not much you can do to get your brother to stop drinking. He has to want that for himself. I would suggest you find support for yourself. 
Blue Belt
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
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The only one that can stop an addict is the addict.
Until he is ready to quit he will do whatever it takes to stay high.
Being high on booze is not just the drunk period. It takes a few days for all of the chemicals in the body to start to normalize.
After that is when the crave ramps up.
Addiction causes permanent brain damage that makes folks regret relapse after decades of sobriety.
Depending on how many bridges have been burned is how much tolerance folks should have for the drunk.
I consider myself living on borrowed time. I was lucky to get this free.
Constant vigilance is my way forward. Temptation lurks routinely.
Thanks.
Until he is ready to quit he will do whatever it takes to stay high.
Being high on booze is not just the drunk period. It takes a few days for all of the chemicals in the body to start to normalize.
After that is when the crave ramps up.
Addiction causes permanent brain damage that makes folks regret relapse after decades of sobriety.
Depending on how many bridges have been burned is how much tolerance folks should have for the drunk.
I consider myself living on borrowed time. I was lucky to get this free.
Constant vigilance is my way forward. Temptation lurks routinely.
Thanks.
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