New Years Weekender Thread 28 December 2018 - 2 January 2019
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In for the last few days of 2018. I got an email from an ex long-term friend's husband and it's been playing on my mind since I got it. You know how breakups go...here are my thoughts, "I'm over it!....Why are you contacting me ten years later?...I know you're drinking, it's 10PM on Christmas. I don't want to talk to you. Do I need to answer? I should answer. No, I don't want to..."
In the end I decided to answer two days later - it wasn't her husband who caused the breakup, he was always nice to me. So I spent 30 minutes composing a non-inflammatory reply.
It started off with little subtle digs at her, you know - trying to triangulate. Old habits die hard in intense relationships with lots of hurt. In the end I left it at three short neutral and kind sentences.
The benefits of sobriety:
Don't engage
Mind my own business
Love everyone (Do no harm)
Let go.
No drinking for me. There sure are a lot of hours in the day to think! I'm happy to make better decisions faster.
In the end I decided to answer two days later - it wasn't her husband who caused the breakup, he was always nice to me. So I spent 30 minutes composing a non-inflammatory reply.
It started off with little subtle digs at her, you know - trying to triangulate. Old habits die hard in intense relationships with lots of hurt. In the end I left it at three short neutral and kind sentences. The benefits of sobriety:
Don't engage
Mind my own business
Love everyone (Do no harm)
Let go.
No drinking for me. There sure are a lot of hours in the day to think! I'm happy to make better decisions faster.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: In the world in my eyes...Somewhere I've never been before...
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For all the singles on the thread - just heard a hilarious line while watching a movie:
"Actually I have relationships. It's long-distance relationships because my boyfriend is in the future".
"Actually I have relationships. It's long-distance relationships because my boyfriend is in the future".
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Location: US
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LOL ~ MB I think I have that quote on my Pinterest page 
Checking in: off work early today and I can feel the av waiting.....it's already thrown a couple of jabs so I need some distraction.....maybe I'll go for a walk.
Thanks everyone for being here
Checking in: off work early today and I can feel the av waiting.....it's already thrown a couple of jabs so I need some distraction.....maybe I'll go for a walk.
Thanks everyone for being here
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Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Hi weekenders! 
Congratulations on 4 years Sao, awesome stuff!
Dee I really love the Lao Tzu quote “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings”. I am really hopeful that 2019 is going to be a better year than 2018 was. I can honestly say that 2018 has been the absolute toughest year of me life
but 2019 is going to be amazing
Welcome Eve and HootOwl and any other newcomers, this is a great place for support!
Petals, my partner partakes as well. He will be getting rip roaring drunk with friends NYE and as we’re travelling, I will be with him. I won’t be drinking. I would rather be elsewhere but will just have to grin and bear it somehow. I will not be doing things like this again, and I plan to make sure that next year I’m in a situation of my choice 2019 is definitely a time for new beginnings, one of which is becoming more assertive (in a nice way) and doing what I want to do rather than just flowing along aimlessly with other people’s plans and being buffeted this way and that. Not any more
So glad you’re feeling good Vman, you’re an inspiration
Love this Bim
“Don't engage
Mind my own business
Love everyone (Do no harm)”
Peace and idleness sounds wonderful MB
Hang in there Purps
Have a great weekend and a safe sober NYE everyone
Congratulations on 4 years Sao, awesome stuff!
Dee I really love the Lao Tzu quote “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings”. I am really hopeful that 2019 is going to be a better year than 2018 was. I can honestly say that 2018 has been the absolute toughest year of me life
but 2019 is going to be amazing Welcome Eve and HootOwl and any other newcomers, this is a great place for support!
Petals, my partner partakes as well. He will be getting rip roaring drunk with friends NYE and as we’re travelling, I will be with him. I won’t be drinking. I would rather be elsewhere but will just have to grin and bear it somehow. I will not be doing things like this again, and I plan to make sure that next year I’m in a situation of my choice
2019 is definitely a time for new beginnings, one of which is becoming more assertive (in a nice way) and doing what I want to do rather than just flowing along aimlessly with other people’s plans and being buffeted this way and that. Not any more So glad you’re feeling good Vman, you’re an inspiration
Love this Bim
“Don't engage
Mind my own business
Love everyone (Do no harm)”
Peace and idleness sounds wonderful MB
Hang in there Purps
Have a great weekend and a safe sober NYE everyone
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About relationships- although there is hurt in things that have been, I have no business being in one- when I am in early recovery. I certainly would not go out with me- I would be so hard to be with.
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Beautiful picture, Sao. Thank you.
I changed my routine a little bit and took a walk, and then took stairs all the way up to my apartment (I live on the 14th floor).
Baby steps)
I changed my routine a little bit and took a walk, and then took stairs all the way up to my apartment (I live on the 14th floor).
Baby steps)
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She is sweet and loving and likes being near me. She's usually right where I am, all day and night. Sleeps next to me at night. Rides in the car with her own seat restraint attached to her harness. She's spoiled rotten! 
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Checking in. Day 20 almost done!
Yesterday was a horrible no good very bad day and no my name is not Alexander . It was seriously the pits. I was convinced today would also be bad but it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Works just been tough. Feeling frustrated I have to work Monday and seems the world has off (including my employer but that’s a whole nother story )
Anyway. Got done work and had to get gas. Av seriously talking- what the heck! Drove past two liquor stores and debated just getting 3-5 little nips of vodka or a mini box of wine. Resisted and got McDonald’s instead haha! Been eating tons of junk food but that’s better than alcohol at the moment. I will get back into eating healthy soon. I did do a 20 minute work out and feel good about that! Also got laundry out away, dishes, dinner, cleaned all the rooms, vacuumed etc and have a load of laundry in the dryer. Played one of my daughters new board games with her and was thinking boy I am glad I’m not drunk right now for this. About the take a hot shower and either have a cup of tea or maybe ice cream or maybe both , lol. Once I have a month sober I’ll cool it on the junk. But for now I thinking putting on a few pounds is worth not drinking!
Yesterday was a horrible no good very bad day and no my name is not Alexander . It was seriously the pits. I was convinced today would also be bad but it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Works just been tough. Feeling frustrated I have to work Monday and seems the world has off (including my employer but that’s a whole nother story )
Anyway. Got done work and had to get gas. Av seriously talking- what the heck! Drove past two liquor stores and debated just getting 3-5 little nips of vodka or a mini box of wine. Resisted and got McDonald’s instead haha! Been eating tons of junk food but that’s better than alcohol at the moment. I will get back into eating healthy soon. I did do a 20 minute work out and feel good about that! Also got laundry out away, dishes, dinner, cleaned all the rooms, vacuumed etc and have a load of laundry in the dryer. Played one of my daughters new board games with her and was thinking boy I am glad I’m not drunk right now for this. About the take a hot shower and either have a cup of tea or maybe ice cream or maybe both , lol. Once I have a month sober I’ll cool it on the junk. But for now I thinking putting on a few pounds is worth not drinking!
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Originally Posted by least 
It's unseasonably warm today so I took Billie for two walks. She loves checking her peemail and even sent one of her own.
She loves checking her peemail and even sent one of her own. 
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