Diamonds, Opals, Precious Present - Weekenders 24 - 27 May 2019
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Such a beautiful picture, BiminiBlue. I have never been there, will have to add to the list.
Yesterday I went shopping for a new flag pole since it’s Memorial Day weekend in the US and I wanted to put my flag up. Well, I had to walk past the homemade powdered sugar cream filled donut stand to get there. Needless to say, I gave in to the temptation and bought one. I saved it till this morning and ate the entire thing for breakfast. Then got a pounding headache. Clearly my body is not used to slamming it with all that sugar. Lol!
But, I would rather have a pounding headache for an hour from a cream filled donut than a pounding headache for 36 hours from a bottle of wine, so I quickly dismissed that and enjoyed the treat.
Went for a 3-mile walk and am waiting for a friend to come over for a few hours. We are going to try a new Mexican restaurant that opened nearby.
Hope everyone had a great day.
LHW
Yesterday I went shopping for a new flag pole since it’s Memorial Day weekend in the US and I wanted to put my flag up. Well, I had to walk past the homemade powdered sugar cream filled donut stand to get there. Needless to say, I gave in to the temptation and bought one. I saved it till this morning and ate the entire thing for breakfast. Then got a pounding headache. Clearly my body is not used to slamming it with all that sugar. Lol!
But, I would rather have a pounding headache for an hour from a cream filled donut than a pounding headache for 36 hours from a bottle of wine, so I quickly dismissed that and enjoyed the treat.
Went for a 3-mile walk and am waiting for a friend to come over for a few hours. We are going to try a new Mexican restaurant that opened nearby.
Hope everyone had a great day.
LHW
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Lovehatewhine, you literally just took the words from my mouth. I went to the movies last night and ate popcorn and mini snicker bites, shameful. I woke up late with a pounding headache. This is something I whole heartedly believe, alcoholics or problem drinker, suffer from a reaction to sugar that is different than others. We are dismissed as evil, selfish, have a genetic addiction and just need self control. I believe we process sugar differently. Also chronic fatigue and inflammation that causes arthritis is all linked into this hidden illness. These are all illnesses I have and it is often dismissed as I need more rest, take anti inflammatory meds daily (I will not, I do yoga and will not be a daily pain med taker ever). I would love to talk to a doctor who legitimately has studied this issue.
It’s 8 weeks for me today. I’m off antidepressants too, been tracking my calories daily, I even count the movie snacks, and I’m on my way to getting my life back. I’m off to the gym to burn off these sugars.
It’s 8 weeks for me today. I’m off antidepressants too, been tracking my calories daily, I even count the movie snacks, and I’m on my way to getting my life back. I’m off to the gym to burn off these sugars.
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Oh my sugar.
Ice cream, cake, brownies, cookies, dark chocolate candy - just can’t see, to stay away 😒
Hope that all are doing very well.
It is a long Weekend for many but we can do this soberly!
Ice cream, cake, brownies, cookies, dark chocolate candy - just can’t see, to stay away 😒
Hope that all are doing very well.
It is a long Weekend for many but we can do this soberly!
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Originally Posted by MidnightBlue 
Morning, weekenders.
Thank you for the thread, Mags.
Living in the present - a valuable skill for sure.
On Wednesday I got a message that the enforcement officer froze my debit card account (result of my dispute with banks, court order issued), and everything on the account will be transferred to pay off my debt.
I get payments for my online gigs to this card, so panic was expected. I am figuring out my way out of the situation.
Thanks for another gorgeous pic, Sao.
Thank you for the shout out, Vinny.
Honestly, last time, when venting about me having hard time to get over "no Birthday present" issue with HM, I caught some judgemental vibe (maybe, I am just overreacting). Anyway, as much as I get "not the first world problem" (I don't know, not being able to get money for the work done counts as one or not), to me life is a balance of not sweating small stuff and being able to realize when "small stuff" is an indicator of potential bigger issues.
Though I am not a big fan of Tony Robbins I like his saying "In this life you get what you tolerate". I realize it takes wisdom to tell what is worth tolerating (if anything at all), and what not.
So, I may take some time off weekenders to cool down a little bit.
For sure ruining your weekend with drinking is not to be tolerated. Never.
