Weekender Thread 09-12 November 2018
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Hmmm, I have not given as much thought into what I'm going to do this weekend as I usually have by now, so I'll come up with some ideas to help me stay focused.
* Get the rest of the things that I will need to adopt my two kittens the week after next.
* Go to my parents house for one day to make them lunch
* Re-read another chapter in Living Sober
* Think about two to three things that I can do to put in an application for a stipend for a research project
And get whatever rest I need to be recharged for next week, that is often on my list and helpful. I like all of these things! I hope that everyone here has a lovely weekend and feels gratitude for the time to do whatever moves them to be happy.
* Get the rest of the things that I will need to adopt my two kittens the week after next.
* Go to my parents house for one day to make them lunch
* Re-read another chapter in Living Sober
* Think about two to three things that I can do to put in an application for a stipend for a research project
And get whatever rest I need to be recharged for next week, that is often on my list and helpful. I like all of these things! I hope that everyone here has a lovely weekend and feels gratitude for the time to do whatever moves them to be happy.
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Morning everyone! Hangover free and two weeks sober today and my AV rewarded me with an awful drinking dream 😑 Been having a lot of trouble sleeping this week but I feel like that’s par for the course. I also haven’t gone to the gym since Tuesday so that probably has a little to do with it. I felt relieved when I woke that it was just a dream. Now to relax a little and get ready for the craft show. Love the puppy pics! My kitty is laying on my face as I type this after annoying me at 4am for food.
Guener, SO excited for you and those kittens!!
Manta, your morning sounds lovely. I’m glad you were able to do some self care. Stay focused on the present. Things have a way of working themselves out. Beat that AV down with a stick and enjoy your day.
Kiki, congrats on 52 days!! Funny how the AV conveniently leaves out certain details. It just wants to get your foot in the door. Ugh. Hot cocoa, hot apple cider, or tea sounds way better for a chilly day than alcohol.
Aight I gotta get my butt into gear for today. Will check back in this evening. I hope everyone here has a wonderful day!!
Guener, SO excited for you and those kittens!!
Manta, your morning sounds lovely. I’m glad you were able to do some self care. Stay focused on the present. Things have a way of working themselves out. Beat that AV down with a stick and enjoy your day.
Kiki, congrats on 52 days!! Funny how the AV conveniently leaves out certain details. It just wants to get your foot in the door. Ugh. Hot cocoa, hot apple cider, or tea sounds way better for a chilly day than alcohol.
Aight I gotta get my butt into gear for today. Will check back in this evening. I hope everyone here has a wonderful day!!
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Hi, weekenders.
Glad to see you've been chatty here.
And welcome to all new weekenders, and I see many.
I've just back from my boxing & kickboxing Saturday workout, so need some time to catch up with you.
Later.
Glad to see you've been chatty here.
And welcome to all new weekenders, and I see many.
I've just back from my boxing & kickboxing Saturday workout, so need some time to catch up with you.
Later.
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Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Manitoba
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Morning all! Happy Sober Saturday.
Ukulele class today followed by Ukulele shoping. Not drinking is profitiable and i'm thnking about an electric ukeulele as a two year soberversary / christmas gift to m'self.
Ukulele class today followed by Ukulele shoping. Not drinking is profitiable and i'm thnking about an electric ukeulele as a two year soberversary / christmas gift to m'self.
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Originally Posted by MantaLady 
Morning weekenders! It’s very early Saturday morning and I am sat here with a cup of tea procrastinating about getting out for a walk! I’ve been a little stressed for the last few weeks with applying for jobs and getting an offer of one but need to pass the vetting process, I have a DUI and this might mean the job offer is withdrawn. I have started to get back into bad habits, obsessing about what might or might not happen (not within my control so need to stop that!). I have not been meditating or exercising and I have been isolating and not eating great food to fuel my brain and body.
