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Old 02-13-2019, 04:01 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Valentines Day Support Thread


Hi guys

Valentines Day can be tricky for a lot of us - especially if you're newly sober.

Those 'attached' have the problem of how to celebrate sober, those 'single' or estranged or mourning a loved one, often have a pretty rough time on this day.

Both sides have to deal with the temptation to drink or use.

Just wanted to reassure everyone that no one needs to do this alone - if you need help - ask for it

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Old 02-13-2019, 04:07 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Thanks for this important thread, Dee.

We are family here and anyone who is struggling a bit, please post. We can help.
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Old 02-13-2019, 04:28 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Tomorrow is the ten year anniversary of my last break up - a violent, horrific one that I wasnít sure Iíd live to see the end of. It made me declare I would never celebrate the day again, and I havenít. Itís my fourth Valentineís Day in my current relationship and we treat it like any other day.

That break up date means freedom to me in a similar way that my sobriety date does.
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Old 02-13-2019, 06:02 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Thanks Dee! Thought I'd stop by with some chocolates for everyone

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(((Bexxed))) I'm glad you were able to escape that awful situation
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(((Bexxed))) I'm glad you were able to escape that awful situation
Thanks for the chocolates and for joining me in celebration of my freedom from that mess, and the mess of alcoholism!

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Old 02-13-2019, 06:31 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thanks for starting this thread. Iíve been thinking about Valentines Day all day & whether it feels like a trigger for me. I didnít think so at first, until I realized I probably havenít ever been completely sober on Valentineís Day before. (Except while pregnant) many years ago.
Iíve been through divorce, ugly relationships, the death of my boyfriend, & have been single quite awhile now. So Iím definitely treading lightly here. Itís nice to know Iím not alone. Cause it sure feels that way. At least this year I wonít be drunk dialing/texting ex boyfriends & regretting it the next day!
Sending everyone a ton of SELF love vibes
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Old 02-13-2019, 06:50 PM   #9 (permalink)
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SELF love! Iíll hydrate to that!

Maybe my sick sniffling self needs a nice hot bubble bath...
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Thank you, Dee. You think of everything.

Purpl - I'll have two of the chocolates, please.
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Iím working tomorrow. I legit hate Valentineís Day!! Ant itís my first one post divorce🙄
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Thanks for the thread Dee! And many thanks for the chocolate Purps!
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Thanks Dee. We aren't celebrating it this year. Happy sober Valentines to those who celebrate it and Happy sober any other day to those who don't.
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Valentine's day..............I choose to love myself 😄
Self love......
Self care......
Staying sober....
As always much love to everyone that struggles....
Together we are stronger
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I used to hate Valentines Day.....now it doesn't bother me.....actually it's nice not having to do anything!

I agree ~ Self love is key! "It's all about me!"

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Happy Valentineís Day! Mr Bonnie and I donít do much to mark the day, but yesterday I bought my kids each a small box of chocolates, which Iíll have sitting out on the counter when they get home after school.

Okay, I also bought a small box of chocolates for myself.

I used to be a big champagne drinker, which is on sale everywhere right now, next to all the candy. Seeing so much champagne bothered me a little around New Yearís Eve, but now I donít really care.
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First Valentines Day that my wife has hardly spoken to me, mainly due to my drinking over the last few months
Anyway I didn't drink today and just preparing for bed
Well done all, see you in the morning.
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I'm single, sober, and happy! Working all day as usual, and then going to celebrate with valentines day tacos.
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Thanks for the 'love'ly thread, Dee!♡
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