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Old 12-11-2018, 11:38 AM
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Hello,

Iím back here again convinced that I canít do it. The longest time Iíve had sober was 8 months, but recently Iíve began letting drink into my life. It quickly spirals down into me feeling dreadful and drinking excessively as well as on my own.

Iím embarrassed to be back where I am and could do with some support to make my sobriety stick.

thanks, SSG
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Old 12-11-2018, 11:48 AM
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Originally Posted by sadsadgirl View Post
...could do with some support to make my sobriety stick.
What exactly are you doing for your recovery?
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Don't give up! Try again, and this time, put the same effort into staying sober as you put into drinking.
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Old 12-11-2018, 12:26 PM
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I'm sorry that you relapsed, but it's great that you are back here and working on your recovery. Do you have an idea to add something to your recovery plan?
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Old 12-11-2018, 12:42 PM
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Welcome back, ssg

8 months is fantastic, you did it once, you can do it again!

I couldn't quit permanently until I fully and completely accepted that drinking will never bring anything good into my life.

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Old 12-11-2018, 01:08 PM
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8 months is impressive!

I can't say I've ever made it 8 months -- that's an accomplishment you should be proud of!

I totally get how disheartened and defeated you feel. That's how I've been feeling, and it's the worst.

Maybe we both need strategies. I don't have one yet. Do you?

I think you can do this. I think we both can! Let's try again.
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Old 12-11-2018, 06:35 PM
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Hi Sadgirl and grumpy bear,

You two can do this! Itís really important to have a long term plan for staying sober permanently. Itís hard at first, then it gets easy for a while, then it gets harder again if you get complacent. Thatís what happened to me. I relapsed several times because I thought I was cured. I donít believe we are ever cured from alcoholism. Recovery is a life long process.

I had to change my whole way of thinking and being to stay sober. I started going to therapy, yoga and meditation. I come here daily. I actively reflect on my thoughts that underlie urges to drink. I find replacement thoughts and behaviors.

I am more spiritual now.

Some folks join AA. I did not. I practice twelve steps on my own. There is no one path for everyone. But everyone should have some path or program that they follow on a daily basis.

Once you start getting sober, you wonít be as sad or grumpy!

Hope to see you both around here more
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Old 12-11-2018, 06:48 PM
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The first thing you can do is make today day 1 and join the Class of December thread! You will find non-judgemental people who are in the exact same stage of recovery as you. Best of luck.
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