Big upcoming bachelor's party weekend...
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Glad you posted here. Re read your opening paragraph. Close your eyes. How does the image playing it forward feel?
That is your gauge.
If you feel comfortable, great. If you feel obliged, think a little longer on it. Sobriety is for YOU, no one else.
You’ve dealt with parties with drinking so far, but not of this caliber.
We are here no matter your decision. 😍
Glad you posted here. Re read your opening paragraph. Close your eyes. How does the image playing it forward feel?
That is your gauge.
If you feel comfortable, great. If you feel obliged, think a little longer on it. Sobriety is for YOU, no one else.
You’ve dealt with parties with drinking so far, but not of this caliber.
We are here no matter your decision. 😍
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Only go if you feel ready to go. I thought I could face pubs again, and made it til about eleven then caved, then spent about fifty quid and felt terrible the next day. I’ve now told my other half and my friends that I cannot go to the pub anymore. Not until I am completely and utterly confident and comfortable with it. I’ll miss out on stuff for sure, but I’m willing to do that. Recovery comes first, before everything else. Because if you don’t have this, you won’t have anything!!! If you don’t feel 100% comfortable and ready for it, don’t go. It’s not worth the risk.
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I wish you the best, LG, and I'm not judging you or your sobriety.
But I have been sober for many years and I haven't been to a bachelor party since the day I walked into the treatment center.
I missed one such bacchanal when one of the attorneys in my firm was getting married, which took a lot because these guys were my friends.
But I did and I have stayed sober.
After being sober for a very long time, I still wouldn't dream of going to a bachelor party.
I would hate to see the young women who "work" these parties.
I would want to help them - not look at them naked or worse.
That type of "entertainment" (which is largely female degradation) may not be on the agenda for your party.
We all wish you the best, but you're certainly doing something that most of us on this thread wouldn't do in a million years.
I have had to make a good many sacrifices to get and stay sober and bachelor parties are Exhibit A on that list of things I have given up.
But I have been sober for many years and I haven't been to a bachelor party since the day I walked into the treatment center.
I missed one such bacchanal when one of the attorneys in my firm was getting married, which took a lot because these guys were my friends.
But I did and I have stayed sober.
After being sober for a very long time, I still wouldn't dream of going to a bachelor party.
I would hate to see the young women who "work" these parties.
I would want to help them - not look at them naked or worse.
That type of "entertainment" (which is largely female degradation) may not be on the agenda for your party.
We all wish you the best, but you're certainly doing something that most of us on this thread wouldn't do in a million years.
I have had to make a good many sacrifices to get and stay sober and bachelor parties are Exhibit A on that list of things I have given up.
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Originally Posted by SoberCAH 
I wish you the best, LG, and I'm not judging you or your sobriety.
But I have been sober for many years and I haven't been to a bachelor party since the day I walked into the treatment center.
I missed one such bacchanal when one of the attorneys in my firm was getting married, which took a lot because these guys were my friends.
But I did and I have stayed sober.
After being sober for a very long time, I still wouldn't dream of going to a bachelor party.
I would hate to see the young women who "work" these parties.
I would want to help them - not look at them naked or worse.
That type of "entertainment" (which is largely female degradation) may not be on the agenda for your party.
We all wish you the best, but you're certainly doing something that most of us on this thread wouldn't do in a million years.
I have had to make a good many sacrifices to get and stay sober and bachelor parties are Exhibit A on that list of things I have given up.
But I have been sober for many years and I haven't been to a bachelor party since the day I walked into the treatment center.
I missed one such bacchanal when one of the attorneys in my firm was getting married, which took a lot because these guys were my friends.
But I did and I have stayed sober.
After being sober for a very long time, I still wouldn't dream of going to a bachelor party.
I would hate to see the young women who "work" these parties.
I would want to help them - not look at them naked or worse.
That type of "entertainment" (which is largely female degradation) may not be on the agenda for your party.
