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I felt very strange & disoriented in the early days of getting sober. I think it's normal. It's been a way of life for so long - there's an adjustment. It will all be worth it - you're doing great, labgirl.
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Hevyn and hawk thank you for responding. I failed. On the way home I spoke with my SO and he was drinking. I knew it was already in the house so I stopped got some and went home to drink it. Why? I'm so overwhelmed and feel there's no support for anything at home. I just am at the end of my rope I just don't want to be conscious at home. I know this is an excuse and I just need to get a grip. I'm trying or at least think I am. Who knows. Thanks for letting me whine. Back to day 1.
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labgirl,
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That cycle of stopping/starting/stopping is so very difficult, isn't it?
I remember those days well, drinking to fill up the absence of my SO, even when he was right there in the same room. Apologies if you've already been over this, but is there a way you can separate from him for a time? I wish I'd done that but that seemed too drastic. It would have been for the best in the long run. So I know that's probably a really big deal for you as well, but so is quitting drinking. That old saying about putting your oxygen mask before doing anything else is so true. Sober is your new oxygen.
Short of separating, could you maybe do something on the way home to keep you out of danger's way? Go to the gym in the evening instead of in the morning, maybe? I dunno... just trying to think what would help me if I were in your shoes.
I'm quite certain you're trying, or you wouldn't be here to talk about it. Don't doubt your own intentions - you do know what you want. And you deserve it, too.
O
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That cycle of stopping/starting/stopping is so very difficult, isn't it?
I remember those days well, drinking to fill up the absence of my SO, even when he was right there in the same room. Apologies if you've already been over this, but is there a way you can separate from him for a time? I wish I'd done that but that seemed too drastic. It would have been for the best in the long run. So I know that's probably a really big deal for you as well, but so is quitting drinking. That old saying about putting your oxygen mask before doing anything else is so true. Sober is your new oxygen.
Short of separating, could you maybe do something on the way home to keep you out of danger's way? Go to the gym in the evening instead of in the morning, maybe? I dunno... just trying to think what would help me if I were in your shoes.
I'm quite certain you're trying, or you wouldn't be here to talk about it. Don't doubt your own intentions - you do know what you want. And you deserve it, too.
O
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I'm not sure its helpful to say you failed.
If there's no support at home what about posting here instead?
Many people have found that doing that kept them sober or looking at something meeting and people based like AA or SMART Recovery or Lifering?
Don't fall for the addict line that you feel sad and the only solution to sadness is drinking.
No one doubts your sadness or your pain but drinkings is just not a solution - it fixes nothing.
D
If there's no support at home what about posting here instead?
Many people have found that doing that kept them sober or looking at something meeting and people based like AA or SMART Recovery or Lifering?
Don't fall for the addict line that you feel sad and the only solution to sadness is drinking.
No one doubts your sadness or your pain but drinkings is just not a solution - it fixes nothing.
D
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Originally Posted by Obladi 
labgirl,
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That cycle of stopping/starting/stopping is so very difficult, isn't it?
I remember those days well, drinking to fill up the absence of my SO, even when he was right there in the same room. Apologies if you've already been over this, but is there a way you can separate from him for a time? I wish I'd done that but that seemed too drastic. It would have been for the best in the long run. So I know that's probably a really big deal for you as well, but so is quitting drinking. That old saying about putting your oxygen mask before doing anything else is so true. Sober is your new oxygen.
Short of separating, could you maybe do something on the way home to keep you out of danger's way? Go to the gym in the evening instead of in the morning, maybe? I dunno... just trying to think what would help me if I were in your shoes.
I'm quite certain you're trying, or you wouldn't be here to talk about it. Don't doubt your own intentions - you do know what you want. And you deserve it, too.
O
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That cycle of stopping/starting/stopping is so very difficult, isn't it?
I remember those days well, drinking to fill up the absence of my SO, even when he was right there in the same room. Apologies if you've already been over this, but is there a way you can separate from him for a time? I wish I'd done that but that seemed too drastic. It would have been for the best in the long run. So I know that's probably a really big deal for you as well, but so is quitting drinking. That old saying about putting your oxygen mask before doing anything else is so true. Sober is your new oxygen.
Short of separating, could you maybe do something on the way home to keep you out of danger's way? Go to the gym in the evening instead of in the morning, maybe? I dunno... just trying to think what would help me if I were in your shoes.
I'm quite certain you're trying, or you wouldn't be here to talk about it. Don't doubt your own intentions - you do know what you want. And you deserve it, too.
O
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Originally Posted by Dee74
I'm not sure its helpful to say you failed.
If there's no support at home what about posting here instead?
Many people have found that doing that kept them sober or looking at something meeting and people based like AA or SMART Recovery or Lifering?
Don't fall for the addict line that you feel sad and the only solution to sadness is drinking.
No one doubts your sadness or your pain but drinkings is just not a solution - it fixes nothing.
D
If there's no support at home what about posting here instead?
Many people have found that doing that kept them sober or looking at something meeting and people based like AA or SMART Recovery or Lifering?
Don't fall for the addict line that you feel sad and the only solution to sadness is drinking.
No one doubts your sadness or your pain but drinkings is just not a solution - it fixes nothing.
D
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
I am a very "internal" person too, but this list is great as people have been where you are, won't judge you, and give you honest and helpful feedback.
You didn't fail, you just haven't succeeded yet
You didn't fail, you just haven't succeeded yet
I'm on the way home. Planning to visit my mom and cut the grass.
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