Have a great sober weekend.
See you)
Thank you for the thread, Mags.
Living in the present - a valuable skill for sure.
On Wednesday I got a message that the enforcement officer froze my debit card account (result of my dispute with banks, court order issued), and everything on the account will be transferred to pay off my debt.
I get payments for my online gigs to this card, so panic was expected. I am figuring out my way out of the situation.
Thanks for another gorgeous pic, Sao.
Thank you for the shout out, Vinny.
Honestly, last time, when venting about me having hard time to get over "no Birthday present" issue with HM, I caught some judgemental vibe (maybe, I am just overreacting). Anyway, as much as I get "not the first world problem" (I don't know, not being able to get money for the work done counts as one or not), to me life is a balance of not sweating small stuff and being able to realize when "small stuff" is an indicator of potential bigger issues.
Though I am not a big fan of Tony Robbins I like his saying "In this life you get what you tolerate". I realize it takes wisdom to tell what is worth tolerating (if anything at all), and what not.
So, I may take some time off weekenders to cool down a little bit.
For sure ruining your weekend with drinking is not to be tolerated. Never.
Have a great sober weekend.
See you)
Shine on!
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I went to the hot tub after a long workout. My body was hurting from four days in a row at the gym. Usually I am tempted to drink when it’s anything involving a pool/beach area. I brought my water. Relaxed, did a lot of deep breathing and just being in the moment. I laid out in a lounge chair and listened to the birds and looked around at the beautiful tropical 🌴 landscape. It was much better than being bloated and craving more drinks till I ruin my night and progress.
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sorry to have missed the weekenders.
I'm on Day 42 (completed!) and still on the May thread cuz I wanted to complete a whole month of sobriety on here. Maybe from my posts though I should be on here, giving I have this few week head start or Idk.
At first I thought this was just for people who wanted to stay sober exclusively on weekends, then that it was only a weekend thread, now I'm not sure.
Sometimes I like talking about other things non alcohol related or post random pix and talk about my day or life and experiences, places, rambling things and this seems like the most appropriate place on the site that is actually frequented enough to have the best chance at virtually socializing.
Hope you all had a great weekend, next one I'll be all yours! 😜
I'm on Day 42 (completed!) and still on the May thread cuz I wanted to complete a whole month of sobriety on here. Maybe from my posts though I should be on here, giving I have this few week head start or Idk.
At first I thought this was just for people who wanted to stay sober exclusively on weekends, then that it was only a weekend thread, now I'm not sure.
Sometimes I like talking about other things non alcohol related or post random pix and talk about my day or life and experiences, places, rambling things and this seems like the most appropriate place on the site that is actually frequented enough to have the best chance at virtually socializing.
Hope you all had a great weekend, next one I'll be all yours! 😜
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Lovehatewine, that donut sounds amazing!! I get headaches from too much sugar, also, and it definitely causes inflammation and joint pain. So I try and keep it to a minimum.
I agree though, a brief sugar headache is much better than a hangover! 😀
I agree though, a brief sugar headache is much better than a hangover! 😀
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I think this is a great place for "virtually socializing". I'll often post about what I'm up to in the weekenders. Creating a "virtual social bond" here helped stregthen my resolve to lead a sober life. In fact as my day goes on, I often imagine posting about it here.
Magsie
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Hi Caprice, weekends can be hard with more spare time on our hands, but we stay sober all the time, in fact we post through the week too, if you want to join in.
Mariposa, sounds like you had a good weekend and relaxing in the hot tub being in the ‘moment’ and aware of everything around you.
Dragon, that’s really nice, SR and everybody here are part of my life and sober recovery too.
It’s bank holiday Monday here in U.K., yesterday was rainy and it’s looking like it may be the same today too, the temperature feeling a lot cooler but it’s still early yet.
Mariposa, sounds like you had a good weekend and relaxing in the hot tub being in the ‘moment’ and aware of everything around you.
Dragon, that’s really nice, SR and everybody here are part of my life and sober recovery too.
It’s bank holiday Monday here in U.K., yesterday was rainy and it’s looking like it may be the same today too, the temperature feeling a lot cooler but it’s still early yet.
