Michelle4110

I was so happy yesterday. I got my boyfriend into a rehab place,and had arrangements made to drive him about two hours away. I walked him in and I was so happy that he was going. Today,about 30 minutes ago he called and was back in town. He left. I’m so heartbroken honestly. Now everyone is mad at him for obvious reasons. I’m pregnant and only wanted to help him. He took off walking I have no idea where he’s at. This just takes such a huge toll on me. Im mentally and emotionally exhausted. How do I help people like him? I would love to see him clean. I have just done all I can.

trailmix

Hi Michelle, sorry for the terrible time you are going through.

Please remember the 3 c's - you didn't Cause it, can't Control it and can't Cure it.

You might want to check out the Family and Friends section of sober recovery, lots of threads that you might find helpful there:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/

Also the stickies at the top of the forum are helpful, you might want to start with these ones if you are interested:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)

Anna

Hi Michelle,

I'm sorry for your situation but there is not much you can do to help your boyfriend. I hope he makes the decision to live a sober life.

You might like to check out AlAnon in your city as a support for you. Above all, take care of yourself and your unborn child.

Mango212

(((hugs)))

http://www.al-anon.org/

A family can be two people, mother & child.

I've heard Al-anon referred to as a "good parent club", as it helps us have new life skills in both self care and all areas of our lives. Many double winners, single parents, friends, long-time SO; all are welcome.

least

I'm sorry he's not helping himself. There's not much you can do, he has to want to get clean for himself. Take good care of yourself and your unborn baby.

tekink

There is nothing you can do for him except let go.

HTown

wow, you helped get him there and he left? do you have family that can help you, local support? you should change your number and go no contact. he has made his choice and it is not you. you deserve so much more.