Over that last few days my AV has been quite vocal and saying “I need to get steaming drunk just for one night and stop the next day” and other similar lies. I absolutely know where this road goes, it always ends in the same place and I don’t want to go back to “screwed up manta town”, no siree!
Anyhow, just venting and getting this out of my head so I can make some room for a bit of clarity and motivation. Hope everyone is doing good xx
Over that last few days my AV has been quite vocal and saying “I need to get steaming drunk just for one night and stop the next day” and other similar lies. I absolutely know where this road goes, it always ends in the same place and I don’t want to go back to “screwed up manta town”, no siree!
Anyhow, just venting and getting this out of my head so I can make some room for a bit of clarity and motivation. Hope everyone is doing good xx
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Sober Saturday morning never gets old.
Manta, good job writing about it. Old habits die hard, I tend to go to self-destruct mode catastrophising when things don't go just right too. I'm looking for a job too, and my mind plays tricks on me as well. I'm much better than I used to be at letting stuff go (acceptance) and moving forward, but I do get those thoughts sometimes. I used to have a little clipping on my refrigerator:
Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.
There will be a job for both of us.
I joined the ranks last night with popcorn and old Greys Anatomy shows.
Andyh, that video. Daaaaawwww.
Manta, good job writing about it. Old habits die hard, I tend to go to self-destruct mode catastrophising when things don't go just right too. I'm looking for a job too, and my mind plays tricks on me as well. I'm much better than I used to be at letting stuff go (acceptance) and moving forward, but I do get those thoughts sometimes. I used to have a little clipping on my refrigerator:
Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.
There will be a job for both of us.
I joined the ranks last night with popcorn and old Greys Anatomy shows.
Andyh, that video. Daaaaawwww.
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Joy57 - I understand the mixed feelings with having a HS senior and looking ahead to their impending departure for college. My son is a freshman in college now, and a year ago I was you - sober, feeling angst about his time with us ticking away and balancing a sense of dread with trying to take it all in and savoring all the "lasts". It is a sadness countered with happiness for where they are and what they've accomplished, but I get the pondering of what's next for you.
Unfortunately I caved in July and drank after many months sober, mostly because I couldn't take the thought of my best friend leaving. I still regret not being fully present his last 6 weeks home. Nothing awful happened, but I didn't deal with it well, and alcohol was a wasted, empty crutch. He's doing great away (go Badgers), and I couldn't be happier for him, but this relapse lasted four months. It's been very hard to get back on my feet, but I'm a week sober today. I'm so glad to hear that you're focused on enjoying every moment until August, and it does get easier. You've got a lucky son who will have all of you present until then, but please stay sober for you.
Bonnie - hope your weekend is going well. If I follow your naming convention my porn handle would be Schultzie Muskogee - catchy, no?
Otherwise started my weekend at a cold, soggy soccer game. Now time to start gathering my leaves...
Great to meet everyone! Enjoy your Saturday.
Unfortunately I caved in July and drank after many months sober, mostly because I couldn't take the thought of my best friend leaving. I still regret not being fully present his last 6 weeks home. Nothing awful happened, but I didn't deal with it well, and alcohol was a wasted, empty crutch. He's doing great away (go Badgers), and I couldn't be happier for him, but this relapse lasted four months. It's been very hard to get back on my feet, but I'm a week sober today. I'm so glad to hear that you're focused on enjoying every moment until August, and it does get easier. You've got a lucky son who will have all of you present until then, but please stay sober for you.
Bonnie - hope your weekend is going well. If I follow your naming convention my porn handle would be Schultzie Muskogee - catchy, no?
Otherwise started my weekend at a cold, soggy soccer game. Now time to start gathering my leaves...
Great to meet everyone! Enjoy your Saturday.
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I woke up early from an excellent and fully invigorating sleep.
I had the verve and stamina to cook breakfast for myself: a piece of authentic Polish kielbasa and a summer squash sauteed in butter, light
salt, and pepper.
For lunch I've got a big tub of spinach to shrink down to 1 cup's worth (sauteed in butter with light salt and pepper, of course)!
