Moderation
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Join Date: Dec 2014
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I started with a 100 day plan and it’s one of the strategies that has helped me stay on track. I’m almost at day 80... don’t want to give it up now.
During this 100 day plan, I have been reading a great book that has provided really good insight. I highly recommend... “this naked mind”. Check it out during your day plan!
During this 100 day plan, I have been reading a great book that has provided really good insight. I highly recommend... “this naked mind”. Check it out during your day plan!
**I'm getting back into fitness/lifting,but when I heard that on a workout 'thing', my mind went straight to AA " **
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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Don’t be fooled by 90 days straight. I’ve been at five months, six months and even 9 months sober and still went back to my old ways. It sucks and I think the best strategy is to have a foolproof plan and to stick to it. I’ve learned from each of my past attempts. I recognize when I’m having thoughts that Made me say F it in times past. I try to tell on myself here as much as I can and to listen to all the good advice. Ive learned so much and it’s becoming clear that I really need structure and consistency tonstick to my goals.
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Join Date: Dec 2014
Posts: 2,966
Don’t be fooled by 90 days straight. I’ve been at five months, six months and even 9 months sober and still went back to my old ways. It sucks and I think the best strategy is to have a foolproof plan and to stick to it. I’ve learned from each of my past attempts. I recognize when I’m having thoughts that Made me say F it in times past. I try to tell on myself here as much as I can and to listen to all the good advice. Ive learned so much and it’s becoming clear that I really need structure and consistency tonstick to my goals.
Edit: and for me to get to 2yr+(minus 1 night) that took structure and working towards building my sober lifestyle(via a plan),just like I had structured and built my drinking lifestyle. NOTHING 'just happens'. I had to be as dedicated to my sobriety as I was my drinking.
Don’t be fooled by 90 days straight. I’ve been at five months, six months and even 9 months sober and still went back to my old ways. It sucks and I think the best strategy is to have a foolproof plan and to stick to it. I’ve learned from each of my past attempts. I recognize when I’m having thoughts that Made me say F it in times past. I try to tell on myself here as much as I can and to listen to all the good advice. Ive learned so much and it’s becoming clear that I really need structure and consistency tonstick to my goals.
The potential tripping point for me, which I made it through, was that after clearing your system and getting past the cravings, you start to feel normal because you are no longer acting like an alcoholic. There's this false sense that you are now a normie. This is a red flag, because in your new found "normality," you can feel like you can now drink like a normie.
But if you are an alcoholic, you can't drink like a normal person. You have bought a nonrefundable ticket on a life long ride. This is where, you can't depend on your feelings as a guide, and this is why alcoholics that recover (permanent recovery) realize they must commit to total abstinence. It's the reason AA builds on a foundation of total abstinence.
I bought it, somewhat grudgingly at first, but I incorporated total abstinence into my plan from the start. I actually don't know what would happen if I tried to drink in moderation, maybe I could. I've never tried it, because after so many years of not drinking, I now know that I can attend parties, go to weddings, or do any of those things where I once thought alcohol was necessary. I now know that it's not necessary. Since I don't miss those "glorious olden days," I have no incentive to go back to drinking, even if I could do it in moderation.
There is not a single doubt in my mind about this being the better life for me.
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Join Date: Dec 2018
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The potential tripping point for me, which I made it through, was that after clearing your system and getting past the cravings, you start to feel normal because you are no longer acting like an alcoholic. There's this false sense that you are now a normie. This is a red flag, because in your new found "normality," you can feel like you can now drink like a normie.
But if you are an alcoholic, you can't drink like a normal person. You have bought a nonrefundable ticket on a life long ride. This is where, you can't depend on your feelings as a guide, and this is why alcoholics that recover (permanent recovery) realize they must commit to total abstinence. It's the reason AA builds on a foundation of total abstinence.
But if you are an alcoholic, you can't drink like a normal person. You have bought a nonrefundable ticket on a life long ride. This is where, you can't depend on your feelings as a guide, and this is why alcoholics that recover (permanent recovery) realize they must commit to total abstinence. It's the reason AA builds on a foundation of total abstinence.
The second time I quit drinking I was sober for three months. Enough time for the acute withdrawal symptoms to be gone and to feel physically normal again. "You see I'm not an alcoholic, I wouldn't be able to stop for three months if I had a problem!" Saturday night rolls around, I'm "bored", so I decide to go out drinking.
It was pathetic how plastered I got. Some people can pretend to moderate for a little while, I failed in my first evening.
Then there were more surprises waiting around the corner. I was about to graduate from a fifth of whiskey at night to drinking around the clock. Who cares right, if it gets bad enough I'll just quit again....oops. My first withdrawal was cakewalk, the second was rough, and now the third had me wondering if I was going to die.
Gee it's almost like every time you start over the drinking, hangovers, and withdrawals get exponentially worse each time. I wonder if there is a term for that?
But who knows, maybe things will be different for the OP.
https://www.alcohol.org/effects/kindling-withdrawal/
For those that don’t know it’s called ‘Kindling’
https://www.alcohol.org/effects/kindling-withdrawal/
https://www.alcohol.org/effects/kindling-withdrawal/
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Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: Chicago
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So I was sober for about 6 months. Relapsed, and then was sober 2 months after that. Since January 1, I have been trying moderation. It has been going well; I made a limit of 3 drinks per day and only to drink on Fridays and Saturdays. So far I have stuck to this limit.
But every morning after I drink, I have woke up from bad dreams and enormous guilt. Most of this guilt is due to lying to everyone in my life except for a couple people about being sober. I could tell everyone in my life that I've decided to moderate, but I don't think this guilt and anxiety is worth it right now.
I'm taking 30 days off from drinking, then re-assessing. I have a lot of stress about this because ultimately I don't want complete sobriety, but I also don't want this guilt I'm feeling. And I am scared that, eventually, moderation will stop working.
So I don't have a plan right now. My plan is to take 30 days off, and then re-assess. That's the best I can do right now, but I still don't like not having a plan.
But every morning after I drink, I have woke up from bad dreams and enormous guilt. Most of this guilt is due to lying to everyone in my life except for a couple people about being sober. I could tell everyone in my life that I've decided to moderate, but I don't think this guilt and anxiety is worth it right now.
I'm taking 30 days off from drinking, then re-assessing. I have a lot of stress about this because ultimately I don't want complete sobriety, but I also don't want this guilt I'm feeling. And I am scared that, eventually, moderation will stop working.
So I don't have a plan right now. My plan is to take 30 days off, and then re-assess. That's the best I can do right now, but I still don't like not having a plan.
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