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Old 11-08-2018, 09:46 AM
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Relapsed after 18 months

I am back. I was so happy for a year and a half and then drank. I thought I could manage it but I can’t. I picked up right where I left off. Been on a bender ever since. I feel absolutely terrible this morning. So sick and tired. So depressed and remorseful. Anyway just saying hi and I need you guys.
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Old 11-08-2018, 09:59 AM
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And we need you! Glad you are back, there is power in "we". I couldn't do this on my own, a lesson that I had to learn the hard way.
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Old 11-08-2018, 10:29 AM
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So glad you are back....and thank you for sharing.
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Old 11-08-2018, 10:55 AM
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I'm sorry your going through this, I too have relapsed after 6 or 8 months sober, and like you, I was feeling so good and accomplishing so much....What led up to this? Was it brewing for awhile or did it hit you out of the blue?
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Old 11-08-2018, 10:57 AM
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Start again, and change your plan to prevent relapse in the future.
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Old 11-08-2018, 11:19 AM
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Old 11-08-2018, 01:25 PM
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Welcome back Cleopatra! What helped you stay sober during those 18 months?

I had many daybines in the past as well. I found that truly focusing on recover, and a plan and not just not drinking really helped.
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:11 PM
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Welcome back Cleopatra

any ideas yet on what you might do differently this time?
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by wildflower70 View Post
I'm sorry your going through this, I too have relapsed after 6 or 8 months sober, and like you, I was feeling so good and accomplishing so much....What led up to this? Was it brewing for awhile or did it hit you out of the blue?

it it had been brewing for a while. We booked a trip to Hawaii and thought it would be a great idea to try drinking again! SMH
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:28 PM
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More meetings, more posting, more focus on my health. I got complacent
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Old 11-08-2018, 04:00 PM
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You recognise you have relapsed and are on a bender. The question is how bad do you want the relapse to be? And what are the potential consequences?

My advice is put it behind you don't beat yourself up and get sober straight away.

Good luck.
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Old 11-08-2018, 05:51 PM
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Happy you are back. I had achieved 18 months of happiness too a few years back. It has been next to impossible to achieve that again but I'm here and I'm determined and happy you are too!

Dee has something on sober plans and I'm hoping he sees this to send us the link. It was helpful and I just can't find it. xox
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Old 11-08-2018, 05:58 PM
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Hi Cleopatra. I did the same thing - thought I'd give moderation a try. Surely I would never overdo it again, right? It took me a very long time to get back on track. I'm so glad you are back with more determination.
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Old 11-08-2018, 07:13 PM
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Hi Cleopatra, I had many relapses because I thought I could drink moderately again. One relapse actually was completely out of the blue. It was like I was in a dream walking in my sleep. For a time I was able to moderate but ended up right where I was before and worse eventually. I agree with what others have said. It really takes more than having a goal “just not drinking” for long term. I think we all risk getting complacent after a while. It’s easy to forget the last bad drunk or rock bottom or whatever made us want to stop in the first place.

I was sober about a year and half and started having drinking thoughts again over some life stress. I started coming back here to SR and they saved me from a relapse. I’m sure of it. I realized that I need to work on my sobriety (and emotional sobriety) every day for the rest of my life. Ive done therapy, yoga, meditation, exercise. I needed to work on better coping skills through life ups and downs. Because just because we are sober, life’s proble,s don’t all go away, only the ones from drinking. Every problem is made worse by drinking. Alcohol gave me only minutes of short term relief and immediate gratification but hours, days, etc of grief and problems.

I am almost two years sober now and I guard my sobriety with everything I have now. Life is so much better without alcohol!

I hope to see you around here while you get back on track.
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Old 11-08-2018, 11:09 PM
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Old 11-09-2018, 05:17 AM
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I got complacent

Yep, that happened to me after several years of sobriety.

The problem for me is not the booze, it's the thinking that occurs between my ears.

Glad you made it back!
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Old 11-09-2018, 03:02 PM
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Happy you are back. I had achieved 18 months of happiness too a few years back. It has been next to impossible to achieve that again but I'm here and I'm determined and happy you are too!

Dee has something on sober plans and I'm hoping he sees this to send us the link. It was helpful and I just can't find it. xox
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...very-plan.html (What exactly is a recovery plan?)

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Old 11-09-2018, 07:49 PM
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Thanks for that Dee! Yes..
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Old 11-09-2018, 11:38 PM
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Old 11-10-2018, 09:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Highercall View Post
You recognise you have relapsed and are on a bender. The question is how bad do you want the relapse to be? And what are the potential consequences?

My advice is put it behind you don't beat yourself up and get sober straight away.

Good luck.
Not bad! No thank you. I’m on day 3 now. Still tired. Hangovers and withdrawals were a bit worse this time.
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