Willow00

I’m in for the weekend. I think I missed one...
It’s my first Mother’s Day without Mum, I miss her so much ❤️ and it was Mother’s Day when I took my last drink nearly a year ago. Wow. So much has happened since then. What a crazy roller coaster ride. My head sometimes feels like it’s exploding. I’m so tired and off to bed now but will be back when I’ve caught up on sleep and am more coherent, just wanted to pop in and say hi x

biminiblue

I give up on the in this thread. I don't keep up with them (I do read the posts) and then I feel like I have to go back and click them. I'm going off the thanks button!

Friday.

Perfect day to not drink.

If you're on the fence about your drinking, here- let me give you a little push.

It's so much better on the sober side.




poetic justice.

biminiblue

Hi, Willow!

Be prepared for all the people who will say, "Happy Mother's Day!"

Grr. I wish people wouldn't say that to me, but they will.

1. My mother is dead long ago and it makes me sad
2. I don't have any kids

I tend to stay away from stores and big gatherings on this weekend. Safer for me; although it is a lot easier to deal with all my emotions now that I quit drinking. Drinking kept me in a self-pity loop, and I just couldn't get over stuff. Letting go is much faster and easier now without the obsessions and resentments spinning around in my mind all day long.

andyh

Happy Friday!

who's AWOL this week - MB, Manta? check in anyone lurking

looks like it's going to be a nice Spring weekend here - why should it with alcohol?

biminiblue

Midnight is probably lurking.

You can just say, "Hi," without telling all, MB. Miss you.

Mags1

Hiya

Bim, I love this you wrote:
If you're on the fence about your drinking, here- let me give you a little push.

It's so much better on the sober side.

If I say happy mother’s day please ignore me Bim, I can be over polite.....being English and all.

Andy, I hope it will be a nice spring weekend, we’ve just had a downpour here.

MLD51

Sorry you are having such a rough time, Mariposa. As everyone else said, staying sober will give you a sense of purpose and achievement. And it can take a while for all of the effects of alcohol (a depressant) to leave your body and for your brain to start re-wiring the pleasure centers, which get damaged when we drink heavily over a long period of time. Also - if you were taking anti-depressants while drinking, they likely didn't work as well as they could have because of the drinking. Pretty much ALL anti-depressants warn right on the label not to drink while taking them. I was on an anti-depressant for a few years before I quit drinking, and it really didn't help, until I quit. Then I felt the effects of the anti-depressant kick in after a month or two. I'd say if you can string together a couple of months of sobriety, you should start to feel somewhat better, and possibly you could try an anti-depressant again. Trust me - I was nearly suicidal toward the end of my drinking, and nothing improved until I stopped. After about 7 months of sobriety I actually went off my anti-depressant, and I feel pretty darn ok most of the time. (That may not be the case for everyone, just my personal experience.)

biminiblue

Mags, I expect it in forums.

There will be ninety seven eleven threads about it. I just don't read them.

It's hard IRL, though. It's just a hard weekend and really? I don't tell people who aren't my mother, "Happy Mother's Day."

MLD51

I don't either, Bim, because you just don't always know what their situation is. It could be a really hard thing for them to hear.

Mags1

Me neither. I’m not a mum and my mum passed too years ago, and I say happy mother’s day to my step mum and hubby’s mum. Though thinking about it I may jump on the bandwagon. Confuseddotcom!

biminiblue

I would argue that it isn't polite to say to anyone else.

Here's another thing about mother's day.

I don't have kids. Doesn't mean I never wanted them or that I've never been pregnant and had something bad happen to that pregnancy or that I haven't had kids and something happened to one of them. This applies to all women. It's not a subject to be questioned.

So if I say, "I don't have kids," I don't want to be questioned about why I don't have kids. The phrase, "Mind your own business," comes to mind, and I have given that as an answer.

This is really a hot button holiday for me. I was sent off to very bad psychological places in the past by people being nosy and thoughtless around this holiday. It's an emotionally charged weekend. Since I've gotten sober I've found ways to deal with it that are more healthy and like I said before I don't tend to hang on to stuff other people thoughtlessly do as much any more - but it's still something people could be more sensitive about and talking about it may prove to be enlightening to someone.

Dee74

I just came here to post a cat video.

biminiblue

...and she's probably got a left ear itch and can't figure out why it's still itchy. Cute, Dee.

Mags1

Bim, sorry you’re feeling out of sorts. I’m careful what I say to people nowadays after asking a lovely young lady I was chatting to, how long had she got before she had the baby......she’d already had it. . I was mortified and apologised, wishing I could’ve bit my tongue off.

Dee, I love cat videos, brill thanks.

Dee74

My work here is done
Night all



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biminiblue

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Mags1

Night Dee

MidnightBlue

Hi, weekenders.

Thanks, Bim)

I am...ok, I think. Though I am not sure that I know what it means.

I am sober though.

I am alive, have food, internet, and going through the next stage crazy times.

I have a very strict deadline at the moment, and come back once I get some breathing space back.


This.

Have a great weekend, everyone.

biminiblue

MB

SoberLeigh

Good to see you, Tetra and Midnight Blue.