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Old 04-15-2019, 02:51 AM   #1 (permalink)
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False accusations led to break up


Screamed and shouted at, been called a lier, a cheat, an evil psychopath.
All my clothes have been put in the spare room and she is trying to kick me out of my own home.
Guess thatís what comes of going on my own to see my terminally ill mum on her birthday.

Iím sure things will work out on our own separate paths.
Iíve seen this coming for a long time.
Better off apart.

So glad I have the clarity to see whatís going on and make the right choices to go forward.
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That's rough mate. Of course I don't know your circumstances, but I have had a few rough breaks on this journey. Kicked out of a couple of relationships, lost a job or two, done a few stupid things. I got through I guess because I put first things first, and my sobriety came first because without it, there would be nothing else.

Sorry to hear about your mum too. I hope she is at least comfortable, and no doubt she will be happy to see you sober.
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I'm sorry snowy but I'm glad you came here for support.

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Old 04-15-2019, 03:19 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Thanks gottalife
Sheís a little more comfortable now sheís changed meds.
Yes sheís very happy to know Iíve quit the booze for good.
But worries that my now ex will take everything and leave me rock bottom.

Told her Iíd be alright. And that if I was still drinking Iíd be on the train tracks now!

Just tired out from it all.
Had a week of it now so I think Iím over the hump.
Going to rest up today and do light duties.
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Feel for you Snowy. Glad your sober to cope and see things clearly. Hope your mum feels better.
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Old 04-15-2019, 09:52 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Must say, think I rewired my resentment receptors.
Not got carried away with the drama of it all.
Slow and steady wins the race.
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I'm glad you're getting through this, Snow. I hope you feel better.
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Old 04-15-2019, 11:57 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Screamed and shouted at, been called a lier, a cheat, an evil psychopath.
All my clothes have been put in the spare room and she is trying to kick me out of my own home.
Guess thatís what comes of going on my own to see my terminally ill mum on her birthday.

Iím sure things will work out on our own separate paths.
Iíve seen this coming for a long time.
Better off apart.

So glad I have the clarity to see whatís going on and make the right choices to go forward.

Mate, that is harsh. Always about for a chat if ever you need it, you've always been in my corner 😊
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Old 04-15-2019, 06:33 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry Snowy that's really tough but I'm glad to see you are handling it so well. Sending you big hugs, keep your chin up you'll be fine
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Of course I don't know your circumstances, but I have had a few rough breaks on this journey. Kicked out of a couple of relationships, lost a job or two, done a few stupid things. I got through I guess because I put first things first, and my sobriety came first because without it, there would be nothing else.
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Old 04-16-2019, 08:48 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Wading through the quagmire.
Asking to be civil and still getting flack.
But I seem to be gaining a little bit of ground.
Have to book in at citizens advice to see where I stand with the house and my daughter.

One step at a time,
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Old 04-16-2019, 09:12 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Hang in there Snowy--keeping calm on your side and reasonable will pay off in many ways.
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Hang in there Snowy--keeping calm on your side and reasonable will pay off in many ways.
Thanks, I lost my cool this morning and called her effing crazy.
Iím a little annoyed at myself for that. But thereís been a lot of pressure on me. A person has a limit to what they can take I suppose.
I did apologise for my outburst.

I will bear your wise words in mind next time I begin to slide.
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Heyyyy snowy, how you doing buddy ? Been thinking about you 😊. One foot in front of the other my friend. Much love
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Old 04-19-2019, 03:20 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I knew a guy who got sober and his wife wanted a divorce after three months of him quitting, she couldnít blame everything on him anymore. He got divorced and stayed sober through it all. Try to keep the turbulence to a minimum early on, donít make major decisions. Maybe awhile with your mom and some time away from each other will give it perspective.
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