just wondering
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Originally Posted by least 
I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed. 
The holidays can have that effect.
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I'm sorry John I know it can get wearying always being at some appointment or other. Its no fun getting old.
I have found you have to rise above that tho - try to find some happiness and peace in those days you're not being examined poked and prodded...and above all stay sober
Its impossible to keep the right perspective when you're flooding your brain with booze.
D
I have found you have to rise above that tho - try to find some happiness and peace in those days you're not being examined poked and prodded...and above all stay sober
Its impossible to keep the right perspective when you're flooding your brain with booze.
D
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So glad you opened up more about what's
going on in your life John. With each appointment
you've completed then that will be a huge
accomplishment. A sense of relief.
My husband usually has all his doctors appointments
at the first half of the yr. and it has been crazy,
tiring, stressful. Especially if he has any kind of
surgery for his back.
I thank God im healthy and can be there for
him for support and driving, even tho I dont
like driving.
Im not sure where you are in your sobriety
and would like to hear where you are with it
if you dont mind sharing John?
Prostate, dentist, back and heart surgeries,
my husband has been thru it. Me, hip replacement
a few or so yrs back and both of us have survived
and living a better quality of life.
I'll tell you that it does take work on our parts
to get where we are today because it doesn't
come easy.
Sobriety, Faith, Support of SR, willingness,
honesty with ourselves and others, it all has
to work together to achieve a healthy, happy
quality of life.
And....you never have to get there alone
or by yourself.
going on in your life John. With each appointment
you've completed then that will be a huge
accomplishment. A sense of relief.
My husband usually has all his doctors appointments
at the first half of the yr. and it has been crazy,
tiring, stressful. Especially if he has any kind of
surgery for his back.
I thank God im healthy and can be there for
him for support and driving, even tho I dont
like driving.
Im not sure where you are in your sobriety
and would like to hear where you are with it
if you dont mind sharing John?
Prostate, dentist, back and heart surgeries,
my husband has been thru it. Me, hip replacement
a few or so yrs back and both of us have survived
and living a better quality of life.
I'll tell you that it does take work on our parts
to get where we are today because it doesn't
come easy.
Sobriety, Faith, Support of SR, willingness,
honesty with ourselves and others, it all has
to work together to achieve a healthy, happy
quality of life.
And....you never have to get there alone
or by yourself.
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John I know exactly how you feel. I suffer from bipolar disorder and some days atr downright trash. I have had very negative feedback on this forum as well though not recently. Please keep coming back and sharing your thoughts. You can pm me if you like. I get overwhelmed as well.
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Originally Posted by 2muchpain
sometimes when I have a lot going on I get pretty quiet cause sometimes when I tell people what's going on they just say quit complaint or quit feeling sorry for yourself. There is probably some truth to both points by neither one really helps much and sometimes just makes things worse so l usually withdraw for a while until I sort everything out. But even when I get quiet its still nice to know people still remember me.
Personally, I had to find that telling people what was going on was better for me - and hopefully others who care like those of us here for you -would be supportive. Not backhandedly asking - I say that gently, and hope you will keep talking to us.
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Originally Posted by 2muchpain
I'm sure the holidays have something to do with it, but it's mainly all the appointments I've had to deal with. Been going on for around six months now. It's a doctor's appointment, a dentist appointment or an appointment with my opthamologist for my cataract surgery. Just doesn't end. Next week it's another trip to the dentist and than an appointment, another doctor's appointment for a check up to make sure I am fit enough for the surgery than meet with the medical team that will perform the surgery on my prostrate next month. And I won't even go into the post op stuff that I will have to deal with for the two weeks after the surgery. Now I sound like I am complaining, which I probably am, and feeling sorry for myself, which I probably am. But right now, I don't care. John
But the the good news is that you are taking care of yourself and following your doctors advise. The payout in the long run will be worth the suffering today.
Hang in there.
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How is your day going 2muchpain?
Not much going on here for us. We decided
to stay inside where it is warm and dry. Kind
of a dreary, fuzzy rain kinda day. Not freezing
but with the clouds and overcast, it feel too
nippy to be outside.
Got my hot cup of tea and watching Wild Alaska
I have taped. Oh well.....
How are you feeling if u'd like to share?
Not much going on here for us. We decided
to stay inside where it is warm and dry. Kind
of a dreary, fuzzy rain kinda day. Not freezing
but with the clouds and overcast, it feel too
nippy to be outside.
Got my hot cup of tea and watching Wild Alaska
I have taped. Oh well.....
How are you feeling if u'd like to share?
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Originally Posted by aasharon90
How is your day going 2muchpain?
Not much going on here for us. We decided
to stay inside where it is warm and dry. Kind
of a dreary, fuzzy rain kinda day. Not freezing
but with the clouds and overcast, it feel too
nippy to be outside.
Got my hot cup of tea and watching Wild Alaska
I have taped. Oh well.....
How are you feeling if u'd like to share?
Not much going on here for us. We decided
to stay inside where it is warm and dry. Kind
of a dreary, fuzzy rain kinda day. Not freezing
but with the clouds and overcast, it feel too
nippy to be outside.
Got my hot cup of tea and watching Wild Alaska
I have taped. Oh well.....
How are you feeling if u'd like to share?
Hope you enjoy your tea and Wild Alaska. Pretty rainy here also, but beats when I lived in Minnesota! Take care. John
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John, I smiled with compassion and a tiny bit of my learning about the future, and then you talked about the 40s and now. My precious Godfather is healthy and active like you - and the one between him and my non-exercising, eat whatever precious Godmother - who is facing the serious health stuff. He has a tough time accepting that too! As someone in my early 40s who is having only a small bit, yet painful for me, reminder of where I am in this life process, it's too easy to also look ahead and know that stuff is coming.....
Glad you are talking with us! Have a good day (when you wake up on your time
) !
Glad you are talking with us! Have a good day (when you wake up on your time
) !
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John, yes, I have wondered!
I know you have a lot going on.
Please stay strong and know this will pass. Sometimes we go through long phases of sadness and bad life circumstances. This all passes though eventually.
It is ok to express all of your thoughts here even if they are complaints and you feel sorry for yourself. We all do that sometimes.
What can you do to show yourself some compassion and kindness?
Don’t isolate yourself!
I know you have a lot going on.
Please stay strong and know this will pass. Sometimes we go through long phases of sadness and bad life circumstances. This all passes though eventually.
It is ok to express all of your thoughts here even if they are complaints and you feel sorry for yourself. We all do that sometimes.
What can you do to show yourself some compassion and kindness?
Don’t isolate yourself!
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I've really enjoyed reading this post John and I'm glad that I read through the responses and it has been a good reminder for me about the importance of reaching out and touching base....and that life does get busy and has ups and downs...and that it will be ok.
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Actually, I was thinking how lucky I am that I don't have a regular full time job. With all the appointments I've had and two more next week, most bosses probably would probably be getting pretty upset with me by now. Would of taken time off this Friday and next Thursday and Friday. John
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