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Hi everyone,
still sober but tired. the last two days were really humid and hot and I was running around the zoo all weekend. I did see a friend(?) that I had a sort of falling out with (long story) who I miss dearly. We used to be really close and he’s worked at the zoo as long as I have. Things seem okay, but they will never go back to the way things were and it’s been bummimg me out.
Caprice, as far as I know this thread is just accountability on the weekends when sobriety can be a bit harder cuz of free time/weekends being relax with alcohol for most. I’ve come to really enjoy reading about everyone’s days tho.
night all. Hope everyone who is already in Monday has a good day and/or holiday if you have it off!
still sober but tired. the last two days were really humid and hot and I was running around the zoo all weekend. I did see a friend(?) that I had a sort of falling out with (long story) who I miss dearly. We used to be really close and he’s worked at the zoo as long as I have. Things seem okay, but they will never go back to the way things were and it’s been bummimg me out.
Caprice, as far as I know this thread is just accountability on the weekends when sobriety can be a bit harder cuz of free time/weekends being relax with alcohol for most. I’ve come to really enjoy reading about everyone’s days tho.
night all. Hope everyone who is already in Monday has a good day and/or holiday if you have it off!
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Originally Posted by STDragon
I think this is a great place for "virtually socializing". I'll often post about what I'm up to in the weekenders. Creating a "virtual social bond" here helped stregthen my resolve to lead a sober life. In fact as my day goes on, I often imagine posting about it here.
It definitely helped me to be on here along the way too cuz I'm still doing this. Had a craving around 5ish, thought about making a run before the stores closed on Sunday, thought again "what's the harm? You were out all day, a few cold beers would hit the spot." then I thought about the extra spending, tomorrow morning if I'd continue? Regret it? Be hungover? How could i just have 1 insignificant relapse? That couldn't work for me. What would I say on here or would I just disappear sooner again?
And here I am rambling about alcohol! It's whatever strikes me at the moment I guess.
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Caprice, good that you thought about it, weighed up the pros and cons and decided not to drink, good move.
I know we’re all different at dealing with our av, I always played the tape forward, take the romance of having a few drinks, it never ended at two or three anyway. Also remember to eat, that often can calm our cravings down.
I know we’re all different at dealing with our av, I always played the tape forward, take the romance of having a few drinks, it never ended at two or three anyway. Also remember to eat, that often can calm our cravings down.
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Late last night, I put the final touches and corrections on the copyedit of my article. Now it's confirmed! By the end of June, I'll be a published author (academic journal)!
The virtual socialising is important to me, too. On Saturday, when the PC setup was happening - my friend (one of two remaining) dropped it off, because he had put it together. I'm struck by the grace of those two guys for deciding to still speak to me, invite me to places every now and again. And the PC thing might seem silly to the average grown-up, but as soon as it was set up, the other friend asked along the lines "dude, now we can play online, right?" (We're all approaching 30, they're just IT guys lol). To him, it was just a question, but to me it was something far more significant than that. It's like ... a road back to something, a more regular chat even if it is online. We don't live in the same place, but we're not really far apart either, so not meeting for that reason would just be an excuse.
But it's difficult to meet with them, because of the guilt I carry for being a crap friend for years. I'm very grateful that they're still around.
So, although it was a rainy weekend (and today doesn't seem to change that), there were some important lessons gained. Thanks for everyone for sharing their activities and thoughts!
K
The virtual socialising is important to me, too. On Saturday, when the PC setup was happening - my friend (one of two remaining) dropped it off, because he had put it together. I'm struck by the grace of those two guys for deciding to still speak to me, invite me to places every now and again. And the PC thing might seem silly to the average grown-up, but as soon as it was set up, the other friend asked along the lines "dude, now we can play online, right?" (We're all approaching 30, they're just IT guys lol). To him, it was just a question, but to me it was something far more significant than that. It's like ... a road back to something, a more regular chat even if it is online. We don't live in the same place, but we're not really far apart either, so not meeting for that reason would just be an excuse.
But it's difficult to meet with them, because of the guilt I carry for being a crap friend for years. I'm very grateful that they're still around.
So, although it was a rainy weekend (and today doesn't seem to change that), there were some important lessons gained. Thanks for everyone for sharing their activities and thoughts!
K
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