Back to consuming 6-7 drinks a night and getting very little out of it
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Well sure, it should be... In all honesty what I'm finding hardest is killing the time of the evenings. FYI I'm a shift worker and find it hardest when I've got a day off (or just a random evening off, either of which is likely to be antisocial for 9-5 workers). I'm kind of an introvert and enjoy watching movies alone but not all the time and sober!
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Hi Tetrax. I'm glad you posted.
I felt the same when I picked up again after a sober spell. It really did nothing for me. I kept waiting for the old euphoria to kick in. It was never coming back. Thanks for your advice to stay aboard.
I felt the same when I picked up again after a sober spell. It really did nothing for me. I kept waiting for the old euphoria to kick in. It was never coming back. Thanks for your advice to stay aboard.
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Tet,
Bordom equals craving. Everything equals craving. There was/is no easy way out.
I had to suffer.
Suffer now or suffer exponentially worse with each relapse.
Booze is as serious as a heart attack.
I don't believe the hype.
Thanks.
Bordom equals craving. Everything equals craving. There was/is no easy way out.
I had to suffer.
Suffer now or suffer exponentially worse with each relapse.
Booze is as serious as a heart attack.
I don't believe the hype.
Thanks.
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Join Date: Oct 2010
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when i first got sober i had to write a list of what i liked. i honestly couldn’t remember what i liked other than booze. i went way back to my childhood and included really basic things like “books” and “taking a walk” and “drawing”. it was like starting over. but the list keeps growing the longer you stay sober. and think of all the money you will save. i found a calculater online where i could add up how much i usually spend on booze. this is crazy but true: ive been sober now for 8 years and it says i’ve saved $47,000. i mean could that even be true? i think it must be. and that is a low estimate! find little things to keep you going.
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Originally Posted by thomas11 
I've said this before but I believe it to be true....boredom is the enemy and we have lots of it in early sobriety. Good news it goes away and opens up so many new doors.
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Here are some interesting articles on boredom
Boredom[/B]
Why Boredom Is Anything but Boring - Scientific American
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...coping-boredom
https://web.archive.org/web/20180317...boredom-blues/
https://www.theguardian.com/commenti...lege-free-mind
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
I don't want to be condescending or dismissive but really guys boredom is one of the easiest things to beat.
I quit drinking but at a subliminal level still expected my fun to be laid on for me like it was with the bottle. Open a beer, instant 'fun'
Fun doesn't happen like that sober - you have to get up off the couch and do something, find something, create something.
be useful, be meaningful, be productive.
Cherish that free time as an opportunity not as a ball and chain
D
Boredom[/B]
Why Boredom Is Anything but Boring - Scientific American
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...coping-boredom
https://web.archive.org/web/20180317...boredom-blues/
https://www.theguardian.com/commenti...lege-free-mind
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
I don't want to be condescending or dismissive but really guys boredom is one of the easiest things to beat.
I quit drinking but at a subliminal level still expected my fun to be laid on for me like it was with the bottle. Open a beer, instant 'fun'
Fun doesn't happen like that sober - you have to get up off the couch and do something, find something, create something.
be useful, be meaningful, be productive.
Cherish that free time as an opportunity not as a ball and chain
D
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Yep, been there done that. I’m definitely staying on the sober train for good this time.
Great replies here about boredom. What I felt mainly in early sobriety is a restlessness. Maybe that’s part of boredom? I spent so much time drinking, thinking about it, getting it and planning and sneaking around, I did not know what to do with myself when I stopped. I became more responsible at home and work. But I also had to find some new hobbies! I started running. I also started doing art projects.
I think we also need to learn to just be still. We are in such a fast paced world. No one knows how to just be anymore. I do meditation every day now and that has really helped to settle me down.
I hope you’ll get back on the sober train!
Great replies here about boredom. What I felt mainly in early sobriety is a restlessness. Maybe that’s part of boredom? I spent so much time drinking, thinking about it, getting it and planning and sneaking around, I did not know what to do with myself when I stopped. I became more responsible at home and work. But I also had to find some new hobbies! I started running. I also started doing art projects.
I think we also need to learn to just be still. We are in such a fast paced world. No one knows how to just be anymore. I do meditation every day now and that has really helped to settle me down.
I hope you’ll get back on the sober train!
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