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Join Date: May 2019
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Introduction
Hello! I am new here and have 13 days along sober. I am attending as many aa meetings as possible and meeting new people and making those phone calls they suggest. I am still dealing with wreckage from my recent past, some really really bad wreckage, and just trying to push along and do all the things the happy sober people tell me to do. Lots of awkward phone calls lately since I don't even really know what to say/how to talk to or help people yet. I am willing to try and learn though! I would be happy to get to know some members on here! Not sure where to start on this site but I have been going thru threads to find inspiration and get an idea of what it's about, and I believe I will like this community! Thanks so much all for being here! any advice on where to start or how to get the most out of this site and how to help anyone else on here would be greatly appreciated since I am feeling so lost right now.
Life is good
Join Date: Apr 2018
Posts: 4,036
One day at a time. Welcome to SR!
A lost acrynom that may help:
LOST - Looking Over Strange Territory
Sobriety, AA, SR, navigating life in new ways.
People I've met in 12 step groups have become friends and chosen family, as I healed and have been able to relate in new ways. This has taken a while for me.
Congrats on your recovery and these really good, healthy actions you're taking.
A lost acrynom that may help:
LOST - Looking Over Strange Territory
A strange place is one that you have never been to before.
People I've met in 12 step groups have become friends and chosen family, as I healed and have been able to relate in new ways. This has taken a while for me.
Congrats on your recovery and these really good, healthy actions you're taking.
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,497
Welcome, and this forum is a great place to start.
13 days of sobriety is great. And, yes, I think the hardest part of early recovery is dealing with the messes we made. But, it can be done and you can get through it. Just take it slowly and stay focused.
13 days of sobriety is great. And, yes, I think the hardest part of early recovery is dealing with the messes we made. But, it can be done and you can get through it. Just take it slowly and stay focused.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,808
Welcome! 13 days is a great start.
You might want to introduce yourself on the Class of April 2019 thread - there will be folks there with about the same amount of sobriety. Of course, you are welcome everywhere, also!
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...rt-thread.html (Class of April 2019 Support Thread)
You might want to introduce yourself on the Class of April 2019 thread - there will be folks there with about the same amount of sobriety. Of course, you are welcome everywhere, also!
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...rt-thread.html (Class of April 2019 Support Thread)
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Join Date: Oct 2014
Location: Nashville, Tennessee
Posts: 348
Hello, herpadurrp.
Congratulations on 13 days. That's really awesome.
I remember those early days and making those calls. I felt so awkward dialing numbers of strangers. Once I dialed them, though, I'd end up laughing and talking and felt so much better. All of those little things the sober members suggested I do has kept me sober for 21 years.
We all have wreckage from our pasts. It takes time to clean it up.
Keep taking the action you're taking and it'll get better.
Congratulations on 13 days. That's really awesome.
I remember those early days and making those calls. I felt so awkward dialing numbers of strangers. Once I dialed them, though, I'd end up laughing and talking and felt so much better. All of those little things the sober members suggested I do has kept me sober for 21 years.
We all have wreckage from our pasts. It takes time to clean it up.
Keep taking the action you're taking and it'll get better.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,560
It's so good to meet you, herpadurrp. Congrats on your 13 days of sobriety.
I had some serious wreckage too - but when I came to SR I instantly felt less anxious. There was hope here - and plenty of encouragement. You never have to feel alone. You can rebuild your life & be free once more. Welcome!
I had some serious wreckage too - but when I came to SR I instantly felt less anxious. There was hope here - and plenty of encouragement. You never have to feel alone. You can rebuild your life & be free once more. Welcome!
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 2,872
Hello and welcome! And congratulations on thirteen days, that's awesome.
You've found a great place for support.
Just jump in where ever you feel comfortable.
I couldn't clean up the wreckage of my past in two weeks, so I wouldn't try and rush things.
I'm still clearing things up at ten years sober.
You'll find people here at all different stages of sobriety and using different methods.
I used AA too.
So welcome. I'm glad you found us and hope you stick around.
Best to you.
You've found a great place for support.
Just jump in where ever you feel comfortable.
I couldn't clean up the wreckage of my past in two weeks, so I wouldn't try and rush things.
I'm still clearing things up at ten years sober.
You'll find people here at all different stages of sobriety and using different methods.
I used AA too.
So welcome. I'm glad you found us and hope you stick around.
Best to you.
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Join Date: May 2019
Posts: 7
Thank you :-)
Thanks to everyone who responded. My self-pity made me think I might not even matter here but wow people being so supportive means the world right now! I do feel like everyone in my life hates me. I really need advice on how to begin forgiving myself. Are there threads for this?
Without getting into too much detail, my recent actions landed someone who I care about a lot in the hospital. I can't get it out of my mind and can't apologize anymore, or ever take it away. They don't want to hear it from me anyway. I am trying to focus on the reading, my sponsor has told me to journal a lot but anything specific I write down makes me feel worse. and tried to meditate but can't yet. do I just keep praying and going to meetings and making phone calls. it feels like I should be doing more.
Without getting into too much detail, my recent actions landed someone who I care about a lot in the hospital. I can't get it out of my mind and can't apologize anymore, or ever take it away. They don't want to hear it from me anyway. I am trying to focus on the reading, my sponsor has told me to journal a lot but anything specific I write down makes me feel worse. and tried to meditate but can't yet. do I just keep praying and going to meetings and making phone calls. it feels like I should be doing more.
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