dpac414

wildflower70

Take a walk, read a magazine, make a sandwich. That drink will only send you back down the rabbit hole.

Dee74

Hi dpac

I dunno if it helps but whenever I had a win (like you did at the wedding last weekend) I'd be a little wobbly cos my Inner Addict would try and get me to confuse abstinence and control.

Don't engage with it. It has nothing you want and no good ideas.

Check out this link for some more ideas on dealing with cravings:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-cravings.html (CarolD's tips for cravings)

you can do this If worse comes to worse leave and come pick up your laundry later?

D

Tetrax

Yeah you will. Sometimes the sticks not the carrots help best. It ain't worth it pal.

Dublin1234

Positive thoughts.. Remind yourself how far you have came. From been at your mom's drinking and now look at you in the same house and not drinking . Yeah ur struggling but not drinking, well done you and I mean that.. Them triggers are just triggers, your determination and focus on your recovery will push you past them triggers... Well done x

dpac414

Dublin1234

Well done x

Happyvale

Apologies for emergent thread? From what I understand about this 'hood - you did exactly what I think you're supposed to. You reached out rather than "reached for". Well done I'd say. SR is a pretty big tool in the sobriety toolbox. Perhaps not the best time for a smartarse remark...but if anything can "trigger" us I'd bet visiting "family" would be right up there.

"Why not? Just one night..." - ya well, that slippery slope doesn't typically have a "stop" sign or a sobriety bouncer to catch ya and stand ya upright now does it? If we knew when to quit - would we be here? We're stronger with each test we pass..... sounds like you passed a big one tonight! Good on yq dpac414.

least

Good for you, for reaching out for help.

August252015

You're doing great dpac- leave as soon as you can, even if something is still a little damp!!

Keep posting.

Atlast9999

dpac414

Okay I am safely home and sober. Thank you for all of the support. I resisted and I will wake up tomorrow still refreshed.

I'm going to use this same thread in the future when I'm in a dire situation too.

Thank you again. This place truly is amazing.

August252015

Great job - and perhaps use this as what we were sharing about the possibility of a really provoking thing that is tough to handle....right after that success you had at another event. You can't control cravings or whatever, but it helped me to translate people's advice into literal action: ie don't go to a dinner where there is wine, and do laundry anywhere else.

I'll always say this- "no" is an acceptable answer to anything. Especially right now when you've been sharing the (totally normally!) ups and downs and struggles of early sobriety.

Take care and keep going! And btw when you PM me or someone, it pops up in my email so I can see if it's something I need to log on SR and respond to you ASAP!!

DriGuy

dpak, how's your morning? I missed your distress signal last night.

dpac414

dpac414

Y'all.......I have had a craving that has literally lasted all day. I have been calmly acknowledging it and responding to it like you would a whiny child, but damn it's just sitting there and won't go away.

I won't drink today. I have a day off tomorrow and I don't want to ruin my peaceful morning with a hangover, but I'm just worried it won't leave me alone. The past few days have really been rough, with cravings coming more and more frequently with higher intensity.

I've been trying everything but I just don't know what else to do. I literally locked myself in my apartment and watched YouTube videos so I wouldn't leave. I didn't even trust myself to go to the grocery store.

This sucks. Any advice is appreciated, but not necessary. Just needed to vent.

least

Now would be a good time to practice gratitude. Right now, find at least one thing you're thankful for. No matter how small. It will bolster your sobriety and make you happier too.

https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0

Bathbomb

I don't know about you but when I knew I had the next day off work that was my excuse to drink as much as I wanted. It's still my hardest days. Unconscious thoughts. I'm just extra vigilant on those days.

dpac414

Yeah, same. Maybe that's why it's hitting me. I've been trying to shout over the unconscious thoughts and habits and flip the script. I should not want to drink even more because I have the next day off and I want to enjoy it instead of feeling miserable. Just kinda....having a screaming match with myself.

It's 10:30 where I'm at so its quieted down a little, as there's no way to get alcohol on a sunday near me so my dumb brain seems to have given up. I guess I need to really strap in for tomorrow.

Least, I'm about to hop onto bedtime gratitude. I'm definitely grateful for SR tonight, but I'll focus on some other things too.

Happyvale

Your brain has a tremendous amount of practice in saying ... "hell I need a drink - I think I'll have one!". Lotta wiring there. Gotta unravel and snip it eventually. Thinking that takes time - and unpracticing so to speak.