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Old 02-07-2019, 05:05 PM   #1 (permalink)
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When are we considered no longer “newcomers” to recovery?


I’m nearing 9 months and still it seems very early days for me!! Would a year be the benchmark for when I’m no longer considered a newcomer? 2 years? 5 years? Is this a personal thing or is there a time when you are stable enough to no longer consider yourself new to this sober way of living.
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Old 02-07-2019, 05:21 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I think it would be a time that you would choose to no longer refer to yourself as a newcomer. But, I don't see it as a label. I've been here for a long time and this is still my favourite forum. This is the place where we get a chance to offer a hand to someone who is lost.
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Old 02-07-2019, 05:32 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm always going to be a newcomer. This is where it all began for me - this is my home.

Congratulations on your almost 9 mos. AmbyMarie - that is wonderful.
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Old 02-07-2019, 05:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Congrats on your 9 months.
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Old 02-07-2019, 05:37 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I really try to live one day at a time, so in a sense, I'm a newcomer every morning.
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Old 02-07-2019, 06:01 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I'd say that the 9 month mark was that moment. The moment I became a former alcoholic. If felt wonderful and I was pleasantly surprised that there was a 9 month chip for such a feat. Super day.
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Old 02-07-2019, 06:06 PM   #7 (permalink)
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As far as this forum goes no rules.
I'm not aware on any rules on what a newcomer is outside this forum either

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Old 02-07-2019, 07:19 PM   #8 (permalink)
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no, no rules.
but i have heard that medically speaking one is considered in stable sobriety after five years.
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Old 02-07-2019, 07:31 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I have almost 4 years and am still a newcomer.
Started using chemicals when I was 13 and am 40 now. Sober life is still very new to me.
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Old 02-07-2019, 07:40 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I love this thread. Thank you, AmbyMarie. Congratulations on your recovery!!

I'm not alcoholic. I am in 12 step programs. My recovery has been in layers. It's a great journey.
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Old 02-07-2019, 07:46 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I've got 9 yrs sober but still come to Newcomers to share and help out. I like to give back that which was so kindly given to me when I was new.
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Old 02-07-2019, 09:55 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Great question thanks for asking it, I was wondering that too

Congratulations on almost 9 months that's amazing
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Old 02-07-2019, 10:02 PM   #13 (permalink)
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The newcomers is great for giving and taking, I’m glad there’s no rules on how long you can post for.
Everybody benefits from it.
Thanks for bringing it up Ambi Mari
Great job on 9 months
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congrats AmbyMarie! Great comments above.

For me, while I knew from day 1 and my first AA mtg that I was done drinking - somehow, some way, I didn't know other than I didn't want to die.

I have 1122 days so 3 yr 1 day in exactly two wks. Putting aside the legit markers of 1,2 and 5 yrs that I do think important, especially in my physical and indeed mental recovery, I was closing in on 2 when I remember thinking, "ok, maybe I don't have to qualify my recovery as a newcomer any more." Now, I just say I'm an alcoholic and when the discussion is about getting started or time in the program or such, I am succinct but conservative - bc whoever got up earlier than I did today has more sobriety than I do.

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Old 02-08-2019, 05:24 AM   #16 (permalink)
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I still feel very new, but also, it feels like alcohol was sooo long ago if that makes sense! I have zero desire for it and almost don’t even think about it anymore! Which is weird because even a year ago, it was what I thought about A LOT!! I never want to look back!! I want the rest of my life to be 100% booze free!! Not another drop!
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it's not about alcohol for me, either- it's about everything else! My thoughts, feelings, actions - how I live my life. Recovery is the backdrop.
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Old 02-08-2019, 05:43 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I definitely still feel new to recovery at about 14 months - is a person new at that age? Is a job still pretty new at that age? Other than perishable food, 14 months is pretty new for a lot of things!
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Due to relapses, I feel like a newcomer. Over 7 months this time. In the past, I have been sober for rather long stretches but I have hit triggers and it overwhelms me. Needless to say, I have known I have had a problem for a long time. I am a work in progress. I have to work on my sobriety daily and SR helps me. I am glad I can come to SR and read and learn. I guess maybe one day I will not feel like a newcomer, but that time is far in the future for me.
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Old 02-08-2019, 07:19 AM   #20 (permalink)
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IDK about newcomers but last time I got sober I stopped counting somewhere around 90+ days and had all but forgotten after a year. This time I can't forget.
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