We all wish you the best, but you're certainly doing something that most of us on this thread wouldn't do in a million years.
I have had to make a good many sacrifices to get and stay sober and bachelor parties are Exhibit A on that list of things I have given up.
The support and thoughtfulness that we all experience on this website is frankly just astounding. Thanks to everyone who's replied. I'll keep everyone updated and check in if needed
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Echo-ing a few of the thoughts here... frankly that doesn't sound like much fun. Bachelor party... sounds a bit, uh, juvenile to be honest. Especially if the main body of peeps are of the mindset that it's an opportunity to get away from the families and re-capture some of their lost college frat days.
Hope I'm not stereotyping or sounding judgmental. I just envision myself in the same scenario and well, no thanks. I've other ways I'd prefer to spend my time. I guess what I'm saying is make sure you are respecting yourself on this one. You have a right to spend you time however you wish.
Good on you for posting. Keep your guard up.
-B
Hope I'm not stereotyping or sounding judgmental. I just envision myself in the same scenario and well, no thanks. I've other ways I'd prefer to spend my time. I guess what I'm saying is make sure you are respecting yourself on this one. You have a right to spend you time however you wish.
Good on you for posting. Keep your guard up.
-B
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Originally Posted by Buckley3
Echo-ing a few of the thoughts here... frankly that doesn't sound like much fun. Bachelor party... sounds a bit, uh, juvenile to be honest. Especially if the main body of peeps are of the mindset that it's an opportunity to get away from the families and re-capture some of their lost college frat days.
Hope I'm not stereotyping or sounding judgmental. I just envision myself in the same scenario and well, no thanks. I've other ways I'd prefer to spend my time. I guess what I'm saying is make sure you are respecting yourself on this one. You have a right to spend you time however you wish.
Good on you for posting. Keep your guard up.
-B
Hope I'm not stereotyping or sounding judgmental. I just envision myself in the same scenario and well, no thanks. I've other ways I'd prefer to spend my time. I guess what I'm saying is make sure you are respecting yourself on this one. You have a right to spend you time however you wish.
Good on you for posting. Keep your guard up.
-B
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Originally Posted by lessgravity
Sure, I get that. If the trip wasn't in the mountains in a state I live very far from, and I wasn't going to be able to ski for two days - if the weekend was at a casino or some other ugly place I probably wouldn't be going. But it means a lot to the groom and I'll be able to really enjoy so much of the trip.
Assuming it's not a complete ******* of middle aged men trying to recapture their frat days one more time I'm sure it's completely doable - possibly even a great time.
That stereotype though - hard for me not to think about Animal House.
Whatever the case - you know who you are and what you are capable of better than anyone (and no, I'm not implying anything in that comment
) As long as you are at peace with that it's really up to you how you experience the whole thing. With that in mind, I say go nuts, explore and have fun. No point letting booze be the center of attention in any respect really...Best-
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Originally Posted by Free2bme888
Hi LG!
I’m stuck in Denver and I -70 is closed in parts.
Thinking of you......🙂
I’m stuck in Denver and I -70 is closed in parts.
Thinking of you......🙂
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March 5 is our 25th wedding anniversary, we honeymooned at Squaw, there was too much snow back then. We tried to go back for our 25th on the day could pull it off tough from the east coast with the travel days. So much snow out there I’m jealous enjoy
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Originally Posted by Kdon853
March 5 is our 25th wedding anniversary, we honeymooned at Squaw, there was too much snow back then. We tried to go back for our 25th on the day could pull it off tough from the east coast with the travel days. So much snow out there I’m jealous enjoy
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Thanks Ready and dwtbd and everyone. Been said before but can't be said enough, this place is the best. I'm headed to the airport as I write this, mildly trepidatious as I consider the possible volume of booze I may be around the next few days. Not that I'm concerned in the slightest about consuming but rather just the annoyance/outsiderness I may experience. On the other hand, looking forward to some time away and some powder runs. I'll be checking in on this thread next few days as needed. Thanks again.
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