I had the verve and stamina to cook breakfast for myself: a piece of authentic Polish kielbasa and a summer squash sauteed in butter, light
salt, and pepper.
For lunch I've got a big tub of spinach to shrink down to 1 cup's worth (sauteed in butter with light salt and pepper, of course)!
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Guener — I cant wait to hear about the kittens! I have an 11-year-old kitty myself, as well as a 5-month-old lab puppy. This might seem silly, but my puppy is one of the reasons I want to be sober. He requires a lot of interaction and exercise, and it’s hard to do when numbed out on wine. Anyway, very excited for you!
BB — I love the rocking chair analogy.
Gilmer, your breakfast sounds amazing! Did you make enough for everyone? I’m back to doing low carb, so I’m all about the meats and especially veggies.
Very catchy porn name Chaisson! I like it! And a week sober? That’s awesome. I look forward to being able to say that too. You are doing this.
(I hope I replied to the right people, since I’m on my iPhone.)
im about to go for my walk. It’s really cold today, temps in the upper 40s. I’m wearing two pairs of pants, two sweaters, a jacket, and a hat. And I’m procrastinating. Going now ...
BB — I love the rocking chair analogy.
Gilmer, your breakfast sounds amazing! Did you make enough for everyone? I’m back to doing low carb, so I’m all about the meats and especially veggies.
Very catchy porn name Chaisson! I like it! And a week sober? That’s awesome. I look forward to being able to say that too. You are doing this.
(I hope I replied to the right people, since I’m on my iPhone.)
im about to go for my walk. It’s really cold today, temps in the upper 40s. I’m wearing two pairs of pants, two sweaters, a jacket, and a hat. And I’m procrastinating. Going now ...
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That first week is huge, Chaisson. I couldn't believe I had seven days IN A ROW without a drink. Sad but exciting!
Now I hold on to my 4+ years like the beautiful gift it is. It's precious. I won't go back for any reason, even though my crazy thoughts still go there sometimes.
Congrats on Weekend #1. May they stretch out into infinity.
Now I hold on to my 4+ years like the beautiful gift it is. It's precious. I won't go back for any reason, even though my crazy thoughts still go there sometimes.
Congrats on Weekend #1. May they stretch out into infinity.
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Originally Posted by Chaisson
Joy57 - I understand the mixed feelings with having a HS senior and looking ahead to their impending departure for college. My son is a freshman in college now, and a year ago I was you - sober, feeling angst about his time with us ticking away and balancing a sense of dread with trying to take it all in and savoring all the "lasts". It is a sadness countered with happiness for where they are and what they've accomplished, but I get the pondering of what's next for you.
Unfortunately I caved in July and drank after many months sober, mostly because I couldn't take the thought of my best friend leaving. I still regret not being fully present his last 6 weeks home. Nothing awful happened, but I didn't deal with it well, and alcohol was a wasted, empty crutch. He's doing great away (go Badgers), and I couldn't be happier for him, but this relapse lasted four months. It's been very hard to get back on my feet, but I'm a week sober today. I'm so glad to hear that you're focused on enjoying every moment until August, and it does get easier. You've got a lucky son who will have all of you present until then, but please stay sober for you.
Bonnie - hope your weekend is going well. If I follow your naming convention my porn handle would be Schultzie Muskogee - catchy, no?
Otherwise started my weekend at a cold, soggy soccer game. Now time to start gathering my leaves...
Great to meet everyone! Enjoy your Saturday.
Unfortunately I caved in July and drank after many months sober, mostly because I couldn't take the thought of my best friend leaving. I still regret not being fully present his last 6 weeks home. Nothing awful happened, but I didn't deal with it well, and alcohol was a wasted, empty crutch. He's doing great away (go Badgers), and I couldn't be happier for him, but this relapse lasted four months. It's been very hard to get back on my feet, but I'm a week sober today. I'm so glad to hear that you're focused on enjoying every moment until August, and it does get easier. You've got a lucky son who will have all of you present until then, but please stay sober for you.
