New "kid" on the block
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Join Date: Apr 2019
Location: Smithfield, Virginia
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New "kid" on the block
Hello all. I found your site while searching for "how to say no to the addict in my life". I wear a lot of hats: Adult child of an alcoholic; I am an alcoholic; spouse of an alcoholic; and last, but not least the mother of an adult daughter addicted to heroin. Recently, when I got miserable enough, I finally started taking steps for my own recovery. Last week my daughter was arrested on a probation violation. Always before I took her calls, put money on her books, ordered her food, etc. I helped and helped and helped her right back into jail. She is my kryptonite. I am easily manipulated! I know from past experience, if I even speak to her my addiction will kick in and I won't be able to "just say no". She has a hearing tomorrow, and I plan to attend to find out her status. I guess I just want validation that it is ok for me to walk away. She may or may not ever find a life without drugs. But I know I have to let her fall all by herself. Thanks for listening and being here!
Blue Belt
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
Posts: 4,174
Wa,
As a father, I relate to the love you have for your child.
I drank myself into a near death and insanity state. I pulled out.
It hurt like I can't explain.
Your daughter may be too far gone. I do not know.
If you are done with her, go for it. You can always change your mind at some point.
Either way, you can change your mind. What I am saying is the ball is in your court.
You are in the driver's seat.
Thanks.
As a father, I relate to the love you have for your child.
I drank myself into a near death and insanity state. I pulled out.
It hurt like I can't explain.
Your daughter may be too far gone. I do not know.
If you are done with her, go for it. You can always change your mind at some point.
Either way, you can change your mind. What I am saying is the ball is in your court.
You are in the driver's seat.
Thanks.
bona fido dog-lover
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,759
Welcome to the family. 
We also have forums for friends and family of alcoholics and addicts. You might find a lot of insight there.
Do you have any support for yourself? You sound like you've got a lot on your plate.
We also have forums for friends and family of alcoholics and addicts. You might find a lot of insight there.Do you have any support for yourself? You sound like you've got a lot on your plate.
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Join Date: May 2013
Posts: 919
You have so much on your plate.
I feel under qualified to help or comment but I want you to know I read your post and I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you tomorrow.
This is a very good and supportive community so I think you should stick around
I feel under qualified to help or comment but I want you to know I read your post and I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you tomorrow.
This is a very good and supportive community so I think you should stick around
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 2,872
Hello and welcome.
As stated, you sure have a lot on your plate. You've found a great place for support.
I, too, am utterly unqualified to give any advice, but I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and I hope you let us know how it goes.
Best to you.
As stated, you sure have a lot on your plate. You've found a great place for support.
I, too, am utterly unqualified to give any advice, but I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and I hope you let us know how it goes.
Best to you.
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Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 27
Welcome! TBH I think you're doing the right thing. My sister has been on/off pills/heroin since 2000 and she and my mom are completely enmeshed and enable each other. Ive seen it all.
Please take care of yourself, you deserve your recovery in peace
Please take care of yourself, you deserve your recovery in peace
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