Stuck at a party no escape
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I need to figure out a way to get my wife to realize I don’t need to show up for these things. [/left][/QUOTE]
Actually I think the only thing you need to figure out is that you have the right and the privilege to decline any situation that jeopardizes your recovery and your serenity.
How your wife handles that is up to her.
Actually I think the only thing you need to figure out is that you have the right and the privilege to decline any situation that jeopardizes your recovery and your serenity.
How your wife handles that is up to her.
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
I need to figure out a way to get my wife to realize I don’t need to show up for these things.
How your wife handles that is up to her.[/QUOTE]
this.
your wife does not own you control your or make you do things.you are your in person who can make your own decisions. Yu don't need permission not to go or permission to leave. If she doesn't like you refusing to go somewhere that is her problem. You don't need to make her understand just stand up for yourself.
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Originally Posted by tekink
I need to figure out a way to get my wife to realize I don’t need to show up for these things.
The only way he heard me is when we started marriage counseling and I told the counselor who then told my hubby (mind you, we were all in the same room, at the same time, hearing the same words) but for whatever reason having a 3rd party tell him worked for him.
It’s made our lives easier to navigate now that he understands where my boundaries lie and also appears to respect my boundaries now.
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