Bonnie - hope your weekend is going well. If I follow your naming convention my porn handle would be Schultzie Muskogee - catchy, no?
Otherwise started my weekend at a cold, soggy soccer game. Now time to start gathering my leaves...
Great to meet everyone! Enjoy your Saturday.
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Has anyone ever heard of Aligot ?
It's a dish from my area here in france (cheese potatoes and garlic) . We are having it for supper tonight yummy...
Mini vman is away for pyjama party sleep over. Mrs Vman wanted to go out for a meal or to the cinema but I was not on for it at all... I think we will just go on popcorn and Netflix later tonight instead.
Any Netflix suggestions welcome
It's a dish from my area here in france (cheese potatoes and garlic) . We are having it for supper tonight yummy...
Mini vman is away for pyjama party sleep over. Mrs Vman wanted to go out for a meal or to the cinema but I was not on for it at all... I think we will just go on popcorn and Netflix later tonight instead.
Any Netflix suggestions welcome
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Vman, you'd have to narrow down your and the Missus' Netflix preferences just a bit. Plus I think France and the U.S. have very different choices to view (?)
I have 500 titles in my Netflix queue. I tend to watch short one hour documentaries on nature or history alongside favorite sitcoms or TV dramas. Movies not so much. In the U.S. the movie choices on Netflix aren't that great IMO. A lot of violent and dark things.
I have 500 titles in my Netflix queue. I tend to watch short one hour documentaries on nature or history alongside favorite sitcoms or TV dramas. Movies not so much. In the U.S. the movie choices on Netflix aren't that great IMO. A lot of violent and dark things.
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Cheers Bim. We are going to go with a british series (BBC) called Doctor Foster... There are 2 seasons so that will keep us going
Stay strong and sober folks.
Goodnight weekenders
Stay strong and sober folks.
Goodnight weekenders
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Hello weekenders. Day 11 for me.
I’m not the greatest at navigating this site and sometimes I get really confused about where I’m reading and who is who....plus I’m on an iPhone so I think it makes it a lot harder from what I’m reading.
My hubby is packing up right now to go hunting for the rest of the weekend it’s a long weekend here in Canada. I just want to make sure that I don’t drink this weekend as I will be alone all weekend.
I have chronic pain so that limits how much activity I can do and also sitting a lot doesn’t help me either. I’m also still recovering from a total knee replacement iso right now I’m just riding my stationary bike.
I Usually ride 30 to 60 minutes a day so I think that’s pretty good.
anyway I just wanted to check in.
I will try to remember HALT and to play the tape forward when the A/V comes and whispers in my ear.
Also will post if it gets to be too much.
Maybe I’ll try an AA meeting this weekend.
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Evening, weekenders.
I've had a nap, done some writing. And I am going to go to bed earlier today because I am in need of a good sleep.
The neighbours above are having a huge row. I hope they will be done soon, otherwise I'll need to find my earplugs.
Sunday is usually day off from the gym, but our judo trainer (I am not doing judo, she is just in our boxing class) told that she is playing water polo on Sundays and lured me to try it. And the trainer is a member of the national Olympic team! So I promised to go.
To all those who is struggling with unsolicited AV visits - it will go away eventually, and things are never that bad and hopeless as it pictures.
Sober life is real life.
Good night, weekenders.
I've had a nap, done some writing. And I am going to go to bed earlier today because I am in need of a good sleep.
The neighbours above are having a huge row. I hope they will be done soon, otherwise I'll need to find my earplugs.
Sunday is usually day off from the gym, but our judo trainer (I am not doing judo, she is just in our boxing class) told that she is playing water polo on Sundays and lured me to try it. And the trainer is a member of the national Olympic team! So I promised to go.
To all those who is struggling with unsolicited AV visits - it will go away eventually, and things are never that bad and hopeless as it pictures.
Sober life is real life.
Good night, weekenders.
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