Misc72

That's what you have told me in the past to help with my urge that has just hit me like a freight train!

May I have permission to drink SR?

biminiblue

Absolutely no.

Do something else. Set a timer for 10 minutes and in that 10 minutes, declutter a room. Throw stuff away and put stuff away.

Eat something.

Take a walk. If that isn't an option, do 50 jumping jacks and 50 body weight squats.

You know you don't need it and it will end badly.

If someone did something that upset you, talk it out!

Coldfusion

Well, it's a free country, but if you are an alcoholic, it's not a good idea to drink.

Think about the consequences.

Have you worked on a plan at all?

MantaLady

Well done for posting Joy! That is what SR is and the community is here for, when that urge hits sometimes you just need others to help you find the strength to get through it. Cravings will come and go and that is the point, that strong urge will only last for maybe 10 minutes and then it will be gone....so....to add to what Bim has beautifully pointed out:

Go for a walk
Clean out a drawer or cupboard in the house that needs sorting
Make some pancakes and throw a bit of banana and honey on it
Read a chapter of a book
Dance like a mad woman to your favorite song in the living room
Call a friend, no need to tell them anything if you don't want, just call to say "hello, how has your day been today"
Have a bubble bath
Look through recipie books and chose something to cook that evening
Do some gardening

Keep strong, you can ride through this! xx

joandmelandhan

Joy the fact that you have come here shows that you know that it is never a good idea for people like us to drink. Not one sip ever again. That's not to say that huge cravings won't hit and it sounds like you're in the middle of one right now.
I had a list of things that helped on days like that. Silly little things really but they broke the moment and took the intensity out of the situation. Things like take a shower, eat something, drink a pint of water, cry, call my mum, post on SR, watch a docu on alcoholism...….
You will feel great tomorrow once you have gotten through today I can guarantee that. Get your head on the pillow sober tonight please. Nothing else today matters. Take care xxx

nez

I give you my permission to not drink.

Outonthetiles

You know my answer.

ScottFromWI

You don't need anyone's permission to do anything ( or not ). But you do have to accept the consequences if you do choose to drink.

Remember that "urges " or "cravings" are simply thoughts in your head. You have 100% control over how you react. Choosing to drink in response to an urge means that you willfully choose whatever might happen if you do. Hangovers, drunk communications, DUI's, whatever they might be - you have to accept that those things are of your own doing, even if they aren't your intent.

Kaily

Sorry Joy but Permission is declined.

Misc72

You all never disappoint! Thank you so much! I have sober plan(s), funny thing is sometimes these urges are so powerful it's like a hiding out in a lil tent on the beach when a Tsunami strikes. Not much protection right? I had to dig DEEP inside and thanks for the personal support of a great sober friend, I was able to ride it out!! It is passed now, however I hope that others will continue to post on this thread so I can always go back and be reminded and know that I'm not the only one in this situation. Love to all!! xoxoxo

Misc72

For once I'm happy to not get my way. xoxoox

MantaLady

Bonniefloyd

PhoenixJ

you know what needs doing, Joy......with awareness- there is choice.

support to you

dwtbd

I think YOU did get YOUR way( and YOU did that), IT didn't get ITs way ( and YOU can always be happy about that )

BlownOne

Play the tape forward a bit. You know how things turn out when you DO drink, right?
Find something to occupy your mind for a bit. The urge will pass.

Dee74

I'm glad you worked through it Joy - what does your plan look like?

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Misc72

My Plan:

My Why I want to stop
Things that are better than alcohol
How to deal with urges and triggers
My Dreams and Goals
My Bad drinking experiences
Journaling
Hobbies
Physical Fitness
Diet
Self Care
Meditation
Reading lots of books
Daily Gratitude
Music
SMART, Rational Recovery, Sexy Sobriety, This Naked Mind, SR, Club Soda Alcohol Free, etc. etc. etc.
And so much more, it's pretty devastating to go through all this work and feel solid only to question everything in the drop of a hat. I work on my recovery every day. And still cravings...

You know I've gone in and out of sobriety. I just want it to take once and for all.

Dee74

Good plan

Sometimes I think we think 'good' recovery means never wanting to drink - and that just wasn't true for me for the first few months.

I thought about drinking - but I never gave in, I used my plan - and that I think is the key.

Thoughts are thoughts - it's what we do with them that counts.

You stayed sober - you did great

I actually don't think it's devastating to have cravings - they reminded me that this was real and I was going to have to work hard.

It got a lot easier over the years but I still remember those early days

If I didn't have cravings I might have taken my foot off the gas a little...

ManInTheArena

Now THAT looks like a plan. Written out like you did, it is actually a very beautiful thing. Nice