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Old 04-07-2019, 04:11 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Old 04-07-2019, 04:37 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Totally understand!

I was exactly where you are now a year ago. In a pit of despair, terror, bewilderment. It is NOT like that today. You have hope now. Hang on to that hope with dear life. You are alive! You are going to have many days now to feel the warm sun and feel the cool breeze. Every day you are sober you will get more well, stronger, more clarity. You will need some kind of plan of recovery so you will be able to live your life without resorting back to your old crutch. Get through these first days and when your mind clears a bit you can explore your options. There are many. Mine is AA mainly but I have many tools now.

You. Are. Going. To. Be. Ok.
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Old 04-07-2019, 04:38 AM   #23 (permalink)
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And you are doing the right thing, you are staying close to SR and posting. That is amazing. Well done.
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Old 04-07-2019, 05:07 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Old 04-07-2019, 05:52 AM   #25 (permalink)
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Old 04-07-2019, 06:54 AM   #26 (permalink)
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Hang in there! You can do this! It will get better
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Old 04-07-2019, 06:54 AM   #27 (permalink)
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It truly does get better day to day. That pointless place you mention is those feelings you suppressed with drink coming up, and that addict part of you saying "see, it's pointless--let's drink" but if you keep going, and feel some of those feelings, they will be released and you'll feel more peaceful and grounded. At least that was what it was for me and many others. We numb ourselves with alcohol, so naturally we are a little "raw" when we stop. This improves quickly so hang in there and keep hydrated, sleep when you feel like it, and eat some good food.

I also found lots of showers, ice cream, and clean bed sheets (I sweated a lot at first) really helpful in the first week.

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Old 04-07-2019, 07:24 AM   #28 (permalink)
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It 16:06 here. Been sleeping a couple of hours - very murky disturbing dreams and at some point I seem to have gone from my sofa to bed. No recollection.
At least it doesnt seem as bad as yesterday. Still sweating a lot. Frightened of taking a bath (I would love to soak in bath) - I tried this yesterday, must have fainted and woke choking on water. I posted this .
But a brief shower will have to be enough. Getting some very dark moments in my head, I will open window again for that breeze. Summer is coming i think and I just feel like breaking down again. I guess its just my mind and body not used to being without alcohol - binge and top-up. That WAS me. but not any more.
I think real problem is after detox. I can get through this but honestly I just have not been without drink for so long. Also I keep playing with idea of taking 2 weeks holiday - fly home and MAYBE go to a rehab? - would take most of my savings but my work would not know. I need to find out more.
Sorry for all the posts I make, but I just need to feel connected.
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Old 04-07-2019, 08:54 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Don't be sorry for the posts. Look how many responses and views you get. We are all here with you. Many of us have been there and can feel what you are going through. Whatever you need to do to get through this is the best thing for you. You can make the money back if you go to rehab. It will probably be a lot more as we become so much more productive in sobriety.
You only have to do this once. Remember how awful it is. This is what alcohol does to us physically, mentally, socially and emotionally. Removing it is a major shock to our systems. Replenish that void with good food, exercise, emotions adventure. Fill with a life full of joy and memories.

You are not alone in this.
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Old 04-07-2019, 10:00 AM   #30 (permalink)
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Post all you feel like--one thing about this site, as Finalround points out, is that we've been there and we understand like nobody else can how hard it is to get those first weeks. But you are on your way to getting them.

If there is a "secret" to success, it's in plain sight--you have to have the will, the unwavering commitment, to stay sober no matter what. That was a lesson I had to learn the hard way through countless relapses, but better late then never

That's the thing that gets you through to the other side and on to rebuilding a good sober life. If you feel rehab will help, go for it. Your life is more important than money.

I didn't have the option of that with my job, but I did have the will. I quit drinking while working "as usual" and also while sharing my home with a still-drinking spouse. Made it harder, but it was do-able because I wasn't going to negotiate my sobriety this time.

There are many paths and no one answer. But wanting it really hard, and being willing to get through the tough parts without buckling and taking a drink, that's the magic, or the work, depending your perspective.

We've got your back. One day, one hour, one minute at a time you can stop for good. And it will get easier, and even joyful and rewarding, the further you go.
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Old 04-07-2019, 10:40 AM   #31 (permalink)
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You wrote me:

Let me Google "[I][B]Write a gratitude list

Could go something like this.

1. I am grateful to be sober today
2. I am grateful my curtains are open today to let the sun in
3. I am grateful to have fresh air coming into my room tosqy[/B][/I]" for you


I have just done this. I don't know if it helps but I have pinned it next to my calendar on the wall. I have a whole side of paper. It sounds silly like 'I am grateful i have enough food in kitchen'. ' I am grateful I have a kitchen'. and so on.. I stopped after 1 sheet of paper. But it does make me think and life could be ok.
Thanks.
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Old 04-07-2019, 10:44 AM   #32 (permalink)
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Great job on day 1, ConfusedGuy.
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Old 04-07-2019, 10:52 AM   #33 (permalink)
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ConfusedGuy, today is my first day. Hopefully with the help of everyone here we can be successful.
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Old 04-07-2019, 11:20 AM   #34 (permalink)
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Hey Anotherexcuse. Keep logged in. Keep posting. If it wasnt for the wonderful support I have been getting here, I dont know if I would be here at the moment. I am detoxing - 2 days in less than 7 hours - They told me 'get rest', 'watch NetFlix!' , try eat something, anything when you are ready and drink Lots of water. stick around!
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Old 04-07-2019, 11:31 AM   #35 (permalink)
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ConfusedGuy, Thank you for the advice. I am currently doing clothes, grabbing a bite to eat, and trying to pick up tips on getting past this.
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Today is my day one as well, ConfusedGuy.

I got your back. It's not all that comfortable, but it's survivable.
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Old 04-07-2019, 11:50 AM   #37 (permalink)
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I'm rooting for you to have another sober day! Post, post, post away. Your posts help me and more people than you actually know.
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Old 04-07-2019, 01:45 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Great job!! For me what helped was affirmations, telling myself over and over that it would get better and it did. I drank lots of water, rested when I could, shower, and Netflix. Sometimes it was difficult for me to concentrate on a movie but I watched lots of episodes of everybody loves Raymond. You got this.
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Anotherexcuse - good to see you back here. There 's no doubt you can do it this time.
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ConfusedGuy, I love the Gratitude List idea. Don't underestimate how a Gratitude List/Journal can change your life. When you begin your day knowing that you will need to write down, at the end of the day, a few things you were grateful for, you mind shifts as it begins to search for the good things.
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