Weekender Thread 18-21 January 2019
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((((MantaLady)))
It sounds a little like your managers are trying to pass the buck. It is unprofessional that they did not allow you to state the circumstances surrounding your arrival time, especially as you were spending your time trying to reserve a new meeting room.
It sounds a little like your managers are trying to pass the buck. It is unprofessional that they did not allow you to state the circumstances surrounding your arrival time, especially as you were spending your time trying to reserve a new meeting room.
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Good to see you Trach!
Best wishes to you Manta. Hang in tough!
Hard to believe, but recycling hasn’t become mandatory where I’m at. We do our bit voluntarily. I would like to think that I might thereby over the years have contributed to the construction of several buildings, or at least their windows!
Best wishes to you Manta. Hang in tough!
Hard to believe, but recycling hasn’t become mandatory where I’m at. We do our bit voluntarily. I would like to think that I might thereby over the years have contributed to the construction of several buildings, or at least their windows!
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Sorry to hear that, Manta.
A good cry helps to take the emotional pressure off.
And that is exactly why I am so reluctant to get back to a day job despite my already very dire financial situation - it just makes me sick when I think of all the precious time of my life I had already wasted on all sorts of job-related nonsense.
I used to look down on bon vivants who wouldn't get a job to save their lives. Now I am turning into a one. Shame I have no rich relatives to support my new lifestyle)
A good cry helps to take the emotional pressure off.
And that is exactly why I am so reluctant to get back to a day job despite my already very dire financial situation - it just makes me sick when I think of all the precious time of my life I had already wasted on all sorts of job-related nonsense.
I used to look down on bon vivants who wouldn't get a job to save their lives. Now I am turning into a one. Shame I have no rich relatives to support my new lifestyle)
sorry you're having a rough time of it ((Manta))
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Hang in there MantaLady, I concur with the others that they seem to be passing the buck.
Congratulations on your video LiveLikeGold, great stuff. When we don't drink it allows us to get things done instead of it sapping our energy.
Hi Trach!
I THINK I have my rescheduled hernia op date although the letter does not actually specify surgery. I will have to try and find out tomorrow but getting firm information out of our medical profession is like pulling teeth.
Congratulations on your video LiveLikeGold, great stuff. When we don't drink it allows us to get things done instead of it sapping our energy.
Hi Trach!
I THINK I have my rescheduled hernia op date although the letter does not actually specify surgery. I will have to try and find out tomorrow but getting firm information out of our medical profession is like pulling teeth.
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Originally Posted by biminiblue 
Hang on Manta.
You have a 100% success rate of getting through bad days.
Just think how much worse it would be with a gallon of wine added to it?
I know, not helpful.
You have a 100% success rate of getting through bad days.
Just think how much worse it would be with a gallon of wine added to it?
I know, not helpful.
Manta that totally sucks . Can you tell them to jam it and quit?
That’s what I’d feel like doing.... they sound like corporate bullies to me.
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I used to look down on bon vivants who wouldn't get a job to save their lives. Now I am turning into a one. Shame I have no rich relatives to support my new lifestyle)
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Hanks everyone for the hugs, I need them xx
Well today is the day that is going to go one of two ways. I am either going to get sacked or it’s all going to miraculously get better. I think the former is more likely due to how it went yesterday. I talked with my mum for 2.5 hours chewing the fat last night and I can’t accept some of the things they said to me yesterday so I am going to stand up for myself today. They want me to write out my own job description but the issue is I don’t know what they want from me because of their poor communication and the fact they don’t actually know what they want. I am going to put the issue back in their court to be clear with me what they want, give me clear direction and decide what their requirements of me are. I am not taking this anymore. x
Well today is the day that is going to go one of two ways. I am either going to get sacked or it’s all going to miraculously get better. I think the former is more likely due to how it went yesterday. I talked with my mum for 2.5 hours chewing the fat last night and I can’t accept some of the things they said to me yesterday so I am going to stand up for myself today. They want me to write out my own job description but the issue is I don’t know what they want from me because of their poor communication and the fact they don’t actually know what they want. I am going to put the issue back in their court to be clear with me what they want, give me clear direction and decide what their requirements of me are. I am not taking this anymore. x
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hope it goes well for you Manta, & if not, you can deal with whatever the outcome is.
do you have the original job description from when it was advertised? if what they really want is something different, then at least it's then on them to communicate what the role really is.
do you have the original job description from when it was advertised? if what they really want is something different, then at least it's then on them to communicate what the role really is.
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Stay strong, Manta.
Ask yourself "Will it matter 10 years from now?". Probably not.
Keep your cool. Don't take it personally. Imagine that you are defending a wrongly accused person in court and your job is to make the best case possible. Play your own game, not theirs.
Ask yourself "Will it matter 10 years from now?". Probably not.
Keep your cool. Don't take it personally. Imagine that you are defending a wrongly accused person in court and your job is to make the best case possible. Play your own game, not theirs.
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Support Manta. Whatever the outcome, it's for the best.
I've been getting lousy sleep lately. Hoping it will resolve it'self but I am making incremental changes to try and pin point a cause.
I've been getting lousy sleep lately. Hoping it will resolve it'self but I am making incremental changes to try and pin point a cause.
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I just read about what's going on with you at your workplace, Manta, and it reminds me of being called out once by a client over an idea. It was really the client expressing frustration over her own anxieties on how her team was performing, but I was livid at the language that was directed my way. After a couple days things went back to a better place, and I was able to brush off her commentary as mostly nonsensical.
I think that their asking you to write out your job description is infantile, and I would also be firm about having clear explanations of how they see your role in the job. It strikes me as poor management to be in the situation where you found yourself, but I wouldn't be accusatory on that front. Not showing up early enough to a meeting, regardless of the reasons why, being used as an attack point just shows that things are going generally poorly. If you feel you can stick it out, make adjustments to protect yourself from erratic behavior by your manager. I had to walk away from a job once where I evaluated the leadership too ineffective, and if you decide that's necessary just take away whatever lessons you can from how things evolved to the point where they are now.
Hugs.
I think that their asking you to write out your job description is infantile, and I would also be firm about having clear explanations of how they see your role in the job. It strikes me as poor management to be in the situation where you found yourself, but I wouldn't be accusatory on that front. Not showing up early enough to a meeting, regardless of the reasons why, being used as an attack point just shows that things are going generally poorly. If you feel you can stick it out, make adjustments to protect yourself from erratic behavior by your manager. I had to walk away from a job once where I evaluated the leadership too ineffective, and if you decide that's necessary just take away whatever lessons you can from how things evolved to the point where they are now.
Hugs.
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