Amin747

Hey guys!

i have a quick question!
Is It Possible for Alcoholics to Learn to Drink in Moderation? i'm still young and i feel like i can control my drinking again, any advice?

Thanks!!

ReadyAtLast

No. Once you have to try and control it you have already lost control.it gets worse as we get older not better.

least

You can't 'learn' to drink in moderation. You either do or you don't. You can learn it. It's not a skill.

MantaLady

If you can find me an alcoholic who says they can successfully moderate consistently, I’ll show you a liar 🤥

Gettingcloser

What does moderation look like to you?

biminiblue

You ask what we think, but it really only matters what you think.

All of us here have tried and failed at every. single. moderation. trick. in. the. book.

Your mileage may vary, and it is entirely possible you're going to have to learn this lesson yourself. I only hope and pray you don't lose too much or lose it all trying to figure it out.

We are saying it didn't work for us and that for us NOT drinking is the easier softer way.

We'll leave a light on for you.

August252015

No. Not permanently.

Paperbag

No chance.

least

That was supposed to be 'can't'.

Anna

No, once you cross the invisible line, you can never go back.

tomsteve

reread this thread of yours is my advise:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ing-habit.html (Trying to stop my dangerous drinking habit.)

russian roullette is a game im very glad to have given up.

Dee74

I don't think its possible Amin.

I certainly tried everything I could think of to make it work tho

*not drinking til a certain hour
* drinking only in social situations and when that didn't help, drinking only alone.
*not drinking my favourite booze but one I disliked so as to drink slower and less
*alternating with water
*trying to force myself to make the glass last as long as I could
none of those approaches worked, or not for long.

What I had yet to accept was I had a toxic relationship with alcohol - ingesting alcohol changed me and all my goof intent would go out the window.

No time off from drinking would reset me, because abstinence is not control. They are not the same.

Whenever I started drinking again the same toxic relationship started again.

I know you only joined us a short time ago.

If all it took was a week or two weeks of abstinence to solve a years long problem of alcoholism there's be no need for this forum, Amin.

Its just not possible.

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thomas11

Based on the responses, I think you have your answer. I had no interest in moderating. What fun is that.

Dustitoffman

Canuck76

I could never moderate. Even at events where it was demanded such as work events, dates, as a guest in someone's house. I was always drunk at weddings even when I didn't know anyone besides my girlfriend at the time.

I actually never realized at the time. Sure do now that I am full blown alcoholic

Hevyn

Hi Amin - nice to see you here.
I drank 30 yrs. In the end, it was daily drinking - I was completely dependent on it. That was as a result of trying to control the amounts I drank. I wanted desperately to hold on to the 'fun' it once was. I almost lost my life proving it wasn't possible to moderate.

Ihadmyfill

That would be a big NO!

Guener

Quitting the alcohol at a young age rather than living through the cycles of pain that result from drinking for the alcoholic should just motivate you more to stay sober. Enjoy the things that come with a healthy body and mind for the many years you have before you. Perhaps you feel that you can take certain precautions against drinking to excess or from the consequences that alcoholism, progressive as it is, will spare you for a time of what the experience of everyone here will tell you is disaster, but that would just be self-deception.

Zebra1275

Is It Possible for Alcoholics to Learn to Drink in Moderation?

Nope!

Helianthus

Hi Amin

Just as everyone else has already said the answer is a resounding no. I spent years trying to moderate, it didn't work plus it's torture, don't put yourself through it. I deeply regret ever having tried and instead wish I had just put the effort into getting sober all those years ago - don't be like me, give up now.