Bossed it 😃😃😃
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Bossed it 😃😃😃
Home safe and sound and sober 🙌😃😃, had a lovely evening. Good food, good company.
However came home early as the girls went to the pub, that was a step to far for me.
Little steps...........
I did feel slightly apprehensive as the drinks order was being taken, sweaty palms, stomach churning, I found myself ordering a coke 🙌 and no one batted an eyelid..
Feeling proud of myself
🙏💖
However came home early as the girls went to the pub, that was a step to far for me.
Little steps...........
I did feel slightly apprehensive as the drinks order was being taken, sweaty palms, stomach churning, I found myself ordering a coke 🙌 and no one batted an eyelid..
Feeling proud of myself
🙏💖
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Originally Posted by Highercall 
Well done for getting through it.
i really can’t see me going to a pub for a long time I think I’d crack.
i really can’t see me going to a pub for a long time I think I’d crack.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
That's wonderful news, Doris. 
Each time we get over one of these hurdles, we grow stronger & more confident.
Each time we get over one of these hurdles, we grow stronger & more confident.
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Good job Doris! My 2 favorite things about going out and not drinking:
1: Don't spend money on drinks means I can overindulge on food!
2: I don't have to worry about "how will I get home".
It's such a freeing experience, and I'm so glad you had fun and BOSSED IT!
1: Don't spend money on drinks means I can overindulge on food!
2: I don't have to worry about "how will I get home".
It's such a freeing experience, and I'm so glad you had fun and BOSSED IT!
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Originally Posted by Doris47
Home safe and sound and sober 🙌😃😃, had a lovely evening. Good food, good company.
However came home early as the girls went to the pub, that was a step to far for me.
Little steps...........
I did feel slightly apprehensive as the drinks order was being taken, sweaty palms, stomach churning, I found myself ordering a coke 🙌 and no one batted an eyelid..
Feeling proud of myself
🙏💖
However came home early as the girls went to the pub, that was a step to far for me.
Little steps...........
I did feel slightly apprehensive as the drinks order was being taken, sweaty palms, stomach churning, I found myself ordering a coke 🙌 and no one batted an eyelid..
Feeling proud of myself
🙏💖
Now just keep repeating it until it gets to the point where it's not even a surprise, when it's just you being strong, in charge, and empowered. Eventually your AV will even stop bothering you with thoughts that you can return to drinking without consequence. And then you can start finding out what you can really do with your life.
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Well said, DriGuy.
And Doris, nice work on being a BOSS! Every time you go out and face that challenge, it will get easier. As DriGuy said, it will become your new normal and you won't even give it a second thought. I remember the first time I went out to a restaurant after quitting - it was a bit nerve-wracking, and I felt so strong and proud of myself for not having a cocktail or glass of wine. After a time, it just didn't even occur to me to drink. So freeing.
And Doris, nice work on being a BOSS! Every time you go out and face that challenge, it will get easier. As DriGuy said, it will become your new normal and you won't even give it a second thought. I remember the first time I went out to a restaurant after quitting - it was a bit nerve-wracking, and I felt so strong and proud of myself for not having a cocktail or glass of wine. After a time, it just didn't even occur to me to drink. So freeing.
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Originally Posted by DriGuy
What an uplifting post! I don't even know you, and I'm still proud of you. And this sort of behavior can provide the same pride and joy the next time and the next time. It will eventually become the new normal and the pride will be replaced by something more akin to sanity, perhaps not quite as bracing, but a quiet confidence in your own inner strength. You've found that.
Now just keep repeating it until it gets to the point where it's not even a surprise, when it's just you being strong, in charge, and empowered. Eventually your AV will even stop bothering you with thoughts that you can return to drinking without consequence. And then you can start finding out what you can really do with your life.
Now just keep repeating it until it gets to the point where it's not even a surprise, when it's just you being strong, in charge, and empowered. Eventually your AV will even stop bothering you with thoughts that you can return to drinking without consequence. And then you can start finding out what you can really do with your life.
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Originally Posted by MLD51
Well said, DriGuy.
And Doris, nice work on being a BOSS! Every time you go out and face that challenge, it will get easier. As DriGuy said, it will become your new normal and you won't even give it a second thought. I remember the first time I went out to a restaurant after quitting - it was a bit nerve-wracking, and I felt so strong and proud of myself for not having a cocktail or glass of wine. After a time, it just didn't even occur to me to drink. So freeing.
And Doris, nice work on being a BOSS! Every time you go out and face that challenge, it will get easier. As DriGuy said, it will become your new normal and you won't even give it a second thought. I remember the first time I went out to a restaurant after quitting - it was a bit nerve-wracking, and I felt so strong and proud of myself for not having a cocktail or glass of wine. After a time, it just didn't even occur to me to drink. So freeing.
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