Day one...again
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 3
Day one...again
Had a good amount of clean time and life was great. Met an amazing soul who happens to be in recovery and life was going well then bam. Temptation creeped up and I've been secretly drinking for a few weeks. Physically and emotionally feeling like **** and genuinely want my sobriety back. Scared to tell my partner the truth but honestly not sure how she doesn't know. So confused and ashamed right now
Member
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 141
Well...either way you are going to have to tell her. You need to trust in the relationship if its genuine and even if you don't - she deserves to know. You met in an honest place and you need to keep it that way. Despite your failing - don't compound it with dishonesty. Whether you want to drink or sober... tell her.
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 3
Originally Posted by Happyvale 
Well...either way you are going to have to tell her. You need to trust in the relationship if its genuine and even if you don't - she deserves to know. You met in an honest place and you need to keep it that way. Despite your failing - don't compound it with dishonesty. Whether you want to drink or sober... tell her.
Member
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 141
Originally Posted by Seekingjoyagain
I ended up telling her. I want my sobriety and need to figure out what lead up to this. I'm thinking self sabotage. Definitely ready to brush my knees of and get things together again
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 3
Originally Posted by Happyvale
Good on you SJA!!! And... how did she take it? Did she in fact know or suspect?
Member
Join Date: Aug 2017
Location: Scotland
Posts: 3,837
Well done telling your partner. I had to do something similar a couple of weeks ago and it's really good that he know the full truth about my drinking. I feel much more supported by him too.
You can get it all back again. You really can. Just focus on support and looking after yourself. You have just taken that first step in moving forward. Really happy for you.
You can get it all back again. You really can. Just focus on support and looking after yourself. You have just taken that first step in moving forward. Really happy for you.
Member
Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 141
Originally Posted by Seekingjoyagain
She is being supportive and telling me it's ok and wanting to get through this together. She will be home from work shortly and we are going to of course talk about some things and get a plan together. I think she may have suspected it and I'm going to ask her. My behavior has been erratic these past couple of weeks with